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writes: sorry for the lengthI work in a hospital, where I am older then a lot of my colleagues, they are in their mid 20s - early 30s. I get along with most ppl and say say hi and how are you? I almost always say hi when i start my shift to everyone, even if thats all i say, as it can get busy. some of them never say hi unless i say it 1st.I try to make small talk and ask them how there wkend was etc and sometimes it works and they talk to me. But they never ask me how I am, most of them socialise after work with each other, laugh and joke at work sometimes..they seem to be all freinds adn though they speak to me and are ok im not included. My boss is very friendly with most of them. I say hi to her but she barely speaks to me - i have nothing in common with her, she is in her early 30s. I work night shift as well as during the day so sometimes i dont always work with them.do I just get on with work, say hi and not worry? i dont want them to think that i dont talk or that im weird and old? my boss is very "clicky" with them and she socialises with them too. Shes ok but she is way to friendly with them. how do I treat these colleagues? i like my job just get sick of this at times, dont want to be their best freinds, but if they actually asked how i am sometimes it would be good!please help thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2009): I don't think it's your age but your mindset. I faced a similar problem. I wanted people to acknowledge me in the morning but it was an uphill struggle. I never did find anything I really appreciated in my colleagues who were rude to each other and were there was was very little respect among them although they were a team and hung out with each other one day a week after work and to socialize with clients.I despised the people I worked with.I remained there seven years and quit.I would suggest to you to find a different work environment were you respect your colleagues and were they respect you. Life is too short for crappy work environments.
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (17 July 2009):
 My guess is, for some reason they don't see you as "one of them" and age has nothing to do with it. Maybe you need to joke around more with them, tell them something funny or share a funny thing one of the patients did or said. Maybe since you're quiet, they assume you are square. Maybe you don't drink; have religious values they don't understand or seem picky in ways that puts distance between you. On the other hand, I've worked in offices where I could never win the other women over and I never figured out what the problem was! So it's hard to say what will work. Every situation is different. If nothing else, maybe you can transfer. Wish you the best.
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reader, gracebfg  +, writes (17 July 2009):
maybe try and socialize more at a work 'do' or christmas party. if somebody needs help, offer! or even if you have a socializing network online such as facebook you could add them as a friend on there, that would create alot more conversation. the biggest thing that matters is that you like your job, dont let them ruin it. and have you ever thought....there the ones that are unsociable! YOU always try you best and ask question about them but THEY never ask them back. hope my advice help
Love Gracebfg
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reader, GrimmReality  +, writes (17 July 2009):
 Well as much as we'd like to, it is difficult at best to try to convince someone to talk to you.
Work situations where there are multiple employees will always breed cliques. Not everyone gets along with everyone, but that does not mean they can't be cordial.
I'd just chalk it up to the fact that they will continue like this. People these days are so self absorbed it does no good to mention it to them, for they would just accuse you of being petty.
I'd just do the best you can everyday at work. If your boss gets along well or socializes with them outside of work should be of little concern to you, except if that leads to favoritism in work assignments or schedules.
Id pay it no mind. If they are so self absorbed, do you really want friends like that anyway? If I wanted to be spurned or disregarded, all I have to do is walk out my door everyday as there are people worldwide that walk the streets like zombies in search of brains to eat that have a hard time taking care of themselves let alone actually inquiring about someone's welfare in passing.
Just do your work, punch your time clock and don't let it bother you. Putting your nose to the grindstone will eventually pay off.
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