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writes:My boyfriend has got money and not willing to take the money out and help me when I really need it. I just feel that is not love. My elderly mum is in hospital in Hong Kong and I don't have enough money to get a ticket to visit her. This upset me and I've been talking to him. He is the only person that can help me out but is not helping me. All he says is it's a lot of money. I just find he has no heart. Money is above everything. I love this man but find it hard to accept this. Please advise.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2007): He has what money? Are you saying he is loaded, or are you saying he has something in his bank, but not sure how much?
Yes, it's understandable to feel that it seems like he doesn't love you (enough) to give you the money you need to travel back to see your mom, but lets give him the benefit of the doubt. Is it possible that he needs his money for something - something that keeps his security afloat?
I try to imagine why I would not give my girlfriend money to travel back to see her hospitalized mom, and I wondered if you've asked him for stuff before? How many times have you visited your mom because she is hospitalized? Has your boyfriend given you money before? Has your boyfriend given you money before to fly back to Hong Kong, and how many times? Also, how long have you been with your boyfriend?
Unless your boyfriend is a heartless person, since I have no idea what he does for you outside of this matter, I don't quite see why he would hold back, unless you have shown him that he needs to hold back.
What do you think?
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (9 November 2007):
 Hi,
He sounds mean. A sick family member should always be a priority,if you partner cannot see this it is obvious where his priorities lie isnt it?
I just couldnt imagine telling my partner NO if she needed assistance for a sick family member. She would look elsewhere for a more considerate partner and I wouldnt blame her.
Let you partner count his pennies, he obviously is trying to break the bank so on his deathbed he can be proud that he's got a bunch of money to take to heaven with him.
We are not talking about 10's of thousands here are we, I'd dump this selfish a-hole.
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reader, selflove-always-first +, writes (9 November 2007):
 So you love him, but feel bad if he don't help you with his money. I understand your mom is sick, but that don't give you any right to think is his job to rescue or help you in your situation. I'm sure you have more options for money (i.e. a second job, a loan, play the lottery) but you don't want. That is so not classy. Is easiest to put presure on him, Why? Love yourself honey.
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