I like her, but am holding back because she has a bf! What should I do?
Q. hi i'm new here and not to sure how to start this, but could do with some advice. i've been working with this girl at work since the beginning of the year. When i first met her i liked her but now after getting to know her more i have a massive c...
A. 2 August 2007: Well you can't very well ask her to change jobs, but you certainly could and it might help you feel alot better if you don't have to keep running into her, given your feelings for her. Who knows, you might meet another girl at another office who is ... (read in full...)
Where is a good place to meet viable men?
Q. Where do you meet people to date? I don't know where to meet worthwhile guys. I go out to the bar but all that those guys seem to be interested is sex, I don't go to school anymore and I work in a small office where there are no guys my age. I don't ...
A. 1 August 2007: At the grocery store...the laundrymat...bookstores. If you pursue things you love, you're bound to run into some decent guys doing the same thing. You could also enroll in classes, take up salsa lessons, take an art or pottery class, who knows who ... (read in full...)
My mates mom is pregnant...with my child!
Q. Im currently seeing my mates mum. Im 17 and so is my mate, his mum is 32. but last night she told me that she was pregnant with my kid and she wants to keep it. even more she is planning to tell my mate about us. what should I do? Should I tel...
A. 1 August 2007: Yeah, you should probably fess up to your friend. It might soften the blow, coming from you. But he'll still probably be freaked out and it could be a problem for your friendship, from him on out.... (read in full...)
Should I feel threatened by his ex gf calling him all the time?
Q. My boyfriend of 5 months ex-girlfriend is constantly calling him or texting him. The thing is they were together for 4 1/2 years lived together so yes there are some issues that they need to speak on the phone. They are also on the EMS squad and ...
A. 1 August 2007: If she calls him about work, and you can tell by his answers and his tone of voice that their discussion isn't straying into personal things, it should be okay, especially if their discussions are BRIEF. But I am a little suspicious that she's ... (read in full...)
Can an STD like chlamydia make you sterile?
Q. ok i have a std called chlamidia (not sure if thats how its spelled) ok well im getting it taken care of right now. but isnt it true that that std can make you infertile. how long would you have to have it before it did?...
A. 1 August 2007: Yes if you don't get treated for it. More than likely if you get on antibiotics and don't have sex with the same person who may have infected you in the first place, you will be fine. You may need to have your b/f get tested and treated as well, ... (read in full...)
I hate my best friends bf! What should I do?
Q. hi there i was wondering what to do you see its a very long story but ive got this mate who ive known for a long time shes the same age as me 15 and shes just got her first proper boyfriend and hes absolutly horrible he takes the mikey out of her l...
A. 1 August 2007: How well do you know her parents? Maybe if you are on good terms with her mom, you could ask her how SHE feels about her daughter's b/f. Maybe her mother can convince her to stop seeing this kid if you can't. More than likely the whole thing will ... (read in full...)
I like her, but am holding back because she has a bf! What should I do?
Q. hi i'm new here and not to sure how to start this, but could do with some advice. i've been working with this girl at work since the beginning of the year. When i first met her i liked her but now after getting to know her more i have a massive c...
A. 1 August 2007: Find someone else. It's always a bad idea to pursue someone who's involved with someone else. Look at it this way, if you were seeing her, and were in love with her, would you want some guy plotting his attack to steal her away? Didn't think ... (read in full...)
Sex at 14.
Q. Am i too young to have sex at 14 ?...
A. 1 August 2007: Yes you are too young. I had sex for the first time when I was 15 and I've always regretted it. It sort of labels you somehow. But then again, I'm still a bit of a bad girl.... (read in full...)
How can i convince my girlfriend to sneak out so we can be together at night?
Q. how can i convice my girlfriend to sneak out so we can be together at night? we cant hang out to often on account of her parents not liking me to much for my past. i constantly sneak out to see her for a few hours but its always her inside and me ...
