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anonymous
writes:i have cheated on every guy i have been with. when i met my partner i promised him that i would not cheat on him because i really did not want to, but i did. not once but three times in 9 years. he found out and now we are trying to work it out. i dont know why i do it so how can i help him understand why i done it? Reply to this Question
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (12 November 2007):
 Hi,
Please dont run away. You will only start the whole cycle over again. Meet guy, cheat, split up.
You have found someone who is prepared to stay with you, running away will not solve anything. You need to stay and show him that his faith in you is worth it. He wouldnt be staying with you unless he thought you could work things out.
The first thing to do is spend as much of your free time as possible with your man. Be his best mate, his confidante, that's what relationships are for, its you and he against the world.
So its time to confirm his faith in you and set yourself on the track to being a faithful couple.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you to everyone who has answered my queston you have helped now i just need to know how to build a relationship with this guy(the one i cheated on) when all his trust for me is gone or do i just cut my losses and go on?
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reader, Collaroy +, writes (7 November 2007):
Hi,
at least you are honest about it. The first thing I would suggest is to not put yourself in situations where you can cheat. i.e. dont go to bars by yourself,or with the girls if it ends up the same way everytime.
Secondly, I think most people who cheat like you have very low self confidence, cheating is a way to boost your feeling about your self - 'someone fancies me and wants to sleep with me so I am worthy'.
I believe there are sex therapists out there, perhaps you should go see one.
You are lucky to have a partner who is prepared to work with you on this, its now up to you to do your best to repay that faithfulness.
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reader, dapone 1  +, writes (6 November 2007):
 Hello.
I think that you should rephrase you question and add more details of the events that made you cheat,because we do not know you in person i would be wrong to to guess, otherwise you may receive some very strange replies.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2007): I cheated before and it was about self worth - basically I didn't feel good enough to be honest it sounds weird but is worth you considering. It takes love and commitment and strength to be faithful - maybe you feel low at the moment. It could be that you have issues in your relationship and it is good to hear you are working through them.
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