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writes:Hello, I have been dating my boyfriend for about a year now and I still get grossed out because he did it bare with his ex girlfriend who doesn't have good hygiene... he told me that he did it bare with her bare when they were together and I've had previous partners as well, but I've never done it bare with any of them. He says he regrets it and he apologises because he doesn't want me to think he's dirty... I don't know why it still grosses me out but I really hate the fact he did it bare with her... what do I do? What do I think? How do I deal with this?
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reader, Rogerramjet  +, writes (21 July 2009):
So is it the hygiene factor that is grossing you out? All I can think to say is that, after over a year I'm sure he's probably clean. So long as there are no STD's, I don't think I'd worry about it.I do find it interesting that you told each other this sort of thing! I find it best to just assume that your recent partner HAS had sex before, and leave it at that without talking about anything. Make sure that they are STD free, but don't ask for any gritty details. Every person is different, and the odds are good that your current partner, at some point, did something sexually that would totally turn you off.
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reader, djmanny64  +, writes (21 July 2009):
One thing is to wear protection. If he uses no protection with you than from previous partners he hasn't used anything with then he may give you aids/HIV etc. Also you can also get pregnant if you are not on the pill. Think about what you are doing and make the best decision. Obviously it feels 100 times greater doing it bare but think of the consequences that will later arrive. Stay safe.Steve
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