A. 1 August 2007: I suspect the parents are wise to you (they usually are). So it might be best if you just see her during normal hours, respect the curfew they've imposed on her and over time, they may change their opinion of you.... (read in full...)
I can't find any guys, who are interested in me and I like them! Help!
Q. Hi. I am really stuck. I can't find any guys. Every guy that likes me im not interested in. I don't know many guys as i go to an all girls school which is awful. I am quite shy but i've been told i shouldnt be as i get a lot of male attention but i ...
A. 1 August 2007: You're too young to obsess about boys right now. There will be plenty of time for that later.... (read in full...)
He doesn't even eat them!
Q. what should i do if all my boyfriend ever talks about is fruit and vegetables?...
A. 1 August 2007: Is he a vegetarian...or perhaps he just has a one-track mind. Try side-tracking him with other topics and see what happens.... (read in full...)
They have not been together long and he wants to buy a house.
Q. My best friend and her boyfriend have been together for just over a year. Its her first serious relationship - well her first real boyfriend if you like. They got together literally just weeks after his last long term relationship ended, and more...
A. 1 August 2007: It's a slippery slope and it depends on how much she loves him. If she's blinded by love, she will not believe a word you tell her, and it could ruin your friendship. But if she hasn't fallen completely head-over-heels, she'll probably welcome the ... (read in full...)
I want to stay with her but her trust issues are making it very difficult
Q. Hi- I have a tough one. I am engaged to a girl that I have only known for 1.5 years and we have a 9 week old baby. She wants the relationship, yet has some serious trust and insecurity issues. Her dad cheated on her mom and her mother told her...
A. 1 August 2007: I think the jealousy is only a small part of a much bigger problem. She is physically abusive and no one should stay in an abusive relationship, not even men. My b/f put up with horrible abuse from his former girlfriend, and physical violence was a ... (read in full...)
We love, but are not in love, what should we do?
Q. Hello, My boyfriend and I will have been together for 2 years on August 18th. Tonight, he told he that he loves me, but he's not IN LOVE with me anymore... yet he claims he still wants to be with me, and try to work things out. This is his fir...
A. 1 August 2007: You have both come to the same conclusion at almost the same time. The split seems like it will be amicable to say the least. I think you should both move on and just remain friends. You are both young and should neither one settle for a ... (read in full...)
Deep inside I believe he will come back to me. What do you think of all these?
Q. ok i met my ex b/f through the internet and i moved to the city he was studying to live together.It was the best year of my life.he was telling me all the time how much he loves me and he was showing it in many ways and promised after graduating and ...
A. 1 August 2007: He may, he may not. Your best bet is to just move on for now. If he comes back, he knows how to find you. If not, then learn from the experience and know that you'll find someone else, someone who is more sure of themselves and ready for a ... (read in full...)
I have to masturbate to climax even after 1-2 hour sex sessions... is this normal?
Q. I can't seem to ejaculate while having sex i have to masterbate to climax. Me an my fiancee usually have sex for one to two hours and i have to masterbate to climax what could be done to help with this or is it normal. ...
A. 1 August 2007: It could be a number of things. If she gets really wet, it could be that you lose the sensation and cannot climax. Try different things, for instance maybe if she gives you oral sex, you'll be able to climax. Also try anal sex and see if that ... (read in full...)
Why would my fiance want to leave me for his ex?
Q. My fiance and his ex-girlfriends shares a son together. things are awesome between us, maybe fought twice in 3 years. He was with his ex for 10 years and they fought almost everyday. we are 3 months from getting married. His ex confessed to him ...
A. 1 August 2007: My guess is he still loves her. And because they have a child together. He may also be addicted to the ups and downs of the stormy relationship they had, rather than the flat-line stability of yours. Some people consider it boring when things are ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend won't get rid of his porn collection. Should I find someone else?
