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male
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I am gay and my partner is ignoring me most the time, I cant understand why, once we moved to live together I found him different person, not the one that I love, he always off from his work to his computer, then to take a nap, and he spend all the night watching movies and I am waiting him , the next day is the same as well as the weekend, I always try to talk to make conversation , suggest new plans - but no response. I asked him always why you are quiet why did you changed ,he says I am the same I still love you, very clear, also he says I cant entertain you all the time , as he does, and he play it smartly , assuming that he loves movies and hate to be destruct while he is watching , very true , but not 24 hours movies so the total time for me is ZERO hour or few minute for sex , also if I come to him , he push me away in smart way ,if I call his phone often no answer and if there is any answer , its short in brief way , if text message no reply and he enjoys to putting me down saying ,he used to call me pretty , beautiful , not any more, he calls me idiot, or my bitch as he kidding, very funny . I try to ignore him giving him some space in his life ,he ignore more, even if I said I am bored LETS DO Something , he says go out , do something, clean the house or you don’t have hobbies , your mind is empty But someday I find him nice, gentle, and lovely but few times a month I wish if he stays in this mood Now we sleep in different rooms, separate life and I don’t see him most the time Our relation it was like dream for me , it became nightmare , I love him so much , but this relation makes me sad more than happy ,, I don’t want to break up because it may make more sad , but the sadness kills me , make incapable to do any thing to concentrate in any thing in the life I cant stand this feeling, is it love? is it ? I hate this relation and I cant get out Scared from the future , just I need him to be interested on me like before , What shall I do ? Please I am broken heart
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reader, Jason32477  +, writes (17 July 2009):
 You obviously can`t let thing to continue as they are going. Your situation isn`t hopeless but it may be grim. Try talking to him and explain how you feel.
I love my girl to death.But recently when she came here I neglected her.Didn`t pay her the attention I should have.I guess I figured that because shes pregnant I could do what I wanted.So she left again.And now I clearly see the error of my ways.And yes we are still a couple.
Maybe a short term separation will help open his eyes as well.He might be complacent that you have become a permanent fixture in his life now.Obviously you should talk first.If that doesn`t work try a temporary separation.And if that doesn`t work then I`m afraid a permanent separation might be your only option.But he is not a mind reader.You have to let him know things are not working.Communicate your feelings,hopes,goals,problems,and open your mind to him.
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