We've had rows about her ex's - part of it due to my insecurities, but am I wrong to feel this way?
Q. I need help dealing with something my girlfriend did in her past. I've been seeing this girl for 6 months and when things are good - they're great. My only hang up is that she confessed to cheating on her last boyfriend with a previous Ex-boy...
A. 25 September 2007: This is a difficult question for me. I'd say she did what she did because she had not yet let go of that "ex" and for some reason he still had a hold on her heart, regardless of his worth. Given that she still loved him, this may help you put ... (read in full...)
How can I get my ex to move on - I still care about her as a friend, so I just can't ignore her.
Q. I recently broke up with my girlfriend. A few months ago we got in an argument, and she abandoned me. She lied to me about a lot of things, and i thought that I forgave her. Before I begin, I need to explain that I have no hard feelings. A...
A. 25 September 2007: If you expect her to ever get the hint and truly move on, you will have to ignore her now. By continuing to have conversations with her, or e-mails etc., shows her you're still interested and that mixed signal is causing her more pain and ... (read in full...)
Does he have real feelings for me, or is he just comfortable in a "friend" sort of way?
Q. Please help ive been mates with this guy for nearly 2years and recently hes calling me swettheart along with many other names,he also keeps punching me very gentely on the arm,im not sure if he has feelings for me or just feels really confortable ...
A. 24 September 2007: Have you had sex yet? Does he date other women or does he spend all his free time with you? I'd say, if you want to know, then ask him how he feels about you and if he sees the two of you as good friends, or romantic partners? ... (read in full...)
I have reason to believe that I cannot trust my man, what do I do?
Q. i have reasons to belive that i cant trust my boyfriend. but i love him too much to let him go. what shall i do?...
A. 24 September 2007: What has he done to make you feel this way?....I would have to know more, before I can help you out.... (read in full...)
How do I let this guy down gently?
Q. Here's my situation. We've been a couple for one week, and already my boyfriend is planning our marriage! First date, he transitioned from "I'm so dating into the right family" to "I'm so marrying into the right family." At first I thought I heard ...
A. 24 September 2007: Well, aside from the obvious ways that he's moving too fast, how do you feel about him otherwise? If you enjoy his company, and the two of you have good chemistry otherwise, maybe you should just tell him to s-l-o-w down with the "happy ... (read in full...)
How can I stop thinking about my ex and trying to break up his new relationship?
Q. I broke up with my ex for the 2nd time 3 months ago and recently felt like I really needed to be with him. But I found out he is dating. The person he is dating has more of everything then me and my ex does like to be taken cared of. I can't s...
A. 24 September 2007: Find someone new to date and stop contacting your ex. Breaking him up is a sure way NOT to get him back. He'll see you as malicious and immature. ... (read in full...)
I'm really insecure about his ex. What can I do?
Q. I feel silly for posting this... but, a few months back, my boyfriend was in touch with a girl. I got quite jealous and an instinct told me this girl was something else... well, my boyfriend told me she was just a friend, and I was ok with it, ...
A. 24 September 2007: I'm quite sure if he'd stop e-mailing her and paying her attention, you'd feel alot more pretty. If he isn't still interested in her, then he needs to cut contact with her and focus on you. No good can come out of this so-called friendship he has ... (read in full...)
Has anyone ever got back with an ex they fell out of love with?
Q. Has anyone gotten back together with a partner when they fell out of love? Also has anyone fallen back their sexual attraction to their partner ?...
A. 21 September 2007: If you were the one who fell out of love and lost your attraction, I would say it's never gonna be there for you again. It's like trying to put the toothpaste back into the tube, after you've squeezed it all out. I just don't think it happens. You ... (read in full...)
I left him b/c he told me he had plans to sleep w/ my friend. We split, now they're together! Is something wrong w/ me??
Q. I recently left my boyfriend because he was telling me that he is gonna sleep with my friends. One day after I left him, he already started dating my friend... I tried so hard to keep him, I did everything he told me to... What more am I supposed ...
A. 18 September 2007: Nope, you cannot keep someone who isn't interested in staying with you. At least he was up front about his plans to shag your friend. What a creep.... (read in full...)