Q. Another porn question. My boyfriend of 16 months has thousand of porn pics/clips. He says that it was from the years he was single, however all the material he has makes me wonder how long everyday he would look at it and get off to it. When we ...
A. 31 July 2007: That all depends on your level of comfort on this subject and judging from your post, I'd say you're not at all comfortable with this. Most men view porn occassionally either in between relationships, or just sometimes for extra stimulation. But ... (read in full...)
I am confortable being frumpy, but want to be attractive
Q. I feel a bit Bridget Jones writing this but I am truly feeling like life is passing by. I'm 35 and have one failed marriage of 13 years behind me - no children. I am comfortable in my own company but I feel like I am stuck between wanting to find ...
A. 31 July 2007: I think you're a bit depressed. The looks are the first thing we lose interest in when we're depressed. I think a part of you wants to look nice still, but the other part of you thinks, "What's the point? I don't have anyone in my life anyhow." ... (read in full...)
He said he wouldnt be a dad to our baby and so I had an abortion
Q. I really dont know where to start...I need some advice. About 2 years ago I started seeing a guy who I thought was really nice. When we were together 8 months, I read his mobile phone messages. He was saying to his ex girlfriend that he loved her ...
A. 31 July 2007: You WILL get over this. What I would do if I were you is number one, find a good counselor or a pastor to talk to about what you're going through. It will help to have someone who is non-judgemental to talk about your feelings. Medication may also ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is now divorced and has said to me he will never marry again!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for the past 2 years. We are both very serious about each other (we’re both in our mid 20s). It really bothers me that he sounds like he will never get married again. He was married when he was 19 and has a kid ...
A. 30 July 2007: Never say never. He's probably just shell-shocked right now. Give it some time. You may even have to give it another year or two before he actually warms up to the idea of marriage again. Once he realizes you're not pressuring him, you may ... (read in full...)
Could it be that I'm so scared of being rejected by him that I'm over-analysing everything?
Q. I met a boy a few weeks back and I really like him. He seemed to really like me too and we exchanged numbers. He called the next day and we arranged to meet up a few days later. On the day, he said he couldn't make it as he had to work. Since then ...
A. 30 July 2007: He sounds horny. He's not looking for a relationship, he's looking for a quick lay, no strings attached. Stop calling him, stop texting him and turn your interests to someone else. Unless you want to be nothing more than a sexual fling, you're ... (read in full...)
He gets uncontrollable urges to sleep with other women... our sex life is great, is this normal?
Q. Hi, I am so confused. I have been with my boyfriend for over 2 years, he is 34, me 35. We moved to China a year ago to work and during this time our relationship has gone downhill. Partly due to the lifestyle, not having enough space from each ...
A. 30 July 2007: Perhaps he views sex as an escape. Men are famous for wanting the "no strings" attached sex with someone who will not make any demands on them, just allow them to come for sex and leave when they want. I think if you love someone, no you really ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to carry on with the distance?
Q. i have a boyfriend but we are seperated by distance it is okay to continue...
A. 30 July 2007: Sure if you both want to. Kenny said it all.... (read in full...)
He does not seem to want to spend any time with us.
Q. My boyfriend spends loads of time wih his mate, I'm talking five to eight hours a day. Is it normal we've been on and off as a couple for five years and he asked me back a month ago, He works comes home and goes to his mates house, I'm left at home...
A. 30 July 2007: I agree with eyeswideopen, you have nothing to lose by cutting this relationship. He's got one foot out the door anyhow from the sounds of it. And no, his behavior is not normal. I wouldn't be surprised if he's having an affair.... (read in full...)
We have twins together but i like his friend.
Q. I have been with my boybriend for 6 years and we have twin girls together. We have not had a very good relationship. We have a mutual friend and about two years ago I started to develop feeling for him. I tried to forget about him and the feeling ...
A. 30 July 2007: Do what you can to improve your current relationship. Go to counseling if necessary, for your kids sake. But don't start anything up with anyone until you've come to the conclusion that your current relationship is beyond hope. Then end it, move ... (read in full...)
