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writes:A survey for the men: How important is the quality of sex in the choices that you make for a relationship to stand long term. Perhaps a younger pretty girl, not so experienced or good in bed vs. an older woman who is very experienced and lusty. Would you consider a woman who is older? How important is humor to you? Can you list what attracts you? Reply to this Question
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reader, killer club7 +, writes (16 November 2007):
 i prefer younger and is not expirenced and humor can win them sometimes
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2007): The most important thing to me is that woman enjoys having sex with me. If she is enjoying it, is relaxed and has real orgasms, then it is great for me. If she shows that she appreciates what I am trying to do for her, then it is even better. All of my partners have been the same age as me, within a year or 2. I guess that I really like ones about the same age as me. I would, however, consider ones either younger or older than me. Experience really doesn't matter as much as her enjoying sex. My wife had 10 partners before me, but really had little sexual experience, as most of her partners just used her for sex and didn't care much for her feelings. She didn't really learn much from any of them. One of my other partners was more experienced in bed, but I enjoyed having sex with both. I cared for their feelings and they cared for mine. That is what made it great. My wife was only my second sexual partner, so we both learned together. I think that is the best experience - to learn together. We have done so much more together than either one of us had done with anyone else.
She does not have a great sense of humor, but I do. I make comments that make us both laugh. We are both happy with that.
Another thing that will keep sex between 2 people happy for many years is variety. Try new things - vibrators, feathers, fur handcuffs, whatever. We have done all of these together, but never with anyone else.
Learn together, care for each others enjoyment and try new things. That is near perfect.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2007):
The ideal is as little previous sexual experience as possible but still as sexually-adventurous as possible.
When men say they "don't want inexperienced women," it's not that they REALLY don't want inexperienced women. They do. What they really don't want is women who won't have sex with them, women who will put too much emotional baggage onto the sex, or women who aren't very good at it when the do have sex.
Most men really just tolerate sexual experience in their women so that they can avoid those negatives.
Sense of humor is good, especially when you're both laughing at the same types of things. Personality is very good.
Attitude matters more and more the older that singles get, because both genders seem to get more and more impatient & baggage-filled as they get older on average.
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reader, Ponungalungb +, writes (15 November 2007):
 "The most important thing though, a bubbly warm girl who can smile with her eyes and make them sparkle." I'll drink to that . . . .
Good conversation and a good sense of humor add up to make an enjoyable mate. If she's a good kisser and likes a slow, smooth, passionate ride, all the better . . . no matter if she's 21 or 61. The sex things can be worked out. You can't fake a sense of humor or a personality.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThat's it guys, good answers! Keep 'em coming!
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reader, SamuraiRick +, writes (14 November 2007):
 Let’s answer the humor part first. It’s not that important to most guys when it comes to a sexual partner. But sure being with a woman with a sense of humor is cool and good company, but in bed... not so important. To my knowledge Jessica Alba has the sense of humor of an end table, but that doesn't make her any less sexy.Certainly a woman with personality, especially if you're talking long term, is very important. But for men physical attraction is of primary importance, more than woman want to believe. Personally, I am attracted to women who take care of themselves, dress nice and put on some makeup. But that’s with woman of all ages. So what about the age thing? Pretty young girl vs. experienced older girl. You're not going to like my answer, but it’s both. Yeah, both. No, I'm not talking about a threesome here, but the suggestion is a nice fantasy.With a pretty young girl, we can teach them and would be happy to teach them...! With an older girl that’s been around the block, there a lot to like too, not so much flag-waving to give directions. But the reason I really say both...and I speak for a lot of guys here....it’s really a variety thing. This may come as a shock to many women but basically we guys are cavemen...yeah, it’s easy to go from one woman to the next without thinking much about it. Why is it that in some cultures there are men married to many wives, and not the other way around? Because that’s the way we are! Yes ladies we are pigs, that is our nature, and to understand us is to understand that.This is why when we men settle for one woman, one very special woman, it’s actually very meaningful. And when he is true to that woman and loves her completely he is going against his sexual nature which is to have a variety. But still, even when we men are in that one good relationship our eyes wander to other women. Live with it girls, we were just made that way, but we still love you.
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reader, Uncle Trev  +, writes (14 November 2007):
The older option without doubt but I tend to see the personality before the age. I prefer larger over smaller, taller over shorter, Older over younger, Lusty over lifeless. A good sense of humour is important as it relaxes the whole scenario.
The most important thing though, a bubbly warm girl who can smile with her eyes and make them sparkle.
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (14 November 2007):
 Hmmmm. o.k here's my list.
I definitely prefer women over 30 to under. For one, she will have a lot of experience (hopefully!) and this will come out in the bedroom. You only have to see a snippet of Paris Hilton video to demonstrate why older women are better. I think the term starfish is appropriate to that young lady. Sex in my 20's was nowhere as good as in my 30's.
An older lady will also be more self confident and this will reflect in the sense of humour, young girls are so on guard about everything that they often lose the ability to spot a joke let alone laugh.
As for physical attraction, a full figure definitely, a nice well rounded bum ( something to grab onto! ) is the big attraction for me. Breasts not so important, big is good but I would take tiny breasts and a healthy rounded butt anyday over a small bum and big boobs.
Basically, it doesnt really matter, my tasts are totally different from the other poster, but I think you will find most guys prefer the experienced lover over the young insecure bimbo type.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2007): Older, experienced and lusty without doubt. However, finding a woman with all three attributes could be the stumbling block!
My list of attractive features. Blonde. A pleasant smile that comes from within. Wicked sense of humour, which when similar to mine is a bonus. Good legs that look even better in stockings and heels. Pert bum (or butt to you) that fills a pair of tight jeans. Narrow waist. Medium boobs where the nips point slightly upwards. Would look good wearing a dustbin bag.
Would I consider an older woman? well, I've got one and I wouldn't swop her for all the tea in China. And it doesn't get any better because I've just described her!
Phil
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2007): physical attraction is #1
sense of humor is #2
emotional attraction is #3
age is not relevant so long as #1 is satisfied.
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