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writes:i'm in a relationship with the man of my dreams and he really wants to have "hit it from the back" i'm afraid it'll hurt but i want to give him what he wants. is there anything i could do so it wont hurt or hurt less Reply to this Question
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reader, ashley jade  +, writes (9 November 2007):
hey hun. how about you be honest with yourself your not ready to do this or you might never be am only 18 and me and my boyfriend would never try this i wouldnt find it very plesent you could always try different possitions theres thousands. only do this if you want to not what he wants its completely up 2 you. x
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reader, gmapeaches +, writes (9 November 2007):
 Sexual experimentation can be fun for everyone.. BUT you need to be ready and I can say that doing something like that should be with someone you are commited with. You don't say how long you two have been together.. I would say that someone who wants this too soon in a relationship is more than likely just looking for sex. If you do not have a problem with that have at it.. but if what you are looking for is "LOVE" this is probably not your guy. as for if you decide to go with it.. work your way up.. use lubrication.. have him work a finger maybe then two.. see how you like it.. I have had some experience in this and can say that if properly excited.. in the heat of hot passionate sex.. can be enjoyable for both.. but if you are not ready, completly willing.. painful.. and you can hurt for a while afterward too. the most important thing i can say to you.. if your scared don't do it.. i told my daughter since she was a little girl. if a boy is trying to convince you to do something and you are not sure.. just walk away because one day you will meet someone who you will not question the desire to do EVERYTHING with.. licking someones toes seems gross.. but the right guy and it will never be a question you want to lick his toes.. good luck honey.. i think you are too young for this type of sex but only you can decide what is right for you.. just don't do anything you don't want to do..
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (9 November 2007):
 I am unsure what you mean by that, but I assume we are talking about backdoor sex.
You are so young, you need to know that there are men out there who after a while insist on sex only that way. They have all sorts of issues these guys and you really have to decide if he respects you or just wants to use you to fulfill his sexual fantasies. I suspect the later.
Sex should be enjoyable not something you trade for his affections.
In any event I cannot see why there are men who prefer sex this way, as far as I'm concerned the big V is god's gift to mankind and should be respected as such.
Don't do anything you are uncomfortable with, if he tries to force you that will tell you what he really feels about you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2007): Don't do what does not feel confortable to you. Love yourself first. As for trying you could I have and enjoy it very much. But remember ony if you want. As for the pain it goes away but advice to you: Don't do it with every guy you date, save this for a husband or potential husband, otherwise if you give him everything he wont commit to you.
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reader, whiteshadow +, writes (9 November 2007):
 i suggest you try it yourself first then if that hurts imagine 4 times bigger however if you think it is ok go for it. If it was me i would'nt do it. It is meant to pleasure you both.not just one person and to me it hurts! :(good luck
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