My friends think he is controlling, and i'm not happy either.
Q. hi, basically ive recently got married but we are already having problems we have a daughter together and have been together 4 years previous to getting married. my husband has threatened to leave twice but going as far as packing his packs and me ...
A. 30 July 2007: No, no, no, anorexia is not a good way to lose weight! And considering how depressed you are right now, it could cost you your life. It's all based on self-loathing and that's a dangerous ingredient to add to your life right now. Your daughter ... (read in full...)
What does cut and uncut mean, penis-wise?
Q. whats the difference between a cut and uncut penis?...
A. 30 July 2007: It could be one of two things: One refers to circumcision, which is a procedure done on male babies a few days after their born that removes the extra foreskin from around their penises. The other could mean he's had a vasectomy, which renders a ... (read in full...)
Is it true, 'what comes around goes around'?
Q. My partner left after seventeen years togther. She found a new boyfriend within a few days. She handled the breakup poorly telling me over the phone. I turned up at her workplace to she if we could sort things out but was only to find her new part...
A. 30 July 2007: I can't really put any validity to that old saying but I can say that you will eventually find self-worth again, it just takes time. 17 years is a long time to be with someone who had apparently checked out of the marriage (emotionally) years ago. ... (read in full...)
We have been together ten months and i want to marry him.
Q. Why am I in such a rush to get married? Okay, I am 21 years old and I have been with my guy for 10 months. We fight frequently have almost broken up a few times but have gotten through it. Even after all of the times that he makes me want to pull...
A. 30 July 2007: You're young. Don't rush into the 'happily-ever'after' just yet. Give it some time. 10 months really isn't that long and 10 more months won't kill you when you consider a life together. The more you pressure him, the more likely he is to feel ... (read in full...)
Is it healthy for us to go out seperately?
Q. my fiance says it is healthy for the both of us to go out alone with our friends.Is that true or not?...
A. 30 July 2007: That depends on what you're each doing while you guys are out with your friends. Initially, I'd say yes, it's okay for him to occassionally go out for a beer with the guys, or go fishing, hunting, or to a car race with a male buddy or two. It's ... (read in full...)
Why does he keep the pictures of his ex?
Q. So I ran across some pictures of my current fiancee's ex-girlfriend. She cheated on him, broke his heart -- you know the story. The breakup was big. These pictures were, how do I say, 'clothing optional'. We've been together for quite some time and ...
A. 27 July 2007: Well, the pictures could just magically disappear, and end up say, in the shredder, or trashcan down the street, ripped into little pieces. You've asked him nicely to remove them, and he's done nothing about it. I'd throw the damn things away if ... (read in full...)
Am I allergic to this dandelion tea, I have been drinking?
Q. Hi, just wondering if any of you have been through this and can help before i visit my G.P. About 2 months ago I drank dandelion tea everyday for a week because I was sick of my body retaining water. I got no result and so stopped, until 2 days ago ...
A. 27 July 2007: I don't know much about dandelion tea, but if it's giving you diarrhea and you're peeing alot, I'd stop using it IMMEDIATELY. It is dehydrating your body of important nutrients and this can be very dangerous. When your body gets depleted like that ... (read in full...)
Are girls only interested in a man with money?
Q. are there people out who find it as hard as i do to understand what ladies really want? coz it seems very clear to me that all that girls consider in relationships is money.. unfortunately i dont seem to be that lucky coz am still a university ...
A. 27 July 2007: Okay, here's a woman's perspective so listen up. We don't all want a man just for his money. But women, by nature and by parental programming tend to want a man who can hold down a job, pay his bills on time, manage his money appropriately (not ... (read in full...)
I'm having trouble trusting my boyfriend and all I do is nag at him all the time. What should I do?
