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writes:Before I had a profile I wrote anonymously about the fact that my boyfriend is still friends w/ his ex and I found out that he went to eat lunch w/ her two days after my birthday, which he did not tell me about because he didn't think it was important since it was a "business" lunch. At the time, he calmed me down enough to where I was ok with the fact that they were to remain friends. They had broken up 2 and a half years ago and she is his only ex-girlfriend that he is still friends with so he said. He also informed me that he has never cheated on anyone because he doesn't want to have to go to Heaven one day and have to explain himself. So, that comment just helped me trust him that much more. The story today is ... this past Friday night, my boyfriend threw a party for his company and the exgirlfriend came. When she got there she came up to me to introduce herself, but instead of shaking my hand, she gave me a huge hug and this my boyfriends mother gave her a present in front of me! And the rest of the night (across the room from me), she hung out w/ his mom and step dad w/ their arms wrapped around each other the whole night! Then finally at the end of the night as I was walking out to leave, the ex took it upon herself to get all up in my face and told me that she loves my boyfriend, she is in love w/ my boyfriend, and "I will always have a relationship w/ him." she said. My boyfriend said he is not going to talk to her any more and I told him that if he does I will be out of his life in two seconds. I am still so mad! Even though he told me he isn't going to have anything to do w/ her any more, why am I still so mad!?!? What do I do? I know tonight he is going to call his mother and let her know that he doens't appreciate how she acted in front of me. I also just can not wait till he calls his ex to let her know that her little relationship is over. Oh, I forgot to mention that I found out that the ex didn't even start contacting his mother and trying to become her friend till a year after they broke up and now she has become best friends w/ my boyfriends brothers baby mama. She is trying to mess w/ this family and I can't stand it any more!!
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (20 November 2007):
 Good result dude,
hope it works out for you.
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reader, Hopeful Romantic +, writes (20 November 2007):
Hopeful Romantic is verified as being by the original poster of the question First of all I wish to thank all of you for your input and advise!
I do have an update ... last night, my boyfriend brought home to me the 3 page email she sent to him to let me read it. In the letter she swore on her sons life that she was telling the truth ... she mentioned that I hit her and called her names. He also showed me the response he gave her, which is ...
You are incorrect of your account Friday evening. You where totally out of control and a lot of people saw it and commented on it. You hung around me like a girlfriend, that is why I shrugged you off at the bar, I was sick of it. And yes you were drunk, whether you want to admit it or not. So I am sorry you feel the way you do about my girlfriend (for over a year now) but she is a great person. So with a number of different accounts of the evening, including my own, you where in the wrong. You might of wanted to spend more time with your date then following me around.
Also, I was told by 6 people including my brother that she did not slap you but push you away from her after you told her that you still loved me.
I agree with you on one point, it is time to end our friendship, sorry this is in an email but I refuse to argue or discuss what you think happened. That was the biggest night of my life and you sure did not treat it so.
He also called his mother and informed her of this. He said, “Mom, I am cutting her out of my life 100% as of today and I am going to let you decide what you want to do, but I tell ya mom, the B**ch is F’en psycho!”
Apparently his mom agreed that the girl should be cut out and also commented on the fact that she thinks the girl must be somewhat mental because my boyfriend (her son) told her the whole story as to how the girl was acting all night and what she said to me. Etc.
Oh and as for the present, his mom deeply apologized and said that was a gift that they meant to give her a LONG time ago, and her husband found that at his store and decided, “Hey, we’re gonna see her tonight, might as well give it to her.” And it was just really bad timing she said and she apologized.
I of course wish they wouldn't have given her anything at all, but I don't get things my way every day, so I will just have to get over that.
I know this is already long enough, and I am glad to know my boyfriend is not friends w/ her any more, but for some reason, I still don't feel settled about it inside, but I should be huh?
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reader, Sweet-thing  +, writes (20 November 2007):
 I think you're just going to have to watch things very carefully for awhile, now that you know who the enemy is and how she plays her game. And your b/f knows the rules now too. No more lunches with her, not even for business. Once his family has been put on alert things may blow over. And once his ex figures out that she can't manipulate them back into her life, maybe she'll give up and move on.
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reader, Collaroy +, writes (20 November 2007):
Hi,
looks like you are up against it here mate.
Your boyfriend wasnt totally honest with you either, saying it was a "business' lunch was a pathetic excuse.
Good luck, but if this girl stays friends with his mother , then you are going to be in for a rough ride.
I hope you have the strength.
Many wouldnt. All the best.
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