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writes:I have been dating a man who is intelligent, secure in his career and with himself. Further, we get along well. However, he appears to have a wall up towards truly expressing his feelings. If I say terms of endearment such as "honey or sweetie," etc. he will not act like he has heard them. He tells me that he is not that kind of guy. Also, when I express natural concern over things that he shares that bothers him, he indicates that he had one who didn't care at all (referring to his ex wife) and although he likes concern, he doesn't want extreme concern. So, the question is this, "Is this man not over his ex wife or is he bitter because of her lack of love for him?" She divorced him and he's only been divorced for six months. Also, he appears bothered still by various things she has done. This is difficult for me but I am trying to be understanding. HELP PLEASE...Do I just be patient and give it time or what?
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reader, asap09marc  +, writes (17 July 2009):
 People are sometimes different so i cant say its wise to act off what you are told. Myself,i found that once you have moved on the bitter memories and anger went away and was never thought about. Only comes back to mind when reminded or people ask about it. Its shut away in a little drawer. Anger and bitterness in me means i am not totaly over it yet. How he is behaving doesnt mean he would ever go back to her but in time things should settle. Brings to mind most recent ex who hated her ex for things he did. She asked why i am angry at her for something yet can stay calm when dealing with that ex bitch. We all have a different way of reacting.
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