Can he love me that much and still be that relentlessly cruel?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for five months. I hid my past relationships from him, because I didn't want him to think less of me. Last night, we fought on the phone for four hours. I finally told him the truth (I've kissed five boys...
A. 5 September 2007: Please don't tell him any more!! He can't handle it. Besides it's in the past and that's where it needs to stay. You will only wreck your relationship further if you continue to persist in telling him every sorrid detail of your past kisses or ... (read in full...)
Whenever I see him, I feel sick with nerves, and I feel sick when I hear the mention of his name and even when I see him in person or even think of him, is this normal?
Q. Hi I've just recently met a guy I like a lot. The trouble is, whenever I see him, I feel sick with nerves, and I feel sick when I hear the mention of his name and even when I see him in person or even think of him, is this normal? I keep wretchin...
A. 23 August 2007: I learned a long time ago that it's always best to just be honest and say what you mean, and mean what you say. But it's difficult for some people to put themselves out there and say, "hey I really like you." because there's always that fear of ... (read in full...)
Whenever I see him, I feel sick with nerves, and I feel sick when I hear the mention of his name and even when I see him in person or even think of him, is this normal?
Q. Hi I've just recently met a guy I like a lot. The trouble is, whenever I see him, I feel sick with nerves, and I feel sick when I hear the mention of his name and even when I see him in person or even think of him, is this normal? I keep wretchin...
A. 15 August 2007: It's hard to say, but I think you're on the right track at this point to just let him come to you. You've made contact, he knows you're interested, he says he's going away for 3 weeks. If you don't hear from him when he gets back, he's probably ... (read in full...)
Whenever I see him, I feel sick with nerves, and I feel sick when I hear the mention of his name and even when I see him in person or even think of him, is this normal?
Q. Hi I've just recently met a guy I like a lot. The trouble is, whenever I see him, I feel sick with nerves, and I feel sick when I hear the mention of his name and even when I see him in person or even think of him, is this normal? I keep wretchin...
A. 10 August 2007: It sounds like he may be interested but doesn't quite know how to go about getting to know you. Maybe he's shy or he's used to women making the first move (i.e. why he was sitting on the wall across the street from your house, expecting you to come ... (read in full...)
I'm moving half way around the world - should I carry on a relationship with my wife or my mistress?
Q. This question is long because it's very complicated (even though I've simplified it quite a bit). Three years ago, I fell in love with a European girl and moved to Europe to be with her. I gave up a lot to make the move and it really was a blo...
A. 7 August 2007: You married a woman that you weren't sure you loved. You are about to move again halfway across the globe. I'd say leave them both, you obviously have no problem finding women. You'll find another one, maybe one you can be loyal to. ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure what feelings I have for my husband but I don't think its love! I'm walking on eggshells, here, and feel trapped...
Q. I am going round in circles with my feelings. Some days I am millimetres from leaving my husband (of 13 years - no children) he knows what buttons to press but then I stay - security, familiarity, finances etc etc. I'm not sure what feelings I ...
A. 7 August 2007: My first question is this; has he always been like this, or have you seen his behavior change over the course of your marriage? My first impression is if you've already tried counseling and it didn't seem to help, you've tried talking to him one on ... (read in full...)
If he's like this now how will he be after we're married?!
Q. my fiance is doing my head in. We are getting married in 3 weeks time, and there is still lots to do, and he just isn't doing anything!! I feel like I have done almost everything, and the things I ask him to do I end up doing myself anyway because ...
A. 7 August 2007: Take a deep breath - breathe in, breathe out. You are suffering a major case of bride-to-be melt down. Don't be too hard on the guy, men are just not good at planning weddings and handling all the fluff that goes along with it. What you need to ... (read in full...)
What do you do when the person who you love, dream and care about is unavailable?
Q. Please tell me, what do you do when the person who you love, dream and care so much about, is unavailable and its unlikely for you to ever be with them cos they're already married and are quite older than yourself? I'm so depressed and i can't take ...
A. 7 August 2007: You find someone who is available and you move on. Maybe someday, someway things could change but for now, it's best to fill up your time with friends and family and find someone who's not attached. I had a huge crush on a guy about 10 years ago. ... (read in full...)
For the first time at 28 I gave it up, I had sex with him , lost my virginity to him and now he not talking to me at all!
Q. I have been dating this guy for a whole year, within that year we went through some rough times where he cheated a couple of times and then he stopped and silly me I remained in the relationship because all along I thought I was the problem because ...
