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Love:1. strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personal ties.2.attraction based on sexual desire.3. affection based on admiration, benevolence, or common interests.4. unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for the good of another.5. the fatherly concern of God for humankind.
We each have it within ourselves to love whomever we choose to open our hearts to.As such love is among the least important qualities in a real working relationship.
Trust,communication,happiness,friendship,kindness,compassion,
affection,loyalty,warmth,understanding,commitment,respect.
If you have these things you have love even if your eyes are not open to it.It is equally possible to not have these things and still have love.Love is a powerful emotion and can make us do many things that are not healthy for us.
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My wife keeps lying to me!
Q. wow, it's been almost a month since my wife told me she had sex with a coworker. At first i belived her guilt. she had not got caught, and i believed all of her lies up till she told me. she seems very sorry, and whants to [be what she knows we can ...
A. 17 July 2010: ask yourself these questions....
1. How often am I happy now.
2. How often before I found out.
3. How much can you really believe her.
4. Is it worth risking this pain again.
No one is perfect,and people are deserving of a second ch... (read in full...)
Should I end this relationship if she doesn't want to settle into to our new place?
Q. I`m 32,my gf is 20.we have a 3 month old girl together.We have been living together for the past year mostly at her mothers until she kicked us out.So for the past month I have been trying to get my trailer situated.She has been staying with me all ...
A. 27 May 2010: Because of your answers I opened a line of communication and we came to a compromise.(All my friends and family I talked to said I was doing the right thing, but I put more trust in the outside opinion.)I`ll pick her up this weekend and will try ... (read in full...)
How can I trust her after her fling?
Q. My girlfriend of three months, whom I've known for six years, chose to have a two day fling with her ex while he was in town. We have talked about what happened and I don't feel I got a strait answer of why this occurred. She has told me they are ...
A. 7 January 2010: Is there a chance your relationship could evolve into something lasting and desirable? Of course there is but your looking at somewhere between 4 and 15 percent odds that it will work out for you. It`s your choice to make and not one that I envy. ... (read in full...)
How do I make things right with my husband after I fell in love with someone else?
Q. I am 20 years old and started dating my husband when I was 16 years old. We tied the knot when I was 18 years old. Since we have been together, we have only physically been together a total of 9 months due to his deployments. Because of his ...
A. 7 January 2010: 1. You took marriage vows.We are all human and subject to mistake but you should give your marriage every chance you can. 2. With the amount of damage caused by both sides you will need outside help to resolve all the trust issues. 3. Love... (read in full...)
Confused about what to do with my shy guy....
Q. My boyfriend and I started dating a little under two months ago, during our break, and when we'd go out with our friends or just by ourselves things would be great. I'm his first girlfriend and he's obscenely shy in the first place, so it took a lot ...
A. 19 August 2009: Try talking to him about your problem.Let him know what you have told us.Tell him you wish to see him more.Maybe you could walk slower and not meet up with your friends? Might help you to spend more time with him,and will signal that you value your ... (read in full...)
Confused about what to do with my shy guy....
Q. My boyfriend and I started dating a little under two months ago, during our break, and when we'd go out with our friends or just by ourselves things would be great. I'm his first girlfriend and he's obscenely shy in the first place, so it took a lot ...
A. 19 August 2009: Try talking to him about your problem. Let him know what you have told us. Tell him you wish to see him more. Maybe you could walk slower and not meet up with your friends? Might help you to spend more time with him, and will signal that you value ... (read in full...)
In love with my friend for 10 years, but he's attached and I don't know what to do!
Q. I am in love, and I don't know what to do about it. Now, this might seem like a bit of a lovey dovey statement, and I am sure, you think I've got some silly crush - I'm 26 years old, I know what they are and this certainly isn't it. I have known...
A. 19 August 2009: I haven`t been through anything remotely similar, but if it was me I would casually mention "Too bad your already taken because I wish you were my man", or something to that effect. Don`t push the issue, but don`t hide your true feelings either.... (read in full...)
Is it considered cheating when you don't disclose that you talk to others online?
Q. Is it okay to talk to different guys online while you are not committed to any of them yet? Do you consider it cheating when each of these guys doesn't know you talk to others as well? I know for sure these guys talk to other ladies on dating...
A. 13 August 2009: Of course it`s not cheating.With out any commitments how can it be?When I was single I talked to more than one girl at once,even dated a few at the same time.Personally I wouldn`t lie about it.But if you not asked there`s no obligation to ... (read in full...)