Q. I'm having trouble trusting my boyfriend and all I do is nag at him all the time. What should I do?...
A. 27 July 2007: Well maybe you need to take a hard look at why you're having trouble trusting him. Has he done something to damage your trust? Have you been cheated on before, and you're just holding onto past hurts, fearing it will happen again? Once you can ... (read in full...)
I know I should have gone to the police but I couldn't. I felt so ashamed, and feel it's my fault for being drunk.
Q. Hiya, I would just like some advice if possible. I went on holiday for 2 weeks with my sister. The first night wewere out there we went out and had a few too many,(it was actually the only night we got drunk, other nights just merry). We have been ...
A. 27 July 2007: Time heals all wounds. Even this one. You did nothing wrong, but you did learn a valuable lesson. Never get that drunk. And always keep your guard up when you are away from home. Worse things could have happened to you. You were really pretty ... (read in full...)
I walked out of his home two weeks ago after he said he didn't want a dead relationship and he hasn't made any contact... do I ring him???
Q. I believe my relationship of 8 years is over. The past 2 years haven't been too good for either of us due to my belief that he was seeing someone else. I'm sure he had a fling but he made a lot of effort to keep us together. Alas my trust was not as ...
A. 27 July 2007: That depends. I don't know why you thought he was cheating on you. Was this a hunch, or did you have some concrete proof?...If it was just a paranoid hunch, and we women sometimes get these bizaare feelings that aren't truly justified -- then ... (read in full...)
What can I do to get him back after breaking the trust more than once?
Q. My boyfriend just recently found out that I was still communicating with an ex I dated years ago. There is nothing between us but I promised not to keep contact with him more than once and this was the final straw. My boyfriend says he can't trust ...
A. 27 July 2007: First of all, I'm wondering how your b/f found out about this. Did you perhaps leave evidence lying around (sort of on purpose), or let it slip out during a casual conversation? Some women thrive on the need to make their mates jealous because it ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has a fetish of another guy eating out her bush while I watch.
Q. My girlfriend has a fetish of another guy eating out her bush while I watch. She wants me to go down on her friend while she watches. I don't mind watching another guy going down on my girl but the question I have is should I let one of my friends ...
A. 27 July 2007: Sweetie, I think this is a bad idea all the way around unless this relationship is just casual thing. And I know you're g/f is the one spurning these fantasies, but she may also be the one that freaks out, after she watches you go down on another ... (read in full...)
I consider myself heterosexual with strong bi tendencies...
Q. I consider myself heterosexual with strong bi tendencies. My friend Adam is straight to the best of my knowledge, as well. Anyways, we ended up taking E together. First, we ended up making out. By the end of the night, we were naked, in bed, and ...
A. 27 July 2007: Okay, so number one, you cheated on your g/f. Number two, you cheated on your g/f with a guy. That's gonna hurt when she finds out. So it's time for damage control. You need to figure out if you want to stay in the relationship you have with ... (read in full...)
My married lover's guilt is getting to her; should I try to see her or give her space?
Q. Hi guys, been seeing a married work colleague, whos marriage is seriously not fulfilling for her. Know we both shouldent but fancy each other like crazy. She is suffering with guilty concience and i am too believe it or not and its made us both ill...
A. 24 July 2007: She probably needs to go ahead and file for divorce, move into her own apartment and sort things out for awhile. Give her the space to do this, but don't make her feel pressured, like you're going out at the bars, dating other women simply because ... (read in full...)
Just as we were about to start dating his ex came and stole him right back
Q. ...I meet a guy at my fathers auto shop, he was doing co-op there during school..anyway we started talking and became close but when we started talking about going on a date his ex girlfriend who left him for some franch guy comes back out of the ...
A. 24 July 2007: He's obviously still interested in his ex. There's not much you can to do change that. You could try waiting, afterall she may twist off on him again and leave him hanging. But then again, would you ever feel good if he returned to you simply ... (read in full...)
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