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*az uk
writes:i have been on before and got good advise, so here we go again. i broke up with my partner just over 4 weeks ago. she asked me to move out as i was making her unhappy but now i have my own place and am decorating it. she is being nasty and very bitchy when i get the kids or drop them of and the we man said he over heared her saying to her mum she still loves me. i love her very much so much i would kill for her but i dont want to live with her as every time i get settled in and start to fell as if things are good she kicks me out again. i do love her and the kids but she screws with my head and she has serious problems in here head she needs to deal with. she has put on lots of weight and its got her depressed and she takes it out on me. what do i do?
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reader, Pingwenfriend  +, writes (23 July 2009):
As cliche as this may sound, some women just want to have their guy to listen to them and let them vent.....
And some women takeout their frustration out on their guy cause they don't know if they can't trust you with the emotional matters.
Talk to her, and let her know your there to listen and talk to her and that she can trust you.
Good luck....
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reader, busy04 +, writes (22 July 2009):
 She is clearly unstable. Do you really want to live like that? Not knowing if tomorrow she'll get pissed & tell you leave? For someone in your age range you deserve better than that. You don't have time to play games. Yes you may love her, but obviously she's confused.
And she may have problems that she needs to deal with, and that's just the thing: SHE HAS TO DEAL WITH THEM! You are not her savior & it's not your fault that she gained weight & is depressed, it's not your responsibility to change that. And it's wrong of her to take that out on you, you don't deserve to be the target of an unhappy woman. She's a grown woman & she is responsible for herself, and until she takes that responsibility and gets rid of her baggage, then she can't fully appreciate you. And everyone deserves to be appreciated. So my advice is to leave her alone. As hard as that may be, it can still be done. When you get your kids from by her, you don't have to put up with her attitude & bitchiness, drop the babies off & keep trucking. It sometimes takes separation to bring appreciation & she'll she what she had in you, sooner or later.
You can better, you deserve better!
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