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writes:My fiance and his ex-girlfriends shares a son together. things are awesome between us, maybe fought twice in 3 years. He was with his ex for 10 years and they fought almost everyday. we are 3 months from getting married. His ex confessed to him that she is still in love with him. Knowing that she's done so many bad things to him in the past, he's still considering leaving me and stopping the wedding to get back with her. Especially knowing that we have a great relationship together, why would he even consider wanting to return to that horrible past?
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (1 August 2007):
 My guess is he still loves her. And because they have a child together. He may also be addicted to the ups and downs of the stormy relationship they had, rather than the flat-line stability of yours. Some people consider it boring when things are too calm. Especially after 10 yrs. of battling with someone, they somehow equate that fire with passion. There's not much you can do. I'm guessing you were his rebound girl. It's too bad you didn't figure this out before things got so serious.
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reader, splendid_spiders +, writes (1 August 2007):
Oh my gosh! Girl, I'm sorry, but I don't think anyone can answer questions like this. I've had this happen to me before many years ago and I still don't understand. I'm sorry to say this, but you really should reconsider your feelings for a man like this. If he can't see how much better off he is with you, he's really not worth your time. And I would no longer even speak of marriage with this man! More than likely, if he gets back with her,they will start fighting again and then he will just keep running back and forth between the two of you. This is going to waste precious years of your life! If I was you, I'd put my foot down now before it's too late. I'd get strong, set some personal goals, pack his bag and move on. And this is what I'd tell him : "you can go back with her if you want because I don't want you anyway!" and leave it at that! And it will hurt, but you will live. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2007): because he still loves her and yea your fun and he cares but hun he just cares more for the baby mama ex i hate to say it put you need to let him know choose now because your done holding your peace do not let this man take the best out of you the heart wants what the heart wants you cant make him love you more or make him saty all i say is keep in mind everything can fall down and your hearts at sake
good luck doll
sincerly luva
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