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writes:Well hello everyone...I recently told my crush how I felt about him and he told me that he feels the same way towards me...Were not going out because I believe that he still has feelings for his ex..I think this because they still talk like normal..They still hang out..I on the other hand have not hung out with him because Im just busy all the time.HE has asked me out but I always seem to have plans..We talk everyday but we never hang out together..My friends tell me to ask him to Winter Ball but Im afraid because what about if he wants to go to Winter Ball with his ex...I don't know what to do...
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2007): Don't cause he still had feelings for her and that won't change you don't wanna be the other girl.
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (19 November 2007):
 Hi,
From a guy's perspective it is really hard to work up the courage to ask a girl out when she keeps turning you down.
So I would find it unlikely that he would ask you out for fear of rejection again.
His ex is his ex.. she wouldnt be his ex if they still fancied each other, she's his buddy now. But you need to find a way to spend some time with him as there is no real point in having a relationship with someone if you cant spend any time with them.
I just hope, for you sakes his ex still doesnt hold a torch for him, otherwise you will be fighting an uphill battle .
At the very least, it is up to you to ask him, we guys have very fragile egos, when a girl keeps turning us down, we give up.
Good luck, and take a chance, ask him out.
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reader, Blue_Angel0316 +, writes (19 November 2007):
 I am sure that if he talks to you every day and he has asked you out before then he obviously is interested. If he talks normal to his ex..What is normal? If he and his ex have left the relationship on good terms it could be that they are only maintaining a friendship connection. If he still cares for her and she does for him then who can really what is going on in their mind. His thoughts are open anyway because he asked you out and talks to you every day. Think about it.
If the ex is a friend of yours I would be a bit reluctant to ask him to the Ball but if she isn't then tell him that you have been super busy and when he has asked you out you always had to decline. Tell him that you would like to know if he would consider going to the Winter Ball with you. It's as simple as that.*Smiles*
Should he decline your invitation don't feel rejected and remember that he asked you out before so if he is really interested he will probably ask you again. It's a fact that sometimes our intuation is correct but it's possible that he really is only friends with the ex now. Sometimes it is quiet ok for ex's to remain close friends. You might be suffering from a bit of insecurity so don't let that stop you. Just ask. Asking never hurt anything and he might be wanting to ask you. Knowing that you have already turned him down before he could shy away from being rejected again.
Have a Happy Winter Ball with blessings. God bless you in your search for a Wonderful Date.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2007): take a chance ask him
if he does want to go w/ his ex either then you tell him how it hurt your feelings okay ask him don't be scared
trust me
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