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writes:I’ve been watching X-rated movies with my wife. More than we used to do, she's more relaxed watching it. She keeps hinting at how my penis is smaller than those guys we see on porn. Almost every time she has to make a remark like "wow, look at the size of that!" It’s starting to bug me. I'm thinking she might be tempted to cheat on me. She's only been with three guys before me and she's 26. She measures me and I’m six inches, I thought I was normal! But she still calls my penis "peewee" and the "little guy” I have asked her if she would cheat on me with a bigger guy. She says no. But she pauses as if she has to think about it!! Does that mean that she would, but won't admit it?
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reader, Sweet-thing  +, writes (20 November 2007):
 Take it from someone who knows -- bigger is not always better. There are some positions that are downright impossible with a well-endowed guy, so I think it's just the "idea" of seeing a large penis that has her mind roaming. I do think your wife is being a bit disrepectful to you, to compare you and make those kinds of comments. That is the exact kind of thing women hate men to do -- compare them to a porn star and make them feel like they don't measure up. Hence the reason alot of women won't watch porn with their men and don't even want them watching it alone. No one likes to feel inadequate. Most of those men have been "enhanced" the same way women have had enormous breast augmentations. Nothing is real in the porn industry and if it's affecting your sex life, or your self esteem then maybe it's time to stop watching so much of it. Why ask for trouble? If you're worried about your wife cheating on you with someone who has larger equipment, maybe you need to bring her back to reality by showing her what you can do with what you've got. Porn can be stimulating to some couples, but to others, it infects the relationship and creates problems. Why would you intentionally want your woman to fantasize about another man while she's having sex with you? Images can be a powerful tool if used correctly -- to others it can backfire. You have to decide if you are enticing your wife's curiosity about other men a little too much, or if she can handle that temptation. Good luck.
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reader, bigbenlondon +, writes (20 November 2007):
 I'd go along with Collaroy's advice there. Just to reassure you your size is average! The men you see in porn are almost always never average or anything like it - in the world of porn big is best, in the real world things are scaled down just a bit.
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reader, valentinesday +, writes (20 November 2007):
she is still in her 20's, an age where she might tease a lot and play with your emotions. Im not sure if she will cheat or not but toying with your mind by saying "little guy,peewee" sounds typical for a young wife who wants to play with her man's head. i used to do that to my ex, play with his head because i know it gets to him but i never cheated on the fella.
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (20 November 2007):
 Hi,
It's just the same as us guys perving over a nice big pair of boobs. It's eye candy, it doesnt mean that we are going to try and sleep with every girl who has a big pair of boobs.
Just enjoy it with her, I bet she gets horny as hell afterwards and you are the one who benefits.
But if it starts to really get to you, then stop watching porn together or alternatively watch porn where the male participants arent so well endowed.
Maybe a quiet word in her ear that referring to your dick as peewee isnt the best way to go about reasurring you that she's not a size queen. I'm sure you will only have to tell her once. I thought all the girls knew this!
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2007): My boyfriend has a regular sized penis, 5.5 - 6 inches just like yours i bet. and while a bigger one would be nice, thats definitely not the only reason im with him. i would NEVER cheat on him with someone just because they had a bigger penis!! what really matters is that you all make each other happy in bed. try asking her if there is anything new she would like to try in the bedrroom. Make sure she knows that nothing turns YOU on more than seeing HER turned on and sexually satisfied. if u keep her well satisfied she is unlikely to cheat. I'd suggest vibrators, feathers and nice surprises every now and then like candles, dirty texts/notes. On another note, you may want to tell your wife that it bothers you when she says those things. i always try to make my man feel secure and say how much i love his penis and how its the best. hope this helps!
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