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writes:My GF hack into my yahoo address and found out I belonged to many porn related groups. She feels I've cheated on her. How can I regain her trust? As it stands where splitsville.
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reader, Bernster +, writes (15 November 2007):
Bernster is verified as being by the original poster of the questionFirst thank you for you replies.
I know some people object to porn. My GF however discribes herself as sexually open so I assumed it would ok. Plus, I could stay away when things were going good but when things were bad. Bad meaning once a month she get stress out and tell me a had to move out then a couple days later she wouldn't want me to leave her side even to go the restroom.
I have contact a few sourses for sex addictions. So I'm seeking help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2007): I don't think there is much you can do. I think alot of guys don't realise or don't want to realise that looking at porn or having a private virtual sexual life is cheating. If that is what you want then you shouldn't be in a relationship just to keep up appearances. That is you using a girl. And that will catch up to you. If you like fake virtual worlds then I recommend you buy your self a blow up doll and take her out to dinner and marry her instead. That way you will be happy and you won't be hurting real live human girls.
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (13 November 2007):
 Sorry mate,
Were you in porn sites where you actually communicated with women? If so I can imagine she will find it hard to forgive. You have broken her trust and while you may not actually meet this women you are still communicating and in a way cheating.
But if you merely watching porn, maybe give her some time and demonstrate to her how much you appreciate her. Flowers,small gifts,write a personal letter saying how much you love her. Basically you will need to show some change of behaviour.
If it is just you looking at porn and she has left you for that, it is a little hard for me as both me and my wife like to look at porn so we can't see the harm. But there are plenty of woman ( and men to! ) that object so strongly they find it unforgiveable.
You dont give too much information so its a bit hard to advise.
good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2007): dude that is gross yeah she has all the reason for u to cheat on her because if your hitting you little friend yeah u are cheating on her and just get over the porn that fake crap and go appreciate your women and treat her right and get off the porn
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