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anonymous
writes:My girlfriend tells me im hot and sexy. Very often i have to turn down other girls that want sex from me, but my own girlfriend never comes onto me. She has an extremely low sex drive and my only option is masturbation. I am in my early 20's and i might leave her for some sluts because i dont want to cheat on her. My other relationships have been sex-filled. I cant find any smart (not stupid) suggestions? Kindly help me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2009): just tell her..... does she know you feel that way?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2009): No offense but you seem like a bit of a jerk - 'leave her for some sluts'?! Christ I can't believe that people have to point out to you that you should just talk to her about this.
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (17 July 2009):
 Well I think you need to talk to her about this! Explain to her that you believe sex is a very important part of a relationship and that you feel that at the moment there is not enough sex in your relationship. You should at least give her the chance to explain herself - there may be a very good reason why she doesnt want sex at the moment. Or it may just be that your sex drives are completely different, in which case there is not a lot you can do. If you are sexually incompatible then you are never going to feel satisfied so I guess you would just have to end the relationship and explain to her the reasons why - and be honest!
Make sure you talk to her first, she may not have realised how important sex is to you and she may be happy to have sex more frequently!
As for the whole sluts idea, that doesnt make a lot of sense! If you want to sleep around with "sluts" then why are you in a relationship? But if you want to be in a relationship just with more sex, then sleeping with "sluts" would not help, you would just need to find a girl who enjoys sex as much a you do! Not all girls that enjoy sex are sluts, there are plenty of girls out there who dont sleep around but when they are in a committed relationship they enjoy sex frequently.
Sleeping with sluts will only get you an STD and not give you any emotional satisfaction!
So my advice is to talk to your girlfriend face to face about the lack of sex in your relationship, see what she has to say and then take it from there. If she is willing to work on making sex more frequent then problem solved! If she is not willing to try and work on your sex life then you will just have to move on, but not onto a load of sluts! Find a nice girl who likes sex, that way you will have both the great relationship and the great sex life!
I hope this helps!
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reader, Sandman +, writes (17 July 2009):
 A relationship should not weigh so heavily on whether or not you are or are not having sex with each other. There should be more to a relationship that keeps you two together. When you find a mate you truly love and adore, things like this are not major issues.
So plainly put, if you feel the desire to go find sluts, then leave your current girlfriend alone. She doesn't deserve to be cheated on.
Hope this helps
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