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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2007): There's no set age when you're ready for sex. Some people may not be ready at 17, yet others may be ready by 14 or earlier. The main thing is you must not feel pressurised into doing this. It must be your choice and that of your partner.
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reader, crazyone  +, writes (3 August 2007):
 Hey,its' your choice.Personal I think if your a teen and wise about your choices you'll be fine.If you really love the guy and he knows to use a condom and your both cool with it go ahead.Make sure he doesn't have any STD's.MAKE SURE YOUR REALLY READY!!
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reader, caraduddy  +, writes (2 August 2007):
 Im also 14. I don't think its too young but some adults would be like ITS TOO YOUNG!!. They don't think the same as we do. I say.. if you realy like the peron and u know they like you. Go for it. But if its only for fun I say save it for someone special (if its your first time). Many peole do regret it at an older age but some people may not. Its up to you anyway. If you don't want kids use protection(obviosly lol). Gd luck. Msg me if u want to chat xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2007): I do not believe when people say oh gosh no you are being an idiot, its illegal! It is'nt going to stop anyone! I am 15, about 65 % of my year have had sex. They do not regret it, but may in the future, i don't know. Listen and think are you ready? Don't be swayed by other people it is your body and you are your own best friend. Talk to your friends about it and see what they say. But whatever you do don't gain a bad reputation, be careful.
Message me if you need more advice, i am always here :)
Good Luck X
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reader, [email address blocked] +, writes (2 August 2007):
yes u are to young to have sex at 14 teen if i was u i would wait till find the right person
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (1 August 2007):
 Yes you are too young. I had sex for the first time when I was 15 and I've always regretted it. It sort of labels you somehow. But then again, I'm still a bit of a bad girl.
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reader, Uncle Trev +, writes (1 August 2007):
At fourteen you are most probably below the age for consent which makes the act of intercourse an illegal one wreather you are ready or not. The only way it would not be illegal is if the state you are in, the of consent of fourteen or below.
At the end of the day the only person who knows if it is right for you to have sex at 14 is you. You know how developed you are and how sexually mature you are as well. If you feel it is right then who am I to say it is not wrong for you. Providing you are doing it for the right reason and not because of peer pressure or unwelcomne pressure from a partner.
You will probably find the general consensous of opinion here is a big no - but this in the vast majority of cases at 14 is the best advice but only you know where you are and how you feel and it is this instinct that you have to rely on here.
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reader, Sweet-thing +, writes (1 August 2007):
 Yes. It would be best to wait a few more years.
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reader, Rymo +, writes (1 August 2007):
some people ARE "Mature" enough for sex at 14 or even younger.heck most ancient societies got married at 12 and even younger! People will tell you not to, the “law” will tell you not to, today’s society will tell you it’s wrong and your too young – because that’s what they have been brought up to believe, had they had different teachers their views would be different.The fact you are seeking advice suggest that you are unsure (but responsible) my guess is you already know the answer but want to be swayed, so probably you are not ready. It’s no big deal; you are obviously going to have sex one day. Just wait for it. Don’t be pressured by friend’s or influenced by others. People are generally stupid, they have all these views of right and wrong which aren’t even their own, but that of the times we live in and societies that suround us.At the end of the day you are your own best friend, be good to yourself!xx
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reader, advice lady +, writes (1 August 2007):
What are you thinking! Of course your too young and your body hasnt fully developed yet and this could be dangerous, it is also importantly against the law and maybe your just curious about sex or is someone asking you? What happens if you fall pregnant and become a young single mother at 14! If they are older than you this can get them into serious trouble for underage sex. Be careful
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2007): There is only one answer: yes. It is illegal to have sex until you are at least 16 (or 18, as it is in some countries).
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reader, kenny +, writes (1 August 2007):
 Yes this age is to young, not only because your body is not mature enough, but it is also against the law.
If you slept with someone older they could get in to alot of trouble. Wait a couple of years at least untill you are over the age of consent.
Good luck x
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reader, Midge +, writes (1 August 2007):
 Absolutely! At 14 your body hasnt fully developed.
Other than the fact that you will know it is illegal to have a sexual relationship at that age in the USA. The penalties for the partner can be horendous in a number of US states.
Leave it for a couple of years until your body has matured enough. Not to mention the fact that at that age you are also mentally more mature.
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