I think my bf's ex faked her suicide to get out of the relationship - how can I verfiy that she's dead?
Q. Could her suicide be a lie? Four years ago my boyfriend received a phone call telling him his on/off girlfriend had killed herself. He didn't go to any funeral, the call was from one of her friends, and I have searched the death records there is...
A. 18 September 2007: I think it should be available through public records in the county she died in, but I am not sure. If you have her soc.sec. records you could probably hire an agency to dig through the court records and determine if there is a death certificate ... (read in full...)
Why don't I want him anymore? What can I do?
Q. Hello, I married my "best friend" 9 years ago. Well, it's been really old for about the last 5 years, but we hung in there. No kids, didn't want them. He goes to the bar every day after work till about 8pm. I go home, make dinner, clean, e...
A. 18 September 2007: Pack your things, find a nice little place to live and tell your husband that you're tired of living like this and yes, you are attracted to someone else. You're spending too much time worrying about his feelings, when he's been absent in your ... (read in full...)
Separated from my wife, we have a sexual relation; I left a nasty message to a man who she exchanged suspicious texts with, now she won't talk to me!
Q. ive really messed up this time, ive been separated from my wife for nearly three years,i work as a taxi driver and pick her up at weekends and go back to my flat for sex, on saturday she fell asleep and i went through her phone to which there was ...
A. 18 September 2007: Nah, I don't think it was a joke. That's the oldest excuse in the books. I think she had a thing going on and you busted her. If you've been separated for 3 yrs. you probably should've known she'd find someone else. I don't know why you guys are ... (read in full...)
Why do I feel so upset after splitting from such a short relationship?
Q. I just finished seeing a guy who I really liked. We were only together for 2 months but Im actually really upset over it. We got on really well but I felt like it was me who always made the effort and always found myself chasing him, although wh...
A. 18 September 2007: Because you know you acted hastily and you let your pride dominate an otherwise good relationship. The men we love are not always on the exact page we are on, at the exact moment we are there. You have to learn patience, my dear. Some men have to ... (read in full...)
Is it best to stay friends after a break up or better to sever all ties?
Q. is it best to stay friends after a break up or is it better to sever all ties? my ex and i were very close and he often said i was his best friend as well as girlfriend! We broke up amicably and he said he wanted us to be like ross and rachel i.e ...
A. 18 September 2007: It's almost always impossible at first. Maybe a year later or so, you'll find your way back to some sort of middle ground of friendship but at the beginning of the break-up, it's best to cut the tie and try to heal. And the thing is, a year later, ... (read in full...)
He didn't add me on facebook b/c it would annoy his ex, and more! Is he over her or what?
Q. Is my guy over his ex? I have found rude pictures of him n his ex(with whom he broke up 2 yrs back),everytime i ask him about her, he is overprotective n blames me of not trusting him. He avoids my questions and blames me instead.He visit...
A. 14 September 2007: He doesn't have an ex. He has a former lover/girlfriend who he hasn't gotten over, and is still trying to figure out how to get back. Prepare yourself my girl, he may very well pack his bags and move to the country she is re-locating to. It ... (read in full...)
He sent me a text about another woman by accident! I'm gutted.
Q. Hi. im 24 and have been with my boyfriend 2 years. last sat night he had a boys night out. i was at home alone when i got a text message from him saying "she can't be more unreal than you..ha. are you settin me up. ha". He obviously meant to send it ...
A. 14 September 2007: He's guilty. And he was letting a friend set him up with another girl. You gave him his walking papers. It may be killing you, but you did the right thing. He's a player. He hasn't contacted you because he was planning on cheating on you anyhow. ... (read in full...)
I think going on holiday with a load of lads is a single thing to do, should I be worried?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend about 3 years and a half and he now wants to go on holiday with a load of lads from work. i dont feel comfortable with this and have told him so but he keeps saying im controlling him but im not. i'm just paranoid that ...
A. 13 September 2007: Yes, his holiday will probably be filled with a few strip joints, several bars, lots of booze and who knows what else. Hence the reason they are all wanting to go away and get away from their mates. Truthfully, if he's in a relationship with you, ... (read in full...)
