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writes:I consider myself heterosexual with strong bi tendencies. My friend Adam is straight to the best of my knowledge, as well. Anyways, we ended up taking E together. First, we ended up making out. By the end of the night, we were naked, in bed, and giving oral sex to each other. I ended up going home at around 3 in the morning. At the end of the night, we were laughing and feeling good about the whole thing. It was really hot and a lot of fun. The next day... I have no idea what to say to him. He has been my best friend since we were 12. I would love to continue to explore our sexuality together. At the same time, I would respect if he wanted to stop. I just have no idea what to say or do. Also, we both have girlfriends. Pretty confused right now.Lance
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reader, telf32  +, writes (7 August 2007):
 I think the answer here is simple. Talk to him about it. Start with an open question such as "remember the other night - how wierd was that". And just gauge his response. If its posiitive, suggest you do it again (but leave out the "E"). If his initial response is not so good, let it go for now, but make it known you're happy to talk about it and it changes nothing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2007): What you have to find out for yourself is do you fancy your friend sexually when you're not under the influence of drugs? As aforementioned drugs can alter peoples judgements and perceptions. Maybe you would have never even considered this if you hadn't taken them. Also you have to take into account your girlfriends feelings. How would she react to find not only you cheating on her but with a man? I think it's time for you to assess the situation and I really do think you should discuss things over with your friend before you make any decisions. Maybe it's a one off or it could lead to a relationship, but no matter what you do, someone somewhere is going to get hurt. Please don't take any more drugs they only cloud your true feelings.
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reader, shaye  +, writes (27 July 2007):
hi lance, i think you really should talk to your friend about it he maybe feeling the same way you do.If he decides to keep on exploring with you thats great! if not you can still have a beautiful friendship together. i really hope you get what ur looking for xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2007): I think it is a case of the effects of the drug you took making you hyper sexual, which is known effect of E, and you took your sexuality out on the nearest person that you felt safe enough to do that with. Now you are justifying your behavior by deciding you are bi sexual, you are trying to square your behavior with who you think you are, but the real truth is that you are experimenting with drugs first and their effects on your relationships second.
By the way, E is one of the most addicting drugs out there, and it literally eats holes in your brain, continue on this path and you will have the brain function of an 80 year old in no time along with impaired judgement and dementia setting in by the time you are 30....you don't know what you are if you are taking that drug, my man.
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reader, leonard j.Douglas  +, writes (27 July 2007):
The sexual tags that society hangs on people's sexuality is nothing more than cultural crap,as I see it. there is really no such thing as Hetrosexuality or Homosexuality, for both gender are Bisexual's, Who choose who they want to have sex with, which can be same sex, or opposite gender, or even both gender. Someday,mankind, will wake-up and discover that all human's are the product of their genes and also their pheromonal maturation. And who we care to love then won't really matter.
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reader, leonard j.Douglas +, writes (27 July 2007):
The sexual tags that society hangs on people's sexuality is nothing more than cultural crap,as I see it. there is really no such thing as Hetrosexuality or Homosexuality, for both gender are Bisexual's, Who choose who they want to have sex with, which can be same sex, or opposite gender, or even both gender. Someday,mankind, will wake-up and discover that all human's are the product of their genes and also their pheromonal maturation. And who we care to love then won't really matter.
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (27 July 2007):
 Okay, so number one, you cheated on your g/f. Number two, you cheated on your g/f with a guy. That's gonna hurt when she finds out. So it's time for damage control. You need to figure out if you want to stay in the relationship you have with your g/f, or is it time to move on? Also, just like any fling you're feeling confused because you're not sure you should've done what you did, you're not sure you should pursue it, or pretend it didn't happen. Talk to your friend Adam. See how he's feeling in the aftermath. That should give you a good idea about the direction your friendship will head after this event. Then you need to decide if you want to tell your g/f what you did behind her back, or sweep it under the rug and just know you won't be dishonest in any of your relationships after this. Good luck.
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reader, DJ8433 +, writes (27 July 2007):
 You could chalk it up to curiosity, but if you think it's something you want to explore more, then I suggest you do. You may decide your gay for now and go back to heterosexual later. You may decide after a few times that you're okay with both and need it. What I would not do is get into a serious committed relationship until you decide what you are. Oh, and practice safe sex.
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reader, Helen Help! :) +, writes (27 July 2007):
 hey huni sounds pretty confusing i cant really relate to you but im gunna have a go at helping you any way ok so 1stly i cheated on my bf with sum1 i work with n we both have partners we slept togather n thn the next time i saw him we pretended like nothing had happend we both knew it did n we both enjoyd it but thats as far as it went cuz our partners sooo u can either jus act cool n natural dnt say n e thing bout it and jus have normal convos with him ull have to start one n thn wait to see if any thing happends again or u can simply sit down and ask him about it tell him no matter what ull respect his decision and u can keep this a secret jus anything to take the pressure off him but becarful as some people 1stly like to deny how they feel some people dont want to admit there sexuality so if he starts insisting tht hes nt gay and it was just the drugs then i say leave it be hell come out wen hes ready it may be a case that it was jus the drugs i dont no alot about the effects of E but i no it can make people do crazy things in which case just leave it be or u may end up losing him as a friend good luck :)
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