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anonymous
writes:Hi - I have started seeing a new girl, have been going out for just over 4 months now and everything is going great. However, there are a few small issues that I have.The main problem is her lying (or what I believe to be) - we have had discussions in the past about our own lives, but when re-visiting the same conversation recently things dont seem to add up. Previously she mentioned that she had been with around 8 or 9 guys before me, and recently it is only 5. Is she doing this to protect me?Also she says she has never smoked but has recently been pictured with a cigarette. I asked her about this and she said that she takes the mickey by holding them and chewing them in her mouth but would never smoke them.She says all these things with complete conviction - however I have seen her emails which suggest strongly that she is lying. What should I do? Confront her? Leave it because we get on so well? It bothers me that she is lying about trivial things. Please help! Thanks in advance for the help! Reply to this Question
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reader, straight to the truth +, writes (17 July 2009):
i have had this same problem and it will slowly tear you apart.
you do need to talk to her about being open and honest about things because even if they are trivial things that wouldn't bother you if you knew the truth it is the little white lies that hurt.
this is an early relationship which is when you are building the trust so ask her to be honest because if you see this as being a serious relationship then you will want to be able to trust her.
Just dont get angry with her, be calm and talk to her and explain it clearly.
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