My ex said he gets sad and lonely - should I tell him that I still have feelings for him?
Q. I was in a short relationship last year, around 2 months. He broke up with me after 2 months saying that it was him and not me. I was so confused as when we were together he would tell me that he has never been so happy. After a year i haven't s...
A. 13 September 2007: Next time you're chatting with him on line and he says he's gets sad and lonely, ask him if there's anything you can do to help. Or you might ask him if he ever misses what the two of you had? Or you might say something like, "yeah, I get sad and ... (read in full...)
Is it normal not to like sex? It's an invasion of privacy for me!
Q. Is it normal to not like sex? i mean i know its not normal in that most people DO enjoy sex but is it anything to be worried about that i really dont like it? It feels far too intimate and like it is a complete invasion of my privacy. i'm 22, ...
A. 13 September 2007: In my opinion, what you have described is not normal. I would suggest counseling at this point, there must be something going on that makes you feel somehow shameful and violated after your boyfriend makes love to you. It could be that you and ... (read in full...)
My bf is still active on the dating site we met on. How do we talk, what should I not say?
Q. I have an online dating question: I have been dating a man now for 6 months that we met on a online dating service. We have got along very well from the very beginning. After two months of dating twice a week and talking on the phone ever...
A. 13 September 2007: Six months is pretty soon into a relationship to be worried about this. Most men keep their options open until they've actually told a woman they love her. Then most will consider themselves to be 'off the market'. What you could do is simply ... (read in full...)
I left my bf of over 7 years after finding out he was member of a sex chat and hsi net profiles were stated single. Overreacting?
Q. Im 23. I left my boyfriend of 7 years just 3 weeks ago, because i found out he was looking at porn, was a member of a sex chat site (1 that i know of), and he was chatting to many girls and his profiles were stated SINGLE. I only found out due to...
A. 13 September 2007: Where's there's smoke, there's fire. It wouldn't be long before he agrees to meet some of these girls for the actual sex. You didn't overreact. You were smart.... (read in full...)
How can I make myself more attractive on the outside?
Q. im tired of being average looking and want to know what i can do to kind of make the most of myself. i know im not UGLY but im far from stunning either. in fact to get a true honest opinion, i registered with hotornot.com where people rate pictures ...
A. 12 September 2007: Have highlights put in your hair, or try a different hair color, one that looks good on your skin tone. Try having a make-over, sometimes getting the right make-up for your skin color and eyes, will make you "pop" suddenly. You could get colored ... (read in full...)
I think I messed up on the second date. Tell me what you think?
Q. Just wondering here... If I were to really screw up our second date so she no longer talks to me (not sure what I did exactly, but I know I did something wrong) do you think there is anything I could say to get a fresh start? Our last date was 3 ...
A. 10 September 2007: Could be one of two things: One she got back with her ex and is no longer on the market anymore. Though it would be nice if she'd simply tell you this. Or two, she came to the conclusion that she wasn't interested in you after the second date ... (read in full...)
I have been given meds for irritable bowel syndrome. But should they be making me bloated?
Q. Hey, I have irrital bowel syndrome and i have been put on Colofac tablets by my doctor, i have recently got servere bloating that hasnt gone away, would these tablets give me severe bloating? As i thought they were supposed to get rid of symtoms ...
A. 10 September 2007: Call your physician and explain these symptoms. He may be able to get you a different drug. Do not delay, there could be something else going on. Good luck.... (read in full...)
I blew this guy out but I now regret it! Should I forget about it?
Q. i really really like this boy butt i blew him out and now i regret it :(! and i really want him back butt hes just bein weird with me now what should i do i tried tellin him how i feel but i said it when we were arguing i guess that was a bad idea ...
A. 10 September 2007: If you've already told him how you feel, and he hasn't really responded in a positive way, I'd say he's not interested. Next time, keep your anger in check and speak from the heart not the anger. Good luck.... (read in full...)
I love him, he loves me... But he doesn't really know who I am!
