Can the size of your vagina change?
Q. Can the size of your vagina change? Or, does it just stay "tight" if it is that way, or loose if it is that way? My guy sometimes will say that mine isn't tight, and it hurts my feelings....
A. 31 August 2007: If you've had kids and delivered them naturally through the vaginal canal, then yes it can change (stretch) considerably after childbirth and usually never goes back to being as tight as it was before you had kids. Sometimes when you get very wet ... (read in full...)
Should a guy satisfy the girl first and then themselves??
Q. Is it just me, or should guys care about satisfying the girl first, and then themselves during sexual relations? It just seems like the guy I am with only cares about pleasing himself. ...
A. 31 August 2007: That's because there are men who are selfish in bed, and men who are giving in bed. Your is not the latter. Maybe he just doesn't know how...?... (read in full...)
I've been with him 10 months and he's started eyeing up women on tv and in the street. He says its normal but I've told him I dont like it!
Q. Should I leave my fiance? The other night we were watching a movie and everytime a "hot girl" was on the screen he would say something like "she has a nice body", etc. I've already told him that this bothers me, but he won't stop and says that all ...
A. 31 August 2007: I would definately postpone the wedding until he learns how to be more focused on the woman he plans to wed. If he's acting like this now, it'll only get worse later. I'm thinking he still has some wild oats to sow.... (read in full...)
I've moved from germany to USA when i was 12. Why do people here not feel its right for teenagers to have sex under 18?
Q. I was born in Germany, and I moved to the USA at the age of 12, since I've moved here I have always been curious as to why having sexual intercourse is such a bad act and disrespect to the parents for Teenagers under 18. In my town, it was ...
A. 31 August 2007: We're just not as liberal about things like that as other countries are. Case in point, when I was in Paris one summer, I was shocked to see such porongraphic billboads and ad posters right on the street and sidewalks for God and everyone to see, ... (read in full...)
How do I make myself not so clingy and insecure in my relationship?
Q. I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for over a year. The first couple of months were fantastic (as usually they are) But as the first full year together started to approuch I felt fantastic. We had lasted a year and that made me feel ...
A. 31 August 2007: First of all, I hope you are taking medication for your depression so you can function on a more normal level. Secondly, the way you get over being insecure is to realize that you can be just as happy without a man, as you can be with one. That ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend doesn't seem very turned on with oral sex. Am I just doing it wrong or is it her?
Q. My girlfriend doesn't seem to get very turned on with oral sex. Am I just doing it wrong or is it just her? I've known her for a while, and I've spent a lot of time giving her oral sex. I usually go in deep and long (about an hour) but I've n...
A. 31 August 2007: Has she ever had an orgasm? Can she give herself one and does she ever? If the answer to those questions are 'yes', then you could be doing it all wrong. Of course I'm not there, so it's hard to say. But I was with a guy once who thought it was ... (read in full...)
I cant get over my work colleague
Q. I've mentioned before on here that I've fallen big time for a colleague, I've known here for 3 years now and over the last year really fallen for her, sadly she doesn't feel the same way and much as it hurts I accept I can't change that. We ...
A. 30 August 2007: Maybe someday but not right now. Right now you need to put some distance on this relationship and come to a better place personally. This woman has too powerful of a pull on your emotions and it will continue to keep you from pursuing another ... (read in full...)
What does this recurring dream mean?
Q. Since the beginning of the week Ive been having the same dream everyday. It includes me and a guy, the situation is somewhat complicated but I have alot of feelings for him we are just not in a together. In the dream, I'm taking the train to and ...
A. 30 August 2007: Too late, I think your dreams are telling you that your feelings for him are already there and this is why you keep dreaming about him. I don't know why you're holding back, but perhaps you should just give yourself permission to take the plunge ... (read in full...)
I want to make our anniversary really special
Q. Hey ladies I was wondering...I what is the best thing a guy has ever done 4 u...I've done a lot 4 my girlfriend and our 1 year is coming up next weekend...and I want 2 do the best thing ever...I was thinking about making all her favorite foods and ...
A. 30 August 2007: Can you play guitar or sing? If so, you should serenade her, just like in the old days underneath her bedroom window. She'll flip. If singing is not your thing, then hire someone to sing a love song for you. Other things you can do is take her ... (read in full...)
