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writes:are there people out who find it as hard as i do to understand what ladies really want? coz it seems very clear to me that all that girls consider in relationships is money.. unfortunately i dont seem to be that lucky coz am still a university student without who has failed to find a part time job. Does this mean i can never secure a romantic relationship?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2007): thanx alot for all the support and advice you have given me.. I now feel much better and more foccussed . M ay The Almighty God bless all of you oput there
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2007): money isn't everything.
if she disagrees with that statement, she's probably not worth it.
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reader, LauraE  +, writes (27 July 2007):
A few women are outright gold-diggers, but they are in the minority Basschick is absolutely right. In a serious relationship, we want a man who is responsible, and pays his dues. This doesn’t mean rich necessarily, it means solvent and grown-up. To put it another way, a man who earns average or low wages, but is hard working, reliable, and loving is very attractive. A high-earning, arrogant spendthrift is not. Speaking for myself, I have never had a problem with being broke together. I don’t have a problem with earning either more or less than my man.. I felt exactly the same when I was your age, and my friends did too, so there will be girls around who will like you for yourself.
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (27 July 2007):
 Okay, here's a woman's perspective so listen up. We don't all want a man just for his money. But women, by nature and by parental programming tend to want a man who can hold down a job, pay his bills on time, manage his money appropriately (not just blow it all on the day he gets paid), knows how to save a little in case of emergencies and doesn't mind spending a little of it on us now and then. You are young. You are still in school, and struggling to make ends meet right now. This chapter of your life does not define who you will be when you've gotten your degree and landed on your feet in life. It's not so much the money we're after, but the maturity, and the stability that comes from knowing when a guy can manage his life and his finances has alot to do with how we see you as a man. Yes, there are some women who chase after the money. But there are alot of us who will love you regardless, as long as you show us that you're man enough to work, pay your bills, and seem stable enough to be in a relationship with us. At this stage of your life, you're probably dealing with alot of college girls who are still living off of Daddy's money, so it's hard to compete with their level of luxury. Be patient. Stay focused on your degree. Do the best you can to find work so you can learn how to manage your money and budget your bills and the woman will come later you just haven't found the right one yet. I hope this helps you out. xoxox
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (27 July 2007):
 Yep, I think it wouldn't be an exaggeration to say many of us find it very hard to understand women..
Don't worry about the money. You'll find someone who will worry about the value of things, not their price.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2007): If she is, she isnt worth it.Let me tell you. Ive been with my partner 7 years now. (im 23) and when we met, he had nothing. I remember going to McDonalds the once and giving all 1p coins (UK) for a flurry to share as a treat !
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reader, tadala  +, writes (26 July 2007):
 I can honestly say that a guy's money has nothing to do with if I would date him or not. There are girls out there that aren't completely shallow. Good luck!!!
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reader, Dr. John +, writes (26 July 2007):
 Let me tell you friend,
if all a girl is interested in is money you don't want her anyway because her focus will only be on money and not on you.
That will for sure make for a short relationship because even if she will never be satisfied.
On the flip side if she cares for you then money is treated only as a necessity between you.
I know of many couples who have not ever been able to make ends meet and still have been happily married for many many years.
Hang in there. Somewhere out there walking around right now is your perfect match. She will love you for who you are, not what you have. I wish you much success. Doc.
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