A. 7 August 2007: Well that just sucks. It is a little puzzling why he'd work for "it" for a year, only to dump you as soon as it happens. Most men who only want that one thing bail out if they don't get it within a few months. But you can't very well talk to him ... (read in full...)
Whenever I see him, I feel sick with nerves, and I feel sick when I hear the mention of his name and even when I see him in person or even think of him, is this normal?
Q. Hi I've just recently met a guy I like a lot. The trouble is, whenever I see him, I feel sick with nerves, and I feel sick when I hear the mention of his name and even when I see him in person or even think of him, is this normal? I keep wretchin...
A. 7 August 2007: It's called love. And you got a bad case of it. Relax. It usually fades as the relationship grows.... (read in full...)
Yes, it is very nice that he wanted to buy that for me but I don't agree with where he looked or what he look at.
Q. Hello everyone, I am curious if anybody else would have the same problem or if it is somehow reasonable that I thought this: My boyfriend and I had a conversation about web sites we visit (to see if we go to any porn sites etc). He said that he...
A. 7 August 2007: I went to that website it wasn't that revealing than he probably sees in some Frederick's of Hollywood catalog and certainly no more than he'd probably see on a trip to the beach. Most men who look at porn look at stuff way worse tha this. I ... (read in full...)
What do guys find attractive in a girl?
Q. this is to all you guys out there! Plz tell me what you find atractive in a girl and also in foreplay. What things can she do to make you go crazy!!!Well i appreciate your honest replies thank u all!...
A. 6 August 2007: Depends on the guy, but I'd say first it's their boobs. Then it's their butts and their bodies in general....then the face and hair perhaps....and last, the personality. But trust me, they've usually had sex with you before they even discover you ... (read in full...)
What's the best reply?
Q. whats the best response to a guy that says "i love you"? if you are not sure you are ready to honestly say that back to him??...
A. 6 August 2007: You could bashfully say, "It's so nice to hear those words again, but I just need more time before I can respond. I want my words to be sincere and it just takes me time to fall in love with someone. I hope you can understand this."... (read in full...)
I go driving, she is in the passenger seat, I go to bed, she is next to me... how do I get my ex out of my head?!
Q. How do I get my Ex out of my head? Hello everyone. It has been a year and a half since my ex and I broke up and I can not get her out of my head. I go driving, she is in the passenger seat, I go to bed, she is next to me. We were together fo...
A. 6 August 2007: Maybe it's time you fill that seat, and your bed with a new body. At least it'll help you to quit seeing your ex there. Good luck.... (read in full...)
Should I keep my private habits... private?
Q. I routinely look at porn and masturbate to it. I have a craving to share this with my girlfriend, but I'm embarassed to. I'm tired of this "secret life". Ladies, do you think I should share this private info?...
A. 6 August 2007: Let's just say until you know how your g/f is going to react to this news, why not bring it up in a joking way. Like when she's going out shopping and she asks you what you're going to do while she's gone, you could jokingly say, "Oh not much, I ... (read in full...)
He proposed, I said yes... but worried it's too soon to get this serious!
Q. I need a little advice here, me and my boyfriend ( who are both 17) have been together 2 and a half months and a week or so ago he proposed to me and i said yes, but im not sure if its too soon to get this serious. im not having doubts and i love ...
A. 6 August 2007: You can always have a very long engagement. I'd recommend that you not get married unitl your 21. Trust me, you'll be glad you waited and what's four little years when you consider your whole life, right? I married at the age of 19 and even ... (read in full...)
Can he love me that much and still be that relentlessly cruel?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for five months. I hid my past relationships from him, because I didn't want him to think less of me. Last night, we fought on the phone for four hours. I finally told him the truth (I've kissed five boys...
A. 6 August 2007: It's just going to take time. He will figure it out the longer you two are together. If he sees that you won't bail out on him at the drop of a hat, or fight, he'll begin to trust again. My b/f was the same way, especially in the first year we ... (read in full...)
Do you think i should call him?
Q. I've just broken up with my boyfriend of 2 months (we are on good terms and 'friends'). He lives a few hours away from me. I ended it because it didn't seem like he cared about me, like when we first got together.. After the break up iv'e called a ...
A. 5 August 2007: If you communicate in specific terms to him, perhaps you'll get different results. I think if you're missing him that much, and he is obviously missing you too, you should talk to him and tell him how you feel. That you'd like to try the ... (read in full...)