My wife has been emotional since coming back from a school trip. She's a teacher. How can I deal with this?
Q. Hi i've been happily married to my wife for 7 yrs now, she works in a school(teacher) and has recently come back off this adventure holiday type thing that is arranged for 1 week in the summer holidays, there was her and about 6 more teachers ...
A. 30 August 2007: Could be hormones. Could be a mid-life thing. Or she may have had a fling and now realizes it was a big mistake, and loves you all the more. If her crying spells don't pass pretty soon, she should probably get counseling. She may be battling ... (read in full...)
I'm not keen on giving oral. But I want to please him. I feel a bit guilty?
Q. ok well me (20) and my new boyfriend (26) have started having sex and hes given me oral but i havent given him yet because it makes me feel sick doing it so ive only done it twice before. i want to please him but im worried as i will be rubbish as ...
A. 30 August 2007: It might be better if you were drunk instead. lol. No seriously, it will help you loosen up and not feel so self-conscious. Oral sex is a total turn on to me, giving and receiving. Just think of it as one big, sexy lollipop and start licking it, ... (read in full...)
Drinking can make my guy go into a rage. I've met someone nice but dont know who to be with???
Q. Hi there, I've got myself into a bit of a dilemma. Basically I have been with my boyfriend for nearly six years however in the beginning of the relationship he was very wild. He used to become violent when drinking, he cheated on me, took drugs. T...
A. 30 August 2007: Uh-oh, danger zone. You're attracted to the new guy becauase it gives you a mental break from the fighting and explosions. But you have already admitted he is not intellectually stimulating and that spells boredom. If you cannot imagine yourself ... (read in full...)
I cant get over my work colleague
Q. I've mentioned before on here that I've fallen big time for a colleague, I've known here for 3 years now and over the last year really fallen for her, sadly she doesn't feel the same way and much as it hurts I accept I can't change that. We ...
A. 30 August 2007: Yes you should consider changing jobs if that is possible. It doesn't sound like you're ever going to move on as long as the two of you work together. It's torturing you and you simply must move on with your life.... (read in full...)
Why do I thrive on attention from this unavailable man?
Q. Ok well recently like a month ago a friend started text messaging me his um "secrets" which I blew off because well it was really shocking and funny to get a random text of his private parts. He has a girlfriend they have been together for a while, ...
A. 30 August 2007: One thing you have to keep in mind when you're dealing with a sex addict is, part of their addictive behavior isn't that they like to have sex alot, (of course they do) but they also want it from different people. They are always wondering what the ... (read in full...)
My ex is getting married next week and I'm still in love with him.....
Q. I'm still in love with my ex and he is getting married next week.. it still hurts inside.. what should I do? I really need advice asap!!pls.....
A. 30 August 2007: Time heals all wounds. Try to avoid your ex when you're out socially. Make new friends. Start seeing other guys. You will eventually find someone that makes you happy and it will lessen the pain. Good luck.... (read in full...)
Is it too young for a sixteen year old and a twenty year old to hook up and start dating?
Q. Is it too young for a sixteen year old and a twenty year old to hook up and start dating? Its only four years. Just look at my parents they're six years apart and they love each other and my friend's parents are fifteen years apart. But when young ...
A. 30 August 2007: It puts the 20-yr. old in a bad position since he/she could be accused of rape and have charges brought against them (even though the 16 yr. old was willing, the courts never look at it like this). If one or both of your parents is against this ... (read in full...)
Two weeks ago I lost my dad to a massive heart attack. He was still young and I don't know what to do. There's such an empty silence in my life and in our house.
Q. Two weeks ago I lost my dad to a massive heart attack. He was still young and I don't know what to do. There's such an empty silence in my life and in our house. He was always here because he was retired due to ill health. I miss him so much. I come ...
A. 30 August 2007: You will never get over the magnitude that comes from losing one's parent, but you will learn to deal with your grief, and go on with your life, it just takes time. Alot of time. My mother passed away unexpectedly when I was 19 years old and she ... (read in full...)
I love him with all my heart but a part of me wants to try new things.
Q. I started dating my boyfriend in 6th grade. (I know that's young). We dated for 2 years and then broke up for a year and neither of us dated anyone else. when I was in 8th and him in 9th. We got back together last year and have been together for ...