How do I go about making a threesome in the best way for both of us?
Q. Me and my fiance have been together for a long time and had our ups and dwns and I want to make things interesting by having a 3 sum before we tie the knot to make up for the too low of a budget for bachlor and bachlorette parties. I'm fine with ...
A. 9 August 2009: I disagree with April.Cheating is when you do something behind the others back.I have never had a 3 some but my fiance is open to the idea.If it ever happens I`ve told her she gets to pick the girl.Make sure your comfortable with it or it won`t ... (read in full...)
Help...I don't know who the father is! What should I do?
Q. Well I'm 8 months pregnant and I'm in a pickle... I've been with J for a year now, but sometime around christmas we had a fight and I went to my exs house (T) and u can do that math on that, well I went to Ts house christmas eve and then christmas ...
A. 9 August 2009: If the child is not his sooner or later he will probably figure it out.The baby may still be J`s though.Due dates are a funny thing.If you was with J a week before or after T then either may be the father.I think you should let J know of your ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is infertile... is there away for us to have a child together?
Q. my botfriend is sterile. hes 24, im 39. weve been together for 4 and a half yrs. how can he go about having a child? he doesnt want me to be artificialed inceminated. is there any way to get his sperm cell count back? i dont know why hes ...
A. 9 August 2009: I don`t know anyway to raise a sperm count,but if I was sterile I would get my father or one of my brothers to donate the sperm for use.Maybe you could suggest that as an option for him to consider. ... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin and he's not, what do I do seen as he is moving a bit too fast?
Q. Hi, I have a question about my relationship with my boyfriend. I am 19 almost 20 and he's 21, I'm a virgin and he's not. We have been dating for two months now, and I have told him that I'm still a virgin and that he's not allowed to touch certain ...
A. 22 July 2009: I`ve never been in a wait till marriage relationship,so don`t know if I can give good advice here.I respect your decision and feel the world would be a better place if more people were like you.If I was with a girl that insisted on waiting I would ... (read in full...)
Why wont they accpet that I don't drink and stop pressuring me?
Q. My bf, his whole family, and his friends all keep trying to force me to drink through pressuring me. I keep telling them I dont drink, but they wont accept it, they continue to harrass me non stop. They buy me alcoholic drinks and say "you have to ...
A. 22 July 2009: I won`t say I never drink but it has been over a year seance my last.I don`t care for the lack of good judgment alcohol creates.If I was in your shoes I would put the ultimatum to your bf.If he continues to pressure you to drink you will leave ... (read in full...)
Confused about my teachers behaviour
Q. hey guys I really need help. Earlier on the month I posted a question about me feeling like my teacher was flirting and I really didn't get a lot of feed back on it and I'm still hung up about the whole thing. I think about it a lot and every time...
A. 22 July 2009: I agree 100% with anonymous.No good can come of this.You want me to agree he wants to sleep with you?Ok sure,but do you really wanna be a home wrecker?This guy is married.If he is really willing to sleep around then he is dirt.Its really that ... (read in full...)
She doesn't initiate contact - should I move on?
Q. Since last year, it has becomes long distance relationship. It goes well for the first few months then have a huge fight. Problem rooted from trust issue and we ended up badly. I believe it is both fault. If only I trust her little more and ...
A. 22 July 2009: Personally I would go with the last email approach. Basically just write what you have said here.Tell her how you feel,but your getting the impression she doesn`t feel the same,and why.Let her know that this is your last effort to contact her,and ... (read in full...)
He was billed for a phone sex line but is denying it
Q. ok here goes...my husband got a bill in the mail today well it was for a 6 min talk to phone sex number...he said he didn't do it but I call it back and the first thing they ask you for is your credit card number..and the bill he got had the last ...
A. 22 July 2009: Its a safe bet that he did it.And normally I would say its no big deal.The thing that sucks is he lied to you.Maybe hes embarrassed about it or whatever.Its still not cool.Talk to him.Let him know how he has hurt your feelings and why.I personally ... (read in full...)
How can I drive him crazy and reciprocate all he does for me?
Q. This isn't a problem, but I was wondering what does this mean about his "tastes"? My boyfriend loves to go down on me and he will do everything he can to make me cum. He also likes anal sex, and sniffing my used (gross, I know) panties. Now, i am n...
A. 22 July 2009: If your unsure the best way to find out is to ask.... (read in full...)
Husband told me he is not in love with me anymore
Q. Me and my husband have been married for 4-1/2 years now and for the past three years we have lived in two different states. When we moved the first time he brought a lot of debt with him that I was unaware of and then became quickly aware of. I ...