Q. ok, i have done something slightly insane - and i know its insane but i want that to end and to become reality now but i think i have gone too far for it to over be what i want it to be. let me start at the start and i apologise in advance for h...
A. 7 September 2007: You silly, silly girl what a mess you've dug yourself into! Okay, so he's never seen a photo of the real you?....My only suggestion is that you create a new e-mail account and get to know him all over again, only this time use your real photo and ... (read in full...)
I'm trying to leave him, but he won't let me go. What do I do?
Q. I AM TRYING TO LEAVE HIM ALONE BUT HE WANT LEAVE ME ALONE WHAT DO I DO?...
A. 7 September 2007: Change your phone number. Block his e-mails. Don't answer his text messages. Lock your door. Don't answer it if he comes over. Or move. There are ways to avoid an old lover. You just have to really want to.... (read in full...)
Can a Doctor perform a smear test on a woman, even if there is a nurse present?
Q. can any one help me answar a question ,regarding a male doctor ?can he perform a smear test on a girl/lady even when there is a nurse present?...
A. 7 September 2007: In the U.S. it is a requirement at some clinics for patient protection. It protects the patient and the physician from false accusations, or from temptation either way. It's a good thing. Don't worry, they've probably seen a million women in the ... (read in full...)
I don't know if I can be happy for both of us!
Q. My 32 year boyfriend has everything going for him: he's funny, smart, attractive, physically healthy, with a decent job and a girlfriend who loves him. In all rights he should be happy but the problem is he isn't really living, merely going through ...
A. 7 September 2007: I think he may be depressed. Many people who are suffering from depression don't even realize it. Maybe you can research it on the web and print out a few articles for him (symptoms etc.) maybe he'll read them and then be more open to getting ... (read in full...)
Why do some men show extra affection to their girlfriend in front of other women?
Q. Why do some men show extra affection to their girlfriend in front of other women? This happens to me sometimes in public places, like the grocery store. It is like these men are showing off. As if I am going to be jealous, or impressed. I could ...
A. 6 September 2007: I suspect they're doing it so their girlfriends don't feel jealous. You may be a threat to their ego. Have you ever thought about that? ... (read in full...)
How can I alter this shirt to fit me better?
Q. My mom brought me a shirt for school and it is a bit baggie on me (I cannot return because I have already worn it) can someone give me any ideas on making tighter please?!!!!!...
A. 6 September 2007: You could try using a belt. Or take it to a seamstress and have her take it in. Bring her a shirt that's cut similarly, that does fit you, and see if she can alter the shirt. ... (read in full...)
I think my husband has become infatuated with his mom's carehome nurse!
Q. My husband and I have been married for 15 years. We've had ups and downs for the past four years during which we both struggled caring for his very sick parents. Now his mom is dying. Also just before he turned fifty I noticed a change (last year), ...
A. 6 September 2007: He never calls you when the nurses are there, perhaps he's watching what they do, making sure they are not careless when they are caring for his dying mother. Are they administering her medication correctly? Are they taking her vital signs, ... (read in full...)
Is it common for people to stay in touch with their ex's like this? Should I stop being a fool and do something about it?
Q. I love my boyfriend very much but I am so afraid he is going to leave me. He and his ex have a very messy past and I know he talks to her all the time. I try not to let it bother me, but it really does. I don't understand why he needs to talk ...
A. 6 September 2007: If they didn't have children together (which would rather force them to have more contact in the present) I would say, he still has feelings for his ex. He needs to decide if he's her or it's you he's going to be with and then stick to one of you. ... (read in full...)
Is it possible for him to change???
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years and for the past 2 things were very rocky. He was never physically abusive but he was verbally. He would belittle me in any way possible and it was as if he never saw anything wrong with the way he ...
A. 6 September 2007: He was probably embarrassed. Only time will tell if the treatment is effective. Be supportive for now, and let him have his space to improve on these problems without probing or making him feel like he's under a microscope. Good luck.... (read in full...)
Is this a phantom pregnancy or am I really pregnant?
Q. I have been trying for a baby with my partner of two years I have took 4 home pregnancy test they all say that I am not pregnant but I still have symptoms like sore nipples, stomach ache, feeling sickwhen I eat or after eating, going off my favorite ...