A. 30 August 2007: You are too young to be in a serious relationship with anyone and if you are already wondering what it might be like to be with someone else, that's a sure sign that you're not ready to be tied down at this age. We always think we can chose a mate ... (read in full...)
My husband is using call girls and escort services? I am devastated. Please help me!
Q. My husband is using call girls and escort services? I am devastated. Please help me! Two weeks ago my husband received a call from someone at 11:30pm on a weekend. He didn't pick up, but someone had apparently left a message and upon asking him ...
A. 30 August 2007: You cannot sit on this information anymore. You must confront him. Only he can give you answers and it's time for the jig to be up. Simply tell him you phoned the number because he was acting so strange that night, so you called it and found out ... (read in full...)
I was talking to him and he had to go, all he said was night and didn't say I love you or anything. I'm upset and don't know if I should mention this to him
Q. HELP ME PLEASE I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DOO ! ! ! I went away for a week not seeing my boyfriend. I've come back and things have gone okay, up till the other night at a party he was all flirty with all the other girls especially my best frien...
A. 30 August 2007: Gonna have to talk to him on this one and ask him what's up. You're both very young and relationships are hard at this age and equally very hard to guys to be faithful for very long at this age. It's their hormones. You'd be wise to not try and ... (read in full...)
My issue is that I am confused on what might be considered "cheating." I have never physically done anything with anyone else but when I see a guy I find gorgeous I start to lust for him.
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years and have a very open relationship when it comes to communication. We love each other very much and plan to get married someday when we are both ready. This is my first relationship and he is my first ...
A. 30 August 2007: I suspect that it could indeed mean that you should not get married anytime soon. You may be a bit bored with your man since you've been together for so long, and you've never been with anyone else, and are still quite young. We all have a few ... (read in full...)
Why do I thrive on attention from this unavailable man?
Q. Ok well recently like a month ago a friend started text messaging me his um "secrets" which I blew off because well it was really shocking and funny to get a random text of his private parts. He has a girlfriend they have been together for a while, ...
A. 30 August 2007: I think he likes the thrill of sneaking around. He seems to have a pattern, he gets involved with someone, once the "new" wears off, he starts fooling around behind their back. Which means he's a player with some committment issues but doesn't ... (read in full...)
Torn between two lovers...who do I choose?
Q. I like two amazing guys and I dont know what to do. The first guy B, is very attractive, sweet, caring, loving, is always there when i need him and makes me the center of his world.B is also very clingy and is everything opposite of myself. The seco...
A. 30 August 2007: Sit down and make a list of all the things you like about B, and all the things you like about N. Then list all the negative things about both. Be brutally honest. Then look at the list carefully. I suspect B feels "safer" and N feels more ... (read in full...)
How do i tell her that i have snuck out of the house to go to jazz concerts and play in a few jazz concerts?
Q. This really isnt a life or death question but ive been playing the trumpet for 5 years now and ive been told that i am really good at it. However my passion is jazz and my mom wont let me join a jazz band only a classical band. She actually becomes ...
A. 29 August 2007: I wouldn't tell her that you've been sneaking out. Save that story for the day when you've grown up and are sitting around talking at a family reunion about the days of your youth. It'll be received much better when it's years gone by. As for ... (read in full...)
I don't have very much pubic hair, will this freak guys out?
Q. Hi. I'm a fifteen year old girl. I was just wondering, I don't have very much pubic hair. Will guys get freaked out when they finger me? Or when they do any sexual activity with me?...
A. 24 August 2007: Nah, he'll probably think you trimmed it just for him. Relax and don't worry about it. It's much more of a problem when you have too much hair, believe me!... (read in full...)
What is lubricant?
Q. When my boyfriend and I have sex, sometimes it's hard for his penis to get in my vagina. Don't worry, we use condoms. I've asked people I know for some advice, and some suggest lubricant. But what excactly is lubricant? And how can it help? Thanx...
A. 24 August 2007: Find your nearest Walmart, go to the section where they have tampons and feminine products and right in that same area, you'll find condoms, douches and lubricants. I highly recommend the one that comes in a small little clear bottle with an orange ... (read in full...)
I like another guy, but my wedding is weeks away! Could this just be jitters?
Q. Met someone 2 wks before my weddinng and can't stop thinking of him. I have been having doubts about the wedding for 6 months but kept pushing them off as everyone has been working hard for this wedding. Been with my fiance for 4yrs and never once ...
