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writes:I was wondering if anyone can give me some advice as to handle this, I have a lover who while is not obese but is about 25kilos heavyer than me .when we have sex he likes to lay on top of me with all his weight sometimes i feel like i'm being squashed and it becomes very uncomfortable for me to even move. how do i tell him without offending him in anyway in all other ways he is a very attentive lover 'today i just asked him to stop for a moment as i said i had a pain in my side which was really a fib i just felt i was literally being squashed to death and i couldn't breath properly.he doesn't seem to realize he is doing this and i really don't want to just say get off me .what should i do. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2009): obviously your bf is inexperienced in matters of love.he shoud support his weight on his forarms and knees.That is what expert lovers do.Tell him he is too heavy. the comment will not kill him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2009): girl on top always works!
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reader, babymama99  +, writes (17 July 2009):
 I know this might sound strange but, stop breathing for a few seconds. just hold your breath. then when he says "what's wrong?" say NICELY "you're kind of heavy I can't breath". then he can just use his knees and elbows to take some of the weight off, without laying directly on you. hey,it worked for me :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2009): Here's some advice from a cuddly man with a cuddly wife: be honest with him. My wife enjoys the feeling of me being on top of her, but she always tells me when she's had enough of being squashed, so we use different positions. I also anjoy feeling my wife's weight on me, but she's worried about hurting me so she won't lay on me for very long.
Sure, be sensitive how you tell him, but bear in mind that men in general aren't as touchy about their weight as women.
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