A. 6 September 2007: You could be experiencing a fallopian tube pregnancy, in which case I don't know if an over-the-counter pregnancy test would actually reveal it. Go see your physician and find out for sure. They may have to do an ultrasound to know for sure. Don't ... (read in full...)
He is having an affair and I cant decide what to do!
Q. He's having an affair.I can't decide what to do. I know my partner hasn't always been happy in more recent years (We have been together for 12 years, oldest child 6, youngest 2.) There have been times when he has said he is so bored, that I am ...
A. 6 September 2007: Put the letter in his suitcase and set him free. He's been miserable for years. It sounds like he's only staying for the children and the comfort factor of having someone to come home to, though his actions show he takes you for granted and I ... (read in full...)
I am so in love with two differant girls. Neither is interested, but they are both so perfect in differant ways.
Q. Hi there! I won't name the girls I'm in-love with so I'll only put the first letter of their names. I have so much in common with E, me and her always have endless conversations for hours together but she cheats, lies and betrays so I don't trust ...
A. 6 September 2007: They can't be perfect until they're at least interested in you. Find someone that is. There's more fish in the sea you know.... (read in full...)
I don't get aroused. Any ideas about what might be going on?
Q. This is a bit embarrassing... but I don't know why this happens. Okay I've been with my boyfriend for a year, this is my first boyfriend. I used to get so turned on even when he just kissed me, there was a lot of lubrication and all. Now, it's so ...
A. 6 September 2007: Could be hormonal. Are you taking The Pill? It can sometimes zap your sex drive. As well as other medications if you're taking anything. You may want to go in for a physical to make sure there's no health issues going on that could be impacting ... (read in full...)
I just want to know why my girlfriend doesn't know when she reaches climax...
Q. I just want to know why my girlfriend doesn't know when she reaches climax, she always say "I don't know if I'm done or not" That makes me crazy. What is this and what can I do to make her feel that sweet thing?...
A. 6 September 2007: Trust me, if she was having an orgasm, she would know it and so would you! It's pretty primal in my opinion. Maybe she has never experienced one, so that's why she's not sure. Try different things like Duce suggested. Very few women can orgasm ... (read in full...)
Can he love me that much and still be that relentlessly cruel?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for five months. I hid my past relationships from him, because I didn't want him to think less of me. Last night, we fought on the phone for four hours. I finally told him the truth (I've kissed five boys...
A. 5 September 2007: Please don't tell him any more!! He can't handle it. Besides it's in the past and that's where it needs to stay. You will only wreck your relationship further if you continue to persist in telling him every sorrid detail of your past kisses or ... (read in full...)
Can the size of your vagina change?
Q. Can the size of your vagina change? Or, does it just stay "tight" if it is that way, or loose if it is that way? My guy sometimes will say that mine isn't tight, and it hurts my feelings....
A. 31 August 2007: If you've had kids and delivered them naturally through the vaginal canal, then yes it can change (stretch) considerably after childbirth and usually never goes back to being as tight as it was before you had kids. Sometimes when you get very wet ... (read in full...)
Can he love me that much and still be that relentlessly cruel?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for five months. I hid my past relationships from him, because I didn't want him to think less of me. Last night, we fought on the phone for four hours. I finally told him the truth (I've kissed five boys...
A. 6 August 2007: It's just going to take time. He will figure it out the longer you two are together. If he sees that you won't bail out on him at the drop of a hat, or fight, he'll begin to trust again. My b/f was the same way, especially in the first year we ... (read in full...)
Can he love me that much and still be that relentlessly cruel?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for five months. I hid my past relationships from him, because I didn't want him to think less of me. Last night, we fought on the phone for four hours. I finally told him the truth (I've kissed five boys...
A. 2 August 2007: Oh good lord, you are such a slut to have kissed 5 boys! I don't know what we're going to do with you. ha-ha. But seriously honey, your past is hardly a "past" at all! Your b/f sounds like he's led a very sheltered life and is very immature. ... (read in full...)
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