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writes:I need YOUR help...I'm female and in my early 20's. I am completly in love with another woman approximately 10 years older than me (please don't question it - I never knew love until I met her). I've never felt this way before about anyone - male/female. I'm so confused because I don't know how to handle this anymore. All I do know is she is playing on my mind, ALOT! We've become a lot closer in the last 9 months or so, and sometimes I drop by to hers to say hello! She always seems happy to see me and always invites me in, where we end up talking for hours. When it's time to go, I feel so empty, and just wish I could let her see how I feel about her. I wish I could hold her and be there for her, and receive the same in return. I have my suspicions about her sexuality, but I know nothing for sure... She's currently single and says she's happy that way, but I just get this vibe off of her, as if she's holding back as much as I am. But then again, am I being rational?? Or am I taking her on her every word and action???Bottom line is - do I get this off my mind and just tell her, or keep smut and say nothing? I can't forsee how she may react...Oh what to do....Please help me out, I need as much advice as I can get right now. Reply to this Question
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (9 November 2007):
 Hi,
all I say is tread carefully. If she is 10 years older than you surely she wouldnt be ashamed of admitting her sexuality .
But then again, in America I know there are many communities that a very backward in their values so maybe the threat of alienation is stopping her from "coming out".
With a guy it would be so much easier, but girls really like their heart to heart talks, so I guess there really is only one way to find out, tell her!
What have you got to lose, maybe you will be a bit embarrassed if she rejects you but at least you won't be walking around thinking about it all the time.
good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2007): i think u should tell her your emotions and ask her about her sexuality!
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reader, whiteshadow  +, writes (9 November 2007):
 im bisexual and telling another girl you like them is nto the easiest situation but you really have too.Maybe have a drink in the hosue together and tell her you need to speak about something. tell her you would never want to risk losing a friendship as you think alot of her but you have feelings for her and see ehr response. If she rejects you in any way. Either take it light hearted or tell her that is fine and you just wanted to know what the situation is. GOF OR IT!
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