Can somebody please tell me what she might be thinking?
Q. Hi, it's just me. I'm still feeling fairly possitive today, despite the fact that I dreamt that me and my ex were getting back together last night. I woke up thinking: Right, a step forward.. What can I do to sort this o.... Oh, it was just a ...
A. 5 August 2007: To answer one of your phrases in an earlier post: "Tell me, everyone; How do you cope with and accept something you don't deserve? How do you stop thinking about the only person you ever think about?"
You start little by little, day by day. ... (read in full...)
Should I instead write a note asking him round?
Q. I am keen on a guy but he's very shy and doesn't go out socially so I don't know him well. I'm not sure if he likes me but would like to ask him round for dinner. Would phoning him up put him too much on the spot? Should I instead write a note ...
A. 3 August 2007: I think calling would be better. The sound of a voice is always better than reading a note. Good luck.... (read in full...)
He said he was testing himself to see if these women appealed to him, and said they didn't. He said if anything he loves me more and realises what he has. Is he lying?
Q. Hi I looked in my boyfriends email account and although there were no emails (all deleted, even the trash) on the contact list was several email addresses of girls and an email from [a website]. I logged on and had a look and it's a sex chat ...
A. 3 August 2007: So what would he have done if some of those girls DID like him? That's the real question. My guess is, he'd be in a real pickle right now. Any guy who's still testing the waters, so to speak is not ready to settle down with just one girl. ... (read in full...)
Me and my mum don't get along. What can I do to repair this?
Q. Well me and my mum are not close. I mean like I don't want to tell her anything. I can never tell her anything and I am starting to hate my mum. She doesn't know what to do cause I lock myself in my room and don't talk to anyone. All I want to do is ...
A. 3 August 2007: She is probably saying no to some of your requests because they are not safe for you, could put you in some sort of danger, or cause you to have a bad reputation. If you want to have a good relationship with your mum, you first need to respect her. ... (read in full...)
How old should I be before I get a boyfriend?
Q. I'm going into middle school. How old should I be to have a boyfreind? Not to kiss or anything, but just to talk to and hold hands....
A. 3 August 2007: How do your parents feel about you wanting a boyfriend? It should really be up to them.... (read in full...)
Should I just end it now to stop further pain and before we get more close or should I stay with her because I do think she is worth it?
Q. I have been in with my girlfriend for about 4 months and she has a 2 year old child. She takes the child to see his dad a few times a week and I am fine with that, it's just that my girlfriend is very close to her x because they went out for almost ...
A. 3 August 2007: Stay with her. Work it out. Tell her how you feel. Habits can be broken so she can start with telling her 'ex' "I love you" at the end of their conversations. Maybe she should work out a more stable schedule for her ex to spend time with the ... (read in full...)
I've always wanted to be a marine but my girlfriend says she'll dump me if I sign up
Q. so i've decided to stay with my current gf and just wait. love is more important to me than sex. i do have some what of another problem though. i kinda do and kinda dont want to join the army (marines) but my gf said she would dump me if i did. i'v...
A. 3 August 2007: Well that's just really tacky of her to hold you back on your dreams. First of all, you need to make up your mind completely if you want to do this because it is a big thing. Secondly, I would not let any woman (or man) hold me back from doing ... (read in full...)
Can somebody please tell me what she might be thinking?
Q. Hi, it's just me. I'm still feeling fairly possitive today, despite the fact that I dreamt that me and my ex were getting back together last night. I woke up thinking: Right, a step forward.. What can I do to sort this o.... Oh, it was just a ...
A. 3 August 2007: Okay dear, sweet Andy, here's a woman's point of view. I think you and your girlfriend were always on different levels in this relationship. You were in deep. She was in...not so deep. She may have told you she loved you, and probably in her own ... (read in full...)
Where's my girlfriends clitoris, how do I find it?
Q. how do i know where my girlfriends clitoris is or when i find it ?...
A. 3 August 2007: Okay, here's what you do. Walk up behind your girlfriend (when you're alone and somewhere private), unbutton her jeans and pull them down slightly....put your hand down the front of her panties and slide it all the way down past her "fur" and ... (read in full...)
Should I keep shaving myself like this?
Q. Dear cupid hi im 15 and I have a big problem because it effects my looks alot i love the felling of the razor on my skin ans have bein shaving my vagina since pubity i always shave my legs armpits and that but one day when having a bath i fel...