A. 22 July 2009: Its a hard thing to hear that he doesn`t love you.But him saying it by no means makes it true.He might believe it but deep down I don`t believe love ever goes away.I still love everyone I have ever loved to this day regardless of how they may have ... (read in full...)
I'm a 29 year old virgin that doesn't want to wait anymore
Q. I'm a 29yr old virgin, and while I know that's 'okay', I really would like to have a (few) sexual experience(s) before I turn thirty. (And please don't give me self-esteem advice or wait-for-fate advice. I just really want to try this, in case I ...
A. 22 July 2009: I could tell you what works for me. I personally like using myspace to pick up women. The strategy is to do a user search for the criteria your looking for. Mainly singles. Send out 15+ emails saying "Hi,thought you looked sexy and couldn`t pass ... (read in full...)
Don't want to lose our friendship, but I want to move on
Q. In January me and the father of my 2 kids broke up- we had been together for 7 years. It was a bad relationship- constant fighting, and cheating. In January he left me for another girl- I didnt even put up a fight because I knew there was no point. ...
A. 22 July 2009: He has already moved on. Just because he is single at the moment is meaningless. He is the father of your children so you don`t want to shut him out completely. But that doesn't mean you have to share all the details of your life with him ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's blue balls.....he says if I don't give him head he will leave me!
Q. My boyfriend says every time we hang out he gets blue balls and is in pain for hours, even days. It causes him headaches and muscle cramps too. I do plenty of sexual things for him almost every time we hang out. He's tried masturbating beforehand, ...
A. 21 July 2009: Sounds to be like he`s trying to make you into his bitch. His personal little sex slave.I have had blue balls a few times.Always form sexual activities that didn`t end in fulfillment. You don`t get emm by just seeing someone.His actions clearly ... (read in full...)
She doesn't know I'm gay but feels I'm impotent. Help me solve this!
Q. i am gay but got married to a female. now i am having problem with sex with her as i do get erection, she does not know that am gay but feels that i am impotent. plz solve my problem....
A. 20 July 2009: Come clean with your wife,maybe suggest the idea of adding a third person into your relationship.Someone you can share?... (read in full...)
Men: When is a women being cold?
Q. guys when is a women being cold? when she doesnt get in touch for a few days, in another hand is texting or emailing every day just too much? what would you guys like from us as a thirty something woman ive still never figured out how to play it...
A. 20 July 2009: I`m sorry but honestly I would be thinking the same thing.... (read in full...)
Due to college, we are breaking up in late August! What are some other options so we don't have to do this?
Q. I've known my boyfriend for a full year but have gotten serious since march. I'm 19 years old ( going to be my 2nd year on college) and he's 26 with a stable job ( has his life straight for the most part).since march, we've been doing a long ...
A. 20 July 2009: He seams perfect.Don`t think that just because your not dating your not experiencing life.If you have found happiness don`t be so quick to let go.College is only a few years and your relationship can continue to grow.He is wiling to put in a lot ... (read in full...)
My bf says it's wrong for me to remain nice to people I dislike. Is he right?
Q. i'm normally a really nice person, and people know me for this. even if its someone i genuinely dislike for something she did to me in the past etc i am not mean to her, and i remain polite if she strikes a conversation with me. sometimes i tend to ...
A. 20 July 2009: That is a choice we all have to make for ourselves.And I`m like you in this regard.As a rule I`m generally nice to a person even if I don`t like them.I`ll just make more of an effort to avoid them.I don`t see the point in adding undue hardship by ... (read in full...)
I still love him and I really don't want to anymore!
Q. Hello, i am an 17 year old and newly single. My ex relationship was huge. He was my bestfriend and a great person everyone loved that he took care of me and loved me. I am sick and tired of thinking I did something wrong. He and i got into a fight ...
A. 20 July 2009: Love can be a hard thing.And love is not the best determining factor in a relationship.If he made you happy and your still thinking of being with him talk to him and see where he is at.Don`t wait for him to come to you.After a month if he is ... (read in full...)
Is there an instrument that detects infidelity?
Q. if i have sex with another man will my husband know? i hear there is an instrument which detects that on this date you had sex with another man is it true? please assist?...
A. 20 July 2009: I have never heard of such a thing.And if he hasn`t used such a thing on you before why would you think he would start now? But please for goodness sake, don`t cheat on your husband. Such actions are down right evil. Try repairing the problems ... (read in full...)
