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writes:Do all men cheat? Every serious boyfriend I have ever had has cheated on me, and my friends boyfriends have too. My dad cheated on my mother, my grandfathers cheated on my grandmothers, etc. I've never met a man who doesn't cheat! I am beginning to lose hope, I am fed up of my boyfriends sleeping with other women. I KNOW I am good in bed, and I KNOW I am attractive, smart, etc, etc. So why am I not enough for these guys? Is it just biology? Any guys out there who have never cheated? are there are people out there who know guys that have never cheated?I want to start dating again (just ended a 2 yr relationship with a cheating SOB) but I'm terrified of getting hurt... again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2010): Yes all men cheat. I am 30 years old..been in a relation with my woman for the last 4 years..i love her to bits...but when i travel for business i do shag around..its something in our blood..it has nothing to do with if our woman satisfy s us in bed..i mean im havin a great sexual relation with my girl but i still need to have sex with other woman..all my friends married or just dating are havin someone else in their lifes...But it is only sex..What i can say for sure is a man cannot love two woman .he can love one and have sex with an other..We dont mix sex with love..its two different feelings..i think it is ok as long as you are not caught..and men who say they are loyal to only onegina are full of SHIT..
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2008): HI guys I just wane say tht I'm not cheating on my girl because I can appreciate waht she means to me and I love her unconditionally to add we are now sharing a long distance relationship as I'm studying and she's working but to tel you more I'm 21 and she's 27 I dont see her for up to 6 to 7 months at times and I still manage to stay faithful and committed,when I finish my degree I'll certainly start a family with her and be the best man I can be and appreciate her each and every day.do you think I'm mad or abnormal since she's older than me and sometimes we don't see each other for long periods of time,its very difficult indeed but I'm strong and able enough to make such sacrifices.I really love her so what do you think
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (2 May 2008):
 Not all men cheat. Period.
There is no way you can tell who will cheat on you and who won't, so I'm afraid you can't love anyone without running the risk of being heartbroken again. By the way, men can't, either. We all have the same problem. If I said "no woman cheats", would you believe it?
I honesly wish you can reach the stage where you will be willing to take this risk. When you know that life isn't fair, yet that doesn't prevent you from trying to build happiness for yourself, and your heart is strong enough not to let yourself "lose tomorrow reaching back for yesterday", as the lovely song goes.
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reader, goddess_110  +, writes (2 May 2008):
 I am honestly thinkin it is in their blood, I do not believe anything half of them say. From personal experience they seem to be easily swayed. Married or not.Fr this reason my relationship is becoming very difficult, I have allready found out small things that he has done. He seemed like the most honest man I had met...I am thinking of just staying single so I do not get hurt.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2008): I have the same question lol. Right now I am ending a three year marriage because I recently found out he has been cheating the last two years of it. I have clearly figured out that my husband is just a selfish scum bag. I have honestly lost hope in men.
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (21 November 2007):
 Hi there,
simple answer - No.! And stop with the "am I not enough for these guys" that's just crazy talk o.k!
Personally I have never cheated on my wife or on previous girlfriends. I believe that relationships are exclusive and trust is important. I simply would not be able to look my wife in the eye if I cheated on her.
I can also extend this to my friends who are in partnerships. None of them to my knowledge have cheated on their girlfriends/wives.
So the real issue you need to address is why do you pick these men. I think one clue is your father - dont pyschologists say that your father is a blueprint for future lovers? It's the same with abusive fathers, how many women end up picking abusive partners because they were abused as children.
This is a cycle you have to break, do you find that you go for the types who are full of themselves and you reject the "nice guys" ? The serial cheater is a ladies man, he knows how to pay a compliment to a girl, treat her like royalty, shower her with gifts, make her feel special, then when he gets what he wants he moves on to the next conquest.
So my suggestion to you is try and break the mold. Your cheating radar is malfunctioning and you are attracting these types. When you meet a guy, become friends first, give it several dates ( at least a month ) before you become intimate , introduce him to friends and value their opinions ( friends are great for this, tell them to be honest if they don't trust him or like him its generally for a good reason ) and find out a little about the person's past , if he has a reputation then you know you are back to square one.
Good luck, be strong and Mr Right will come along - there are plenty of us out there who value one on one relationships.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2007): No, not all guys cheat. And it has nothing to do with your biology or your looks. I think what your problem is is that you don't know how to weed out the cheating types. Yes there are cheating types who are guys that are prone to cheating, probably because of the way they were raised and stuff like that. Some girls can tell right off the bat who are the cheating types and know to stay away. But I think you just aren't at that point where you can tell. You need to develop that intuition or that type of street smart where you can just tell what a guy is all about by just talking to him for five minutes.
I mean, ask any psychologist, in 5 minutes of chatting with someone you can read so much into a person. And one of the things you can read into a person is if they are a cheating type or not.
Not all guys are cheaters in fact there are many good guys in this world who were raised well, but it is up to YOU to be more selective and intuitive about who you date. Ask lots of questions. Don't trust so easily and so quickly. Learn to be skeptical. Really examine a person and what he says, how he talks about life, how he talks about women. I mean just be more skeptical and ALOT more selective when you are choosing guys. And above all, you do the choosing, don't just let them choose you. And be picky.
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