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*essobs27
writes: Hello, Iv got a problem, I slept with a married man now things are kinda getting freaky, I slept with him a couple times, i work very closely with him, i called it off after he told me that he "loved me" His wife became suspicious (during the affair) about the phone calls and texts and even confronted me at work a couple times.. but i work in the department next to his and we allways see eachother, i think i love him too, but know its wrong and have tried to cut off all ties, but it aint working..... So, heres the situation im in right now, I havent slept with him in over a month..try to keep my distance..,(we are friends right now, we dont talk about what happened) So i called him tonight, to ask him about a joke he told me earlier, just wanted to know how it went, so i could tell my dad the joke. He didnt answer, so i hung up, then his wife called me back from his phone....i freaked out! hung up on her! then she called back left a voice message, she said "you dont want me to take this to the next level, so you better drop it and leave my husband alone" Ok, now im freaked out! i shouldnt have made the phone call to him, but i made a mistake and did, it was innocent, i didnt mean anything by it. now i think i have made things worse, she may confront me at work, i work the same shift as her husband and she is allways there to meet him for lunch!..... Is there anyway out of this posable confrontation? How do i handle the situation with him at work, we work very closely? Im so confused, what should i do? I do realize that what i did was wrong, i was stupid and made a poor decision, iv learned my lesson..im not gonna mess around with married men anymore...just not sure how to handle the current situation at work and with his wife.
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reader, starfairy  +, writes (19 July 2009):
 It takes two to tango.
Yeah ok you shouldn't be messing with a married man, but people make mistakes.
If the wife was going to do anything, she would have confronted you at work, it's not hard to be big and intimidating over the phone/from a distance lol.
Don't worry about her.
Just dom't be calling your married ex lover for the punchline to a joke...That kinda sounds like a really lame excuse just to get in contact with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2009): darling, you couldn't leave this married man alone, so be prepared and babes, be afraid, be very afraid. this is one wife you shouldn't mess with. you will get what you deserve because you messed with the wrong married man with the right wife. babes, this wife, will ensure you live to regret your affair with her man. why? because you did not care about his marital status, you took what was not yours and babes, you will pay the price. she will make certain of this. your actions will have consequences. your lovers wife is really like a action hero. wish there were more like her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2009): you are totally stupid. This is the 2nd time she warned you and u still contacted him, and don't give us the bs that it was for a joke for your father. Be honest with yourself and take responsibility and also take whatever medicine she dishes out to you.
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reader, babymama99 +, writes (17 July 2009):
 Ok, you said you know you made a mistake that you won't repeat - so for that I say good for you. And I can put my double barrel away.
As for the wife, I don't think she is going to confront you. she threated you with going to the next level if you didn't leave her husband alone, well you are no longer involved with him so I think you should be ok. If she was going to do anything she would have done it when you were sleeping with him.
If she does confront you at work again, tell her that there is nothing going on between you and her husband and that he is in the next room - if she has something to say, then say it to him.
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reader, Jayney Y  +, writes (17 July 2009):
 Yep, you've made a silly mistake, but you've learned something from it. And you're not the one who's married, he is. If she confronts you, just keep your dignity by apologising for the call and acknowledging that you did a silly thing, but leave it there. If she tries to make a big deal out of it, just walk away. The fact that he's told you that he loves you is a sure sign that thier marriage is in trouble, and you don't want to be a part of that, it's for them to sort out. He's probably done it before, and he'll probably do it again. Don't let someone drag you into thier marital problems and bring you down. She probably meets him for lunch every day because she knows she can't trust him. Good luck :)
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