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writes:i have had the worst week of my life it started at 10 am last thursday i got a call from a friend of mine saying that my ex had just been arrested and is in jail on 4 felonies and a misdeminor. first of all this was my bestfriend i was fucking for a really long time we ended it because he chose drugs over me and his pathetic ass ended up in jail. since my family has money he assumed i would bail him out. well at a 50000 bail there is no fucking way im gonna bail him out. i went to go be moral support to his mother. she and i are still very close. i gave 500 for her self seeing as she has no income. i have been talking to her everyday. her son has written me letters telling me he was stupid and he is sorry he wants to see me and blah blah blah. well that weekend my other ex boyfriend who has been showing up at my house wanting to talk and i am a little over the situation because after he comes and talks to me and cuddle and all that stuff he goes out and flirts with my roommate who is his ex also! so i have been trying to let him go telling him he has no right to show up on my door step when we have be broken up for 3 months. he still doesnt get it. this morning my alarm from work was going off at 6 30 in the morning. the second i open up my eyes i can here him and my roomamte her man and his friend all talking to him about me they convince him to wake me up so they can go to sleep he comes in my room i start yelling at him freaking out im trying to tell him i dont need this now he still wouldnt listen i go get in the shower he follows me to the bathroom and continues to tell me that he wants us to make peace. i finally get out of the shower and through his stuff at him and kick him out. he kept texting me so i just ingonred that now i am at work and he went back to my house to sleep he keeps telling me i love you i miss you i wanna make things worse but in my head he still wants my roommate and let me tell you she is a class a backstabbing slut im very hurt with her because they kissed on monday well thats what he told me she denies it but i wouldnt put it past her. i am supposed to go home for lunch but since im so upset with every one at MY OWN HOUSE i really dont know what to do? im having a bad case of the ex factor. im still very much not even close to being over the one in jail but he is in jail and wont be out for 6 months to a year whill the other is throwing him self at me and i keep pushing him away for once. im in tears and dont know what to do at all. the more i learn about men the more i hate them.
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reader, rcn  +, writes (18 July 2009):
 You put all the men in one basket, due to what two men are doing? Why are you attracting, or are attracted to disrespectful men? He wants you back, but kissed your friend on Monday, and flirts with her? So, you have one who's into drugs, and one who's into "girls" other than you, so neither one is able to honestly commit to you, as you deserve someone to. Why do you continue being roommates with someone who apparently is not a good friend?
I believe you need a new scenery and people to associate with. I recommend separating yourself from these people, getting your own place and starting over. I can see how being around them will continue adding to these problems, and right now that's what you don't need.
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reader, quarky  +, writes (17 July 2009):
 I think you need a serious break from any sort of guy relationship right now. You really don't need this hassle just now and need time to step back and get things into perspective.
Take some time out-can you get away for a few days somewhere and switch off your phone?
Get your own head straight, forget about these guys for a while and try to look at things from a fresh point of view. Try to be as objective as you can-what do you need and want from a relationship? Then be strong and settle for nothing less.
There are good men out there as well as bad-I hope you find the right type.
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