A. 24 August 2007: Call off the wedding. I don't think you're ready to be tied down even though you love your fiancee. Better to call it off now, than go through a divorce later. Much more costly and devastating in the long run. Perhaps the two of you could try ... (read in full...)
What should I do on my date?
Q. Goin cinema with a girl i like. Should i pay for tickets? Popcorn? Should i offer food afterwards? I really want to find out if she likes me. Is there anyway i could find out? Make a move, maybe in the cinema? Place my hand on hers? Anythin will ...
A. 24 August 2007: Ah yes, girls love an old-fashioned date. Pick her up, open the car door for her, take her to the movie, yes, pay for the movie and the popcorn and the drinks. Afterwards, dinner would be great and yes, it could be getting expensive by now but be ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and I were together for 17 years, now we're separated, and it's really hard
Q. I was in a relationship that last 17 years. Wow! Long time, huh? We have 2 children. Anyway, we never married. First 2 times he asked me I wasn't ready. Then I asked him. He said yes and then financial trouble hit and then we lost a child. We've ...
A. 24 August 2007: I had the same experience, only I was the one who left after a long relationship that seemed, on the surface to be working fine. Unfortunately, I had been bored for years, just going through the motions. I finally had to force myself to face it. ... (read in full...)
Quick question, women have a lady doctor or a gynaecologist, who do men go to to check their privates?
Q. Quick question, women have a lady doctor or a gynaecologist, who do men go to to check their privates?...
A. 24 August 2007: Your regular physician (you know, the one you see when you have a cold, or the flu) should be able to check all of you out if you're having a symptom that's cause for concern. He will then refer you to a specialist, if your problem turns out to be ... (read in full...)
How do you know when you might have an STD?
Q. Urgent help needed, How do you know when you might have an STD? What are the tell tale signs, and symptoms of HIV herpes etc, what does it look like? Can you go to the doctor and have a regular check up for blood sugar, or HIV...etc etc, a...
A. 24 August 2007: Yes, you can go to the doctor and have your blood tested for abnormal sugar levels, or infections of any type, including HIV. Some STD's have no symptoms. Others do have symptoms such as burning, itching, or a foul discharge. HIV only has symptoms ... (read in full...)
His abuse is getting worse, he's tried to strangle me 5 times!!!
Q. I've been with my husband for 3 years and I don't know what to do. I have a six year old boy who adores him and a one year old baby girl. The problem is he has become physically abusive. He has tried to strangle me five times but generally just ...
A. 24 August 2007: Pack your bags and get out. The next time he may succeed. Men like this don't change. Don't kid yourself into thinking it's your fault either. It's not. He is the one with the problem. Get out now. You may not have a second chance.... (read in full...)
Just Wanna know is it normal to feel guilty after an orgasm??
Q. Hey, Just Wanna know is it normal to feel guilty after an orgasm?? Everytime I orgasm I feel really guilty and wanna stop whatever I'm doing.. Eg masturbating, getting fingerd, sex.. Pleasseee I Want A Answer =[ xx...
A. 24 August 2007: Nope. Not normal.... (read in full...)
Are 'guidlines' ok in a relationship?
Q. Is it bad to have "Guidelines" in a relationship that the 2 people must abide by? If each one gives the other "rules", Is that a good thing or is that a sign of being controlling? ...
A. 24 August 2007: Well I don't think it's particularly common for couples to sit down and write out an actual list of do's and don'ts when they enter into a relationship, but I think most people loosely have some rules they expect each other to follow. Usually they ... (read in full...)
I think my sister is a control freak... she wants to meet my fiancee's family - is this normal?
Q. I think my sister is a control freak, i try to get on with her but she feels the need to interfer where it is not wanted, like recently. i'm getting married in feb and i was talking to her on the phone and she was trying to set up a get together ...
A. 24 August 2007: You didn't mention if she was an "older" sister or not, but her behavior sounds like it would be something an older, more protective sibling might do. I wouldn't be turned off by her concerns she's probably just looking out for you. And it's ... (read in full...)
White stuff is coming out of my vagina....can anyone help me?
Q. Hey got a girl problem.Ummm....for a while now I have had white stuff coming out of my vagina.I have no clue as to what it is.Is an infection or something.I do know that it can't be any type of STD because the nost I've done with a guy is makeout.I ...