A. 2 August 2007: It doesn't matter what others think. What do you think when you look in the mirror? I admit, it is unusual behavior but if you like it, then it really doesn't matter. On the other hand, I worry that you are doing a bit of self-destruction. There ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend stays an hour away and I miss him so much that I want to start crying.
Q. My boyfriend stays an hour away and I miss him so much that I want to start crying. He is away for work and can see him in two days. He phoned me tonight and I almost started crying, but did not cause he will maybe think I'm just being stupid. ...
A. 2 August 2007: You need to find things to keep yourself from going nuts. When my b/f works out of town, I do all the things I never get to do when he's around. For one thing I don't cook a thing! I sleep in the middle of the bed. I make flavored coffee. I ... (read in full...)
I like her, but am holding back because she has a bf! What should I do?
Q. hi i'm new here and not to sure how to start this, but could do with some advice. i've been working with this girl at work since the beginning of the year. When i first met her i liked her but now after getting to know her more i have a massive c...
A. 2 August 2007: Well you can't very well ask her to change jobs, but you certainly could and it might help you feel alot better if you don't have to keep running into her, given your feelings for her. Who knows, you might meet another girl at another office who is ... (read in full...)
I know I should walk away from the old disasterous relationship but what if I get disappointed again.
Q. Hi I have major trust issues in my relationships due to a previous disappointing relationship. My ex and I are still friends and I really don't know why I want to keep the friendship since he was very horrid towards me. I have met someone wonderfu...
A. 2 August 2007: Number one, why are you still hanging onto old baggage that doesn't bring you an ounce of happiness? Dump the ex as your "friend". If you like this new guy, take it slow. It's going to take time to build up trust and feel good again because you've ... (read in full...)
So do I give up on our relationship or give in to his request (ultimatum)?
Q. I've been seeing my boyfriend for nearly 2 years. He has had about 6 sexual partners before me. He is my first love and I've been brought up to believe that sex before marriage is wrong. He always said he was okay with it but now nearly 2 years on ...
A. 2 August 2007: You could get married. That would solve everyone's problem. And you can go on the Pill whether or not you're married so you'll be less likely to get pregnant before you're ready for it. ... (read in full...)
What's wrong? Why am I irritated? Do I really love him? Or do I need space.
Q. I have this boyfriend, that I've been going out with for almost a year. I love him so much, I really do. He's everything to me, but sometimes he gets on my nerves and I have no reason. I think sometimes he's maybe too clingy, he texts or calls me ...
A. 2 August 2007: I think you see your b/f as being too needy, or too clingy - the one thing most men don't like about women, we too don't really like for a man to be that clingy. It makes them seem weak in our eyes. He probably thinks this is what women want ... (read in full...)
Can he love me that much and still be that relentlessly cruel?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for five months. I hid my past relationships from him, because I didn't want him to think less of me. Last night, we fought on the phone for four hours. I finally told him the truth (I've kissed five boys...
A. 2 August 2007: Oh good lord, you are such a slut to have kissed 5 boys! I don't know what we're going to do with you. ha-ha. But seriously honey, your past is hardly a "past" at all! Your b/f sounds like he's led a very sheltered life and is very immature. ... (read in full...)
I married a married man!!!
Q. Hi, I married a married man. I know, I just dived right into it but I'm just distraught, I knew he was married but I couldnt help how I felt. We have so much in common and so much passion, we click in so many ways its unbelievable but the fact ...
A. 2 August 2007: I'm sorry I know nothing about the Islamic community, laws or rights but my heart goes out to you. Have you tried talking to your husband about what his family and his other wife are putting you and your children through? Surely if he loves you, ... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm stuck in a rut!!
Q. I feel like I'm stuck in a rut!! I just feel really unhappy!! These feelings come in waves though-one minute I will be fine and I will get up in the morning for work feeling okay, then 5 minutes later I feel really down and will think of any ...
A. 2 August 2007: It's called depression. It can be mild, as you have described, or it can be full-blown, like you want to kill yourself. Neither one is healthy and should be dealt with immediately. Talk to a counselor, a pastor, or your healthcare professional. ... (read in full...)
He says I'm getting too clingy. What should I do?
Q. Hi My problem is my boyfriend! I have been seeing him a year and a half now. The first year was great, he treat me like a princess and really showed how much he loves me. We've been through a lot and over the last 2 months he has been not so nice....
