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writes: Ok so I havae a realy good friend, so close we refer to each other as sisters. Her names,well.."Jennifer". and "Jennifer" and I wouldnt want anything to come between us. Or so I thought.She is in a Really good relationship. They both claim to love each other and everything seems to be going good. They do have their ups and downs but mostly they survive it. So "Jennifer" has this really good friend who lives down in Mississippi, we live in Chicago, and she seems very protective of him. Like she doesnt want him to get hurt. One day I stood the nite at her house and she decided to call him. I was ok with it, I didnt realy mind. They started talking while I was on the computer and she had to use the restroom. So I started talking to.."Robert". Me and "Robert" were having a good time talking and everything, no biggy. "Jennifer" came back and went on the computer while I was talking to "Robert". She didnt seem to mind until he told me that he liked my voice, that it sounded attractive, and "Jennifer's" voice sounded like a kids voice. Thats when "Jennifer" took the phone and I could tell that she didn't mind me talking to him just that she got a little aggravated when he said that. She told me it was because she didnt like wjen people called her a kid because of her size and that a lot of people told her that. So I nodded and brushed it off. The next day I asked for "Roberts" cell phone number so that we could txt. "Jennifer" gave it to me with out a problem. I wasnt hidding anything from her, I just wanted to chat with someone. Plus she was reading the txt too because we were both talking to him. After that i went home and I couldnt put my phone down. "Robert" and I just clicked. We got along so well. I stated txting in school, on the bus, over the weekend untill like 5am. I couldnt stop i had this urge to keep talking to him. And whenever I did finnaly say ok thats enough for now, he wouldnt want to let me go. Saying "please baby, dont go I love txting you and talking to you so much". Well Im a girl what do you expect? So i kept talking to him. Then "Jennifer" found out. I dont really know why I didnt want her to find out, but I didnt. So she did get kinda mad but brushed it off. A few days later he told me I love you. It shocked the hell out of me. I didnt say it back for..about a few more days after that. I felt I should at least mean it if Im going to say it. I did mean it though, only as a friend. I lod him that..eventualy. Well "Jennifer" found out about thta too and she was angry. Saying how can you go out with some one you know I like, and thats one of the rules of friendship to never go out with one of the guys your best friends likes. But i mean she DID already have a boyfriend, so what would it matter? Right? Now my question is, was it the right thing to do?? To follow my heart and give this guy a chance that I REALLY liked and he really, apparently "LOVED" me, even though she liked him too but already had a boyfriend??
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reader, love-struckxo  +, writes (17 July 2009):
 What do you really know about this guy? I don't think it's right to put him before you and her's friendship.
But, she is not right either. She has a boyfriend, so tell her to back off a little. It's not a crime to talk to him.
Tell her she has a boyfriend and that you like talking to this guy.
At the end of the day, it's probably not worth risking your friendship over, but if you want to continue talking to this guy then your friend better learn to accept it..
Good Luck
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (17 July 2009):
 Did you even meet this guy? If yall didn't meet, he doesn't love you, and he's probably trying to make her jealous. On the other hand, say if yall did meet, well, she may "like" him but she has someone. She is not sole keeper of every male that she likes away from you. Sounds like she needs to get over herself.
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reader, Jason32477 +, writes (17 July 2009):
 Try talking to your friend about it and try hard to get her ok.Even though there should not be a problem with what you are doing she obviously has a problem with it.If you can`t do that I would advise you let this boy go for these reasons.1.He lives to far away for it to really develop. 2.She has been your friend for at least awhile.And she is the safer bet for a lasting friendship.3.You are still young.There is almost a 100% chance that you and this boy wont last together.So don`t risk your friendship over this.But do try to get your friend to see she is wrong.
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