A. 24 August 2007: It's probably just normal discharge that appears in girls about your age. It sometimes gets more thick and sticky around your period but it's nothing to worry about. It's just more annoying than anything. As long as you're not experiencing any ... (read in full...)
I need to clear my head.
Q. I have troubles relaxing and getting ready for sex, and sometimes when i am having sex all i can think about is things i have to do the next day. What are some things i can do to clear my mind so i can be more alert to pleasure my partner and also ...
A. 23 August 2007: Sex begins in the mind and your mind is full of other cluttered thoughts and stresses. It's a conscious effort to push those things aside and start thinking sexual thoughts. Maybe entertaining a few little fantasies will help put you in the mood. ... (read in full...)
What are these little bumps?
Q. I am worried that I might have something seriously wrong with me. Lately have been noticing that there are little bumps on my virgina. I am not sexually active so I dont know what it could be. what do you think it is and what should I do?...
A. 23 August 2007: Probably just little skin irritations. You could have your doctor look at them and that will probably put your mind at ease more than anything we can tell you. Good luck.... (read in full...)
Confused as to what's going on.
Q. Confused? Hey I have been recently been quite depressed over this guy who online i came across, we both chatted and he asked for my number? and we both chatted on the phone, but he was asking me out? and i just felt lil uncomfortable as...
A. 23 August 2007: Relationships are hard enough in the real world, much less in the virtual world of chatrooms. My advice is to turn off your computer and get out into the real world and meet a man face-to-face. Chatrooms are full of weirdo's that hide behind false ... (read in full...)
When i'm with him i'm so happy.
Q. Dear Readers, i need your help me and my boyfriend have been dating for 1 and a half years now and for the past month or so I've been thinking about breaking up with him... just because i have so many family problems and we hadn't been goin...
A. 23 August 2007: I think you should make an appt. with your healthcare professional to see if you could be bi-polar. The "ups" and "downs" mood swings you are describing and the drastic pull each one takes you to sounds like it could be something more than just ... (read in full...)
Whenever I see him, I feel sick with nerves, and I feel sick when I hear the mention of his name and even when I see him in person or even think of him, is this normal?
Q. Hi I've just recently met a guy I like a lot. The trouble is, whenever I see him, I feel sick with nerves, and I feel sick when I hear the mention of his name and even when I see him in person or even think of him, is this normal? I keep wretchin...
A. 23 August 2007: I learned a long time ago that it's always best to just be honest and say what you mean, and mean what you say. But it's difficult for some people to put themselves out there and say, "hey I really like you." because there's always that fear of ... (read in full...)
Whenever I see him, I feel sick with nerves, and I feel sick when I hear the mention of his name and even when I see him in person or even think of him, is this normal?
Q. Hi I've just recently met a guy I like a lot. The trouble is, whenever I see him, I feel sick with nerves, and I feel sick when I hear the mention of his name and even when I see him in person or even think of him, is this normal? I keep wretchin...
A. 15 August 2007: It's hard to say, but I think you're on the right track at this point to just let him come to you. You've made contact, he knows you're interested, he says he's going away for 3 weeks. If you don't hear from him when he gets back, he's probably ... (read in full...)
Whenever I see him, I feel sick with nerves, and I feel sick when I hear the mention of his name and even when I see him in person or even think of him, is this normal?
Q. Hi I've just recently met a guy I like a lot. The trouble is, whenever I see him, I feel sick with nerves, and I feel sick when I hear the mention of his name and even when I see him in person or even think of him, is this normal? I keep wretchin...
A. 10 August 2007: It sounds like he may be interested but doesn't quite know how to go about getting to know you. Maybe he's shy or he's used to women making the first move (i.e. why he was sitting on the wall across the street from your house, expecting you to come ... (read in full...)
Whenever I see him, I feel sick with nerves, and I feel sick when I hear the mention of his name and even when I see him in person or even think of him, is this normal?
Q. Hi I've just recently met a guy I like a lot. The trouble is, whenever I see him, I feel sick with nerves, and I feel sick when I hear the mention of his name and even when I see him in person or even think of him, is this normal? I keep wretchin...
A. 7 August 2007: It's called love. And you got a bad case of it. Relax. It usually fades as the relationship grows.... (read in full...)
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