Should I change my number, or am I overreacting?
Q. Okay, so I starting seeing this guy about a month ago and we used to date about 3 years ago and I left him because I found out he was talking to another girl. I just had a baby about 5 months ago and really was hurt by my child's father and haven't ...
A. 20 July 2009: You broke up with him and are thinking of changing you # because he`s not calling you? Overreacting. Your worried because you call and it takes him 30 minuets to get back to you.Overreacting.You have no proof of any wrongdoing on this guys part,but ... (read in full...)
Is friends with benefits more emotional than a relationship?
Q. Friends with benefits people say its less emotional but surely its more? because if you've been friends with them for some time then you would care for them a lot, probably more than a new boyfriend so if you lose them then not only do you los...
A. 20 July 2009: Fwb is less than a relationship. Why? For the simple fact that there is no commitment. If your looking for emotional ties this is not the way to go. As a male this form of relationship is used as a means of satisfying physical desires while still ... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant...but who is the father??
Q. i am 10wks and 6days pregnant, i broke up with my boyfriend on the 15th may 2009 but we continued sleeping together unprotected, however, on the 21st may 2009 i slept with another guy, i used a condom and no splits or tears were noticable but i am ...
A. 20 July 2009: Simple math suggests its your bf`s baby. By 2weeks and some change.You probably conceived around May 5th. ... (read in full...)
I've just found out she had a threesome and this is eating away at me!
Q. I really need some help here. Me and my girlfriend broke up a couple months ago. I had sex with one girl, shortly after the relationship ended and again two weeks later. She found out about both as i admided to it. She then procieded to have sex ...
A. 20 July 2009: Your revision really hasn`t changed any of the original facts. To be blunt this girl seams easy.In my experience easy girls never make good partners.That being said your best bet is to forget her and move on. ... (read in full...)
Is it true that men will have sex with any female who is willing?
Q. Is it true that men can have sex with any female. If female is willing and approaching them , they never say no. Even if they love their partner, but for sex they everready for any female. Male readers plz answer this question...
A. 20 July 2009: No this is not true.I have turned down sex on more then one occasion. Even while being single because I didn`t want a relationship with them. I`m not going to say I`ve never cheated on any of my girlfriends because I have. But I can say I`ve never ... (read in full...)
I like another man, but I feel I should be working on what's missing in my relationship. I don't know what to do!
Q. I have been with my partner for 11 years. I always thought that we were happy until 3 years ago when I met a man who made my stomach flip and made me realise that things were missing in our relationship. We were just friends but I looked forward to ...
A. 20 July 2009: Eleven years is a long time to be with someone and just throw it all away.On the other hand you need more than your partner is offering.I know you have tried talking to your partner in the past but try again.Let him know you feel something is ... (read in full...)
I really like him but I'm getting mixed signals. I need tips to help me be strong!
Q. Hi can you please help I started seeing this really hot guy who lived in the apartment block next to me. He has given a lot of attention, which really is very flattering as His type would be out of my league. Even though he lived in the next apa...
A. 20 July 2009: This is a tough one.The mixed signals are confusing me as to this guys interest in you.Honestly though I don`t see to much of a future here,but I could defiantly be wrong on this. Try to take a step back from the situation.Close the blinds,draw ... (read in full...)
I broke up with my boyfriend of four years a month ago...is it bad I'm dating again already?
Q. I Broke up with my serious boyfriend of 4 years a month ago....is it bad im dating already? Only been on one date but have another this weekend.......i still think about my ex but know it was the right thing to do as i was looking else were and ...
A. 20 July 2009: If your comfortable with the idea then its the right thing to do.Dwelling on the past is no way to move forward with life.Ease your mind of this.If you was my friend I would tell you to go out and have a good time.There is no rush on things.You ... (read in full...)
My family want to meet my boyfriend, but I'm scared of what they'll think of him!
Q. my mum and dad and the rest of my family really want to meet my boyfriend i am very scared of what they will think of him what do i do ?? do you think i should invite him round and let him meet evry1 or not ? x...
A. 20 July 2009: If you plan to keep him as your bf then eventually they are going to meet him.So you may as well set it up so they can get the opportunity to see this guy that has captured your heart.From a guys perspective meeting the parents is a terrifying ... (read in full...)
My parents want to meet my boyfriend but I'm scared they will judge him!
Q. my parents really want to meet my bf but im really scared and nervous that they will judge him straight away i dont think its fair at all. my last bf they met when we went up to my room my mum would make my brother chek on us like 24-7 it was so a...
