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*omance_boy18
writes:hey everyone, me and my girlfriend are a good couple in my opinion but i feel like im starting to doubt shes the one. were both into the same things, she also inspired me to go back to school and she likes being wild in a public way but its just the way she acts and how she has problems acting on her emotions (she likes avoiding her emotions and shes shy) yet i know she loves me cuz she acts on it. this has become a problem on me like the fact that she doesnt cherish romance like i do. i know im a guy but i do like slow dancing, offering her a rose, dressing in a tuxedo and other stuff like that but she doesnt like that and i also suffer from depression. i would tell her but she doesnt seem intrested in helping me with my problems. shes playful, funny, and kinda devilish. i wanna know, what do you believe I should do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2009): Lets try to see this at her POV. She is shy and simply not that emotional in touch as you are. Is fine, it is simply who she is. She finds comfort in dealing with her emotions herself, she doesn't need that from you, nor she ask that from you. I am not sure what she is asking for, but I am sure you know that by now. It is great that you are a romantic guy, so am I, but I don't force my romanticism down someone's throat. If she doesn't like that Disney style romance, then fine what she does like, and embrace that form of romance. Combined it with your style of romance and compromise. People express romance differently, so what makes your way the "right" way. Also, I work with people who suffer from depression on a daily basis. Depression is an illness, I am sorry that you are suffering; however, depression does not give you the right to overshadow need of your girlfriend over the need of yourself. I am suggesting that you should talk with her and CONVERSE about how you feel/ Don't simply go "I have a problem, you deal with it".
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reader, narnia  +, writes (17 July 2009):
 dear reader..I think the main reason your so reluctent to leave her is because you feel that you owe her in regards to you returning to school.If you feel like shes not the one it may be a bit unfair on the two of ye continuing this relationship. I do however think that there is some hope for you. As clearly ye both care about each other. You should really discuss how you are feeling with here despite her reluctness to show her emotions. Sit her down and discuss it. And i garentee that she will listen as this is clearly very important to you. Best of luck x
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reader, narnia +, writes (17 July 2009):
dear reader..I think the main reason your so reluctent to leave her is because you feel that you owe her in regards to you returning to school.If you feel like shes not the one it may be a bit unfair on the two of ye continuing this relationship. I do however think that there is some hope for you. As clearly ye both care about each other. You should really discuss how you are feeling with here despite her reluctness to show her emotions. This may be a defence mechanism due to her promblems with emotions. Sit her down and discuss it. And i garentee that she will listen as this is clearly very important to you. Best of luck x
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