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writes:ok i met my ex b/f through the internet and i moved to the city he was studying to live together.It was the best year of my life.he was telling me all the time how much he loves me and he was showing it in many ways and promised after graduating and getting a job to get married.four months before his last exams i caught him chatting with other girls.he said that these were crap and told me not to throw everything for nothing.i believed him and suddenly one day he told me he wasnt in love anymore and he cant make me happy but saying that he loves me.it was a hard period for him due to the exams.i left the city and before he said:you will see there will be a time that i will come back begging.since then we were chatting through internet and now he avoids me.i sent him a letter telling him that i miss him and love him and he didnt say anything.he keeps contact with me for 5 minutes every now and nothing further.notice that he had an operation and he needs a month to recover.why isnt he honest?why he doesnt say clearly what he wants so that i can move on with my life?deep inside i believe he will come back to me.what do you think of all these?
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (1 August 2007):
 He may, he may not. Your best bet is to just move on for now. If he comes back, he knows how to find you. If not, then learn from the experience and know that you'll find someone else, someone who is more sure of themselves and ready for a wonderful gal like you.
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reader, Rymo  +, writes (1 August 2007):
I think he's grown bored, but doesn’t want to cut ties completely just encase he changes his mind. Then there you are! Waiting for him! A safety net if you like.
Basically I think he's being really selfish! in your heart of hearts - (weather you want him back or not aside) do you really believe that he still "cares" for you?
Come on, he's move on but has just left a bridge to get back to you if he feels like it. What are you to do, wait around forever encase this ever happens!
My advice, go on with your life. Worse case scenario is you get a new Boy Friend and then the old one shows up wanting to take you back - no big deal then you are in control!
Do what you want, but for gods sake, don’t just sit there waiting for him.
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reader, blissxixta  +, writes (1 August 2007):
 Hi gal. Your story is really touching. I can't believe you went the extra mile making sure you keep in touch with him. But i need to say-keep loving never stop loving....don't mind him because he is fake. Internet love is not 100%...it's 50% for sure. So i would advice you not to put all your efforts on meeting guys online. Internet dating is not too good ..you may ask me why? Well it is simple. People use the computer to tell lies and they hide their identity, their dirty desires and the ugly side of life, so it is not healthy for a relationship to b held on mr or miss nobody But we chat online everyday and he told me he loves..dont put your trust on mere words- when someone loves you-the person would love you for who you are. In fact, he would see you as the only beautiful woman in the world. Believe me.
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