A. 2 August 2007: My first thought is this guy doesn't much want to be in a relationship right now but why, I do not know. You mention that he used to treat you like a princess, but I'm wondering what did you do for him, to make him feel like a King? Men like to ... (read in full...)
There are 2 sides to my girlfriend and I don't like one of them
Q. Dear readers, I have currently split up with my fionce and we are just mates now. We work in the same work place as each other and mainly joke around and laugh around with each other. She wants to get back with me but i think she has a split ...
A. 2 August 2007: Maybe she's bi-polar and has never been diagnosed. Unless she gets tested and treated for this disorder, I wouldn't puruse a relationship with her because you will have to deal with both sides to her personality, and I'm guessing the dark side of ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is going on holiday with her ex; am I right to be unhappy about it?
Q. Hi, my fiance wants to go on holiday with her ex and I just aren't happy with the idea - surely it's not a normal thing to do? Thanks, Confused...
A. 2 August 2007: I would not be happy about it. I do not think it's normal and I cannot understand why she would do this unless she still has feelings for her ex. If it's because of their kids, she should at least bring you along. That would be my ultimatum. ... (read in full...)
My ex is giving me majorly mixed signals, please help me figure him out!
Q. Mixed Signals!! DECODE!!! My ex boyfriend whom i still talk with everyday (its a long distance thing) says things that confuse me. Can you tell me what you think this all means: " You're hot. youre better looking than that girl. why would i care...
A. 2 August 2007: I think you should stop talking, e-mailing, texting and having conversations with him that leave you confused and unable to move on. By definition, and "ex" is someone who's in the past. It's time for you to start seeing the relationship for what ... (read in full...)
I can't keep my bfs - I seem to like them too much and scare them away.
Q. i am really not good at keeping guys who like me. I always seem to like them way to much and scare them off i think. I try to play it cool but then end up texting them all the time, cos i really like them. there is a guy that likes me and i have ...
A. 2 August 2007: The fact that you recongize this about yourself is the first step. Some women never realize they come too strong and scare men away. Now you just have to learn how to change your behavior so you don't seem so desperate. If you text him, don't text ... (read in full...)
I feel like i'm more of a taker than a giver!!
Q. I feel insecure and it makes me somewhat shy in my relationship. I can never initiate anything, it's always him that has to ask if we want to go out or him initiating a kiss. I don't want to be like this because i feel somewhat selfish, you know, ...
A. 2 August 2007: Depends on the guy. Some guys prefer to be the "agressor" but it never hurts to initiate something once in awhile. Start with something small. Make him dinner, or a special dessert that you know he likes. Offer to take his dog to the groomer for ... (read in full...)
Older Girls! What do girls think of lumpy cum?
Q. Older girls please! What do girls think about lumpy cum? I think it’s gross and it’s my own “stuff!” There’s always little lumps in my cum and I get so embarrassed about it. Apparently it’s perfectly normal from what I’ve read so I guess there’...
A. 2 August 2007: Never really ran into that one....but I agree with aphexinfinite, trying drinking more water...or beer. ... (read in full...)
Do girls enjoy giving oral sex?
Q. Do girls actually like giving oral sex to guys or what? So many girls seem to have a real issue with it, like feeling subservient or degraded or something. But they don’t have any problem getting it!? What is all this double standards? I...
A. 2 August 2007: I think you're dating inexperience, immature girls. Personally I love giving head, swallowing and all....beer drinkers have the best tasting...well, you know what. They probably just don't know exactly what to do when they go down on you, so they'd ... (read in full...)
Where is a good place to meet viable men?
Q. Where do you meet people to date? I don't know where to meet worthwhile guys. I go out to the bar but all that those guys seem to be interested is sex, I don't go to school anymore and I work in a small office where there are no guys my age. I don't ...
A. 1 August 2007: At the grocery store...the laundrymat...bookstores. If you pursue things you love, you're bound to run into some decent guys doing the same thing. You could also enroll in classes, take up salsa lessons, take an art or pottery class, who knows who ... (read in full...)
I like her, but am holding back because she has a bf! What should I do?
Q. hi i'm new here and not to sure how to start this, but could do with some advice. i've been working with this girl at work since the beginning of the year. When i first met her i liked her but now after getting to know her more i have a massive c...
A. 1 August 2007: Find someone else. It's always a bad idea to pursue someone who's involved with someone else. Look at it this way, if you were seeing her, and were in love with her, would you want some guy plotting his attack to steal her away? Didn't think ... (read in full...)
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