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writes:My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 5 months. He used to act like he just could not get enough of me. He text messaged me all day long, always told me sweet things, and was very sexually interested in me as well. Things were going great...he started calling me "Love," which I guess was his way of telling me he loved me...About a month ago I went on vacation,and the whole time I was gone he always told me he missed me, and he was thinking of me. However....when I got back, it was like some switch turned off and he really doesn't want anything to do with me....He never says any of those kind sweet things anymore, and if i say them, he kind of just says "aw.." and almost brushes it off. He has zero interest in me sexually now, too. Now he's on vacation, his friend is getting married. I'm pretty sure he went to a bachelor party tonight, with a stripper. I feel so hurt and cast away...I have tried to ask him what is going on, but he just insists that everything is ok, he just wants to take things slow...it just feels like he is lying to me, or maybe himself. I feel so lost and confused...he hasn't even wanted to talk to me much while on vacation...we have always said goodnight to each other every night, and he hasn't even done that. It hurts so much, I don't know what to do.
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reader, Tenki +, writes (17 July 2009):
Tenki is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you Naims, I feel like that is what I need to do...it is so hard though. He's left me fumbling in the dark...I know I need to find a way to keep my mind off of it so I don't end up resenting him for it.
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reader, Naims  +, writes (17 July 2009):
 It is usually normal for a guy to act all interested at first then distance himself from a relationship when he feels that things or his feelings are getting serious. You need to give him some space to figure himself out.if u push yourself to him,he'l pull away even further. Mostly,they come back. It hurts but he needs his space to figure out what he really feels for you. In the meantime,u could try to find hobbies you like,to take him off your mind for a while and fight the temptations to call him or text. He'll be back, dont worry.
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reader, Lilly Rose  +, writes (17 July 2009):
 Well you need to explain exactly how he has changed...its weird how he was all romantic then just stopped that normally doesnt happen for no reason.....talk to him...if he carrys on saying nothings wrong then you prob need to except it or break up with him....5 months is still so fresh in a relationship and should be fun and exciting....im sure alot of men do the whole stripper thing so wouldnt worry about that....maybe your relationship has had its time and you should move on if this carrys on!
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