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writes:My boyfriend and I were together for 5 years. I broke up with him 3 months ago. I found out he meet someone. I on the other hand have been trying to get over him. Then bingo he calls after 3 months and wants to see me. So I thought I should explain the break-up. Says he wants to be with me again butI feel guilty because he broke it off with his lastest fling. I dont know what to do. Is he playing games and does he just not want me to see anyone else. I find this very fishy. Is he playing both of us. I don't know what is really going on . I will always love him but not sure where I stand.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2009): First off, what do you want? Put your focus more on you instead of him and what he is doing or who he is seeing, after all you have no right to ask him really what he is doing at this moment because you two are no longer together.
You dated the man for five years. Five years is long enough to know whether or not you want to be together forever, as in getting married or finding your happy ever after with each other, don't you think? If he did not step up and ask you to marry him in five years, then why take him back now? If you do it would be on the condition that you work out the issues leading to the break up and that he tells you that you are the One he wants to be with forever and he asks you to marry him and you set a date for the wedding and while he makes up his mind he cannot have you all to himself. You will date other men, you will focus on your own life and not yours as a couple and he had better not see any other women or it is over for sure.....I don't care if he doesn't like it or if he thinks it is unfair....he has had his chance and you are not going to take yourself completely off the market for a maybe....he has to know he stands to lose you if he will not commit....this should not be given in the form of an ultimatum, but tell him what you want and how you feel. That you are not interested in being his or any one else's girfriend, but are looking for a life long happily ever after kind of deal. Nothing wrong with that, that is what we all really want.
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reader, Renee okc  +, writes (1 July 2009):
There is no way you can know for sure what he is doing in less you investigate he could be doing all you said or maybe he just realized that he has more in common with you can decided he would like to be back with you isn't that possible i would take it slow and throw some challenges his way and see how he responds just be careful and weary of him but also dont be so quick to judge him. Since you broke up with him he maybe has figured he has gave you enough time to get over your issues and maybe your ready to deal with him again.
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