A. 20 July 2009: I agree with satindesire on this.Your bringing your bf into your parents house.He should take the time to talk to them and not hide out in your room.I know it can be awkward and uncomfortable to do so,but it is still the right thing to do. Try ... (read in full...)
What did I do wrong this time?
Q. we have been together for 1 and a half now, by now i know when he is upset with me. today he is in other one of those sarcastic moods, yesterday we had a little bit of a dispute, he would normally tell me if he is going to the race track or if he is ...
A. 20 July 2009: Acting negatively to a negative reaction is a natural impulse but more often than not is the wrong thing to do.It only creates more tension and hard feelings.I don`t suggest you call him but don`t ignore him in turn.There is a chance your man is ... (read in full...)
Why'd she make a sexual move and then say she only likes me as a friend?
Q. ryt ive been friends with this girl 4 over 2 years and recently ive started to like her. a few weeks ago she came to my house to watch a film, we were in bed cuddling and she kept stroakin my arm n holding my hand, she also put my hand on her boob...
A. 20 July 2009: Girls like guys that know what they want.She made a move and you didn`t react to it in the way she had anticipated.At this point you can try to explain to her and that your still new to the dating game and how nervous you were .She more than likely ... (read in full...)
He held my hand, then he didn't. What should I do about it?
Q. I went to a movie with this guy and at the very end we held hands. The next night me and my friend went to his house and watched a movie. I sat next to him but he never held my hand...It was kinda awkward. I like him alot but i dont know what i s...
A. 19 July 2009: The situation was probably just as awkward for him.He was probably embarrassed to display affection in front of others. Next time you talk to him bring it up that you would have like to have held his hand.He will probably say that he did to , and ... (read in full...)
Why'd she make a sexual move and then say she only likes me as a friend?
Q. ryt ive been friends with this girl 4 over 2 years and recently ive started to like her. a few weeks ago she came to my house to watch a film, we were in bed cuddling and she kept stroakin my arm n holding my hand, she also put my hand on her boob...
A. 19 July 2009: Well she is defiantly attracted to you so don`t give up yet if you really hold an interest.She is young and confused as to what she wants,or may just not want anything serious at this time.It`s hard to say for sure what she feels.There is not much ... (read in full...)
Men: When is a women being cold?
Q. guys when is a women being cold? when she doesnt get in touch for a few days, in another hand is texting or emailing every day just too much? what would you guys like from us as a thirty something woman ive still never figured out how to play it...
A. 17 July 2009: Long distance relationships won`t hold up forever.Have you approached the subject of something more serious?How willing would you or he be to moving?If your not talking on a daily basis I wouldn`t suggest approaching the subject yet.Just put as much ... (read in full...)
I've just found out she had a threesome and this is eating away at me!
Q. I really need some help here. Me and my girlfriend broke up a couple months ago. I had sex with one girl, shortly after the relationship ended and again two weeks later. She found out about both as i admided to it. She then procieded to have sex ...
A. 17 July 2009: Wow and ouch. You were separated at the time so you can`t hold a grudge or hard feelings. At least not openly. Your best bet is to probably re-evaluate whatever it was you had with this girl. Why did you separate in the first place? And do some ... (read in full...)
Men: When is a women being cold?
Q. guys when is a women being cold? when she doesnt get in touch for a few days, in another hand is texting or emailing every day just too much? what would you guys like from us as a thirty something woman ive still never figured out how to play it...
A. 16 July 2009: Keep talking.Send him messages.Why is he so busy?How far away is he?... (read in full...)
Men: When is a women being cold?
Q. guys when is a women being cold? when she doesnt get in touch for a few days, in another hand is texting or emailing every day just too much? what would you guys like from us as a thirty something woman ive still never figured out how to play it...
A. 15 July 2009: Communication is vital.If your not talking over a 4 day period then the relationship is up in the air.If your scared to talk to him when he is on-line send him a letter while he is off line.Talk about anything.Whats new in your life.Ask him anything ... (read in full...)
Men: When is a women being cold?
Q. guys when is a women being cold? when she doesnt get in touch for a few days, in another hand is texting or emailing every day just too much? what would you guys like from us as a thirty something woman ive still never figured out how to play it...
A. 15 July 2009: First off everyone is different.Just be yourself,and treat your partner or interest how you would like them to treat you. I personally like a lot of contact.If my gf went 24 hours without contacting me I would seriously think there was someth... (read in full...)
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