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writes:Hey guys please help again lol..wel ive been with my boyfriend for like 3 years now and i think the world of him he lives 4hours away from me now which isnt a issue cause we always try our best to see each other . but when he doesnt come down and doesnt see me for like 2 weeks i get really upset wich is normal so when he does come down i obviously get excited but the peoblem is when he is down we always argue. i feel like its my fault , but its only because he doesnt seem to care anymore even though he says he does . im really fustrated and angry cause its like i put so much effort and he dont seem to be doing anythin at all. is this normal? what shall i do ? PLEASE HELP .. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2009): If he's visiting you he might be tired from all of that driving he is doing. I'm going to try this new thing with my guy, if he isn't there for you emotionally, etc. don't be there for him emotionally.
Also stop blaming yourself. It's not for you to be the pleasant, try to get along with everything he says person (unless you really are that way.) Relationships should be about honesty, not always about "keeping the peace." Maybe yall just need some space, like a month.
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reader, Jason32477  +, writes (17 July 2009):
 If he is driving down to see you I would say he is making an effort.You want advice but you did not get to the root of the problem.Why do you argue?What do you argue about?If my gf lived 4 hours away and I was the only one making the trip I would find myself getting frustrated easily.Anyway the best solution is simply to talk to him.Try to find out what his problem is and let him know what yours are , and from there try to find some common ground to stand on.
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