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writes:Why am I in such a rush to get married? Okay, I am 21 years old and I have been with my guy for 10 months. We fight frequently have almost broken up a few times but have gotten through it. Even after all of the times that he makes me want to pull my hair out I still can't ever imagine giving him up and I always tell him how much a want to marry him, I know he wants to marry me too but he is not in a rush to do it since he is only 20. Am I trying to rush things? or am I just crazy for wanting to marry him so bad and so soon? Reply to this Question
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reader, BEEN THERE DONE IT  +, writes (30 July 2007):
 Your not crazy darling, not if you really love him, but whats the rush, enjoy the time you have with him, don't argue life is miles too short my sweet....
You have time on your side your 21 so don't pressure him or you may find it will eventually scare him off, if he truely loves you like you do him then give him his space it does take men longer than us girlies...
We look forward to the idea of finding a nice man and marrying them, men need more time but hey when they know they have the right girl they won't let her slip away so keep loving and enjoying each other,
Chin up babes,
All the best love
Donna xx
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (30 July 2007):
 You're young. Don't rush into the 'happily-ever'after' just yet. Give it some time. 10 months really isn't that long and 10 more months won't kill you when you consider a life together. The more you pressure him, the more likely he is to feel trapped and want to refuse. Just enjoy your relationship day to day, and don't try to mold it into a marriage until it goes there naturally (as in, he presents you with an engagement ring, without being nagged into it, and proposes, and you set a date for the wedding). I married at 19, no prompting needed on either of our parts, but I wish I would've waited until I was around 25. I had alot more growing up to do, than I realized at the time. I suspect you view marriage as a form of relationship "security". But there are no guarantees and many a man who gets married because he feels pressured, will start behaving badly soon after the vows are exchanged.
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