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writes:okay so there is this boy ive been hooking up with. the whole day we were have a really good convo and he was telling me how much he wanted me and cares about me and that this relationship isnt committed...its not just physical to him and that he respects me so much etc. well later that night i got real gutsy and decided to tell him that i was falling for him and never felt this way before and that i was scared and doesnt know what to do cause im leaving for college in 2 months and that he told me to be honest so thats what i was doing. so he replied "youre leave in 2 months! like what am i suppose to say to that?" and then i was like you told me to be honest and thats what i was doing, you can take it or leave it but this is how i feel so he told me thanks for being honest.....i then asked him what this meant for us and if he had to think things through...i havent heard from him since...Can a boy just seriously stop liking you like that? i know most people are going to say then i dont deserve to be wtih him and so the help im looking for it...what do you think happened? did he get scared of me becoming attached, or is he shielding himself from me? or did i scare him off? i dont know whats wrong and i cant just be left hanging like this, and ive been told by several people to wait till he calls me but i need closure...help! Reply to this Question
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reader, Jacob Maluleka  +, writes (1 July 2009):
As a guy I'll too be pissed if my girl tells me that she's leaving in two months time, worst of all saying that this is the way she becomes honest because I told her to. What if I didn't mention the honesty part in our relationship?was she goning to leave without informing me?
Your boyfriend doesn't hate you, but he's a bit hurt on how you cracked the news to him.And I'd say he truely cared for you that's why he's hurt. Some of the other guys in relationships want to dominate and know everything that's heppening in your life-thats how we guys value trust.Matter of fact guys feel a bit insecure and untrustworthy if chicks make decisions on matters without informing them or when chicks don't disclose significant information with them until it is too late.
To resolve this halla at your boy and apologies on how you disclosed to him. If you truely care for him tell him that your errand to college doesn't mean you two are over. Try to gain his trust and show him that you truely want this relationship to work out. And I'm sorry he won't call until you take step showing that you too want this so badly.
Hope you find this helpfull........wish you the best of luck.
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reader, ForverRed27 +, writes (1 July 2009):
ForverRed27 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell heres the part that makes this situation different...ive known him since i was born...he is my dads best friends son and also works for my dad so its not like he is just gonna drop me and never see me again...i actually ssaw him today but he came to talk to my dad and i said hi and made a joke about something i was doing to lighten the mood a bit.when we were talking a while back i told him that i DID NOT want to get screwed over in any way and he told me that if i looked really closely and payed attention to the details, that he was the last person that would ever screw me over etc.the thing is, hes always going to be around my family, but i need some closure...do i call him and confront him? or is that too forward and too much drama...?
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reader, Krathor18  +, writes (1 July 2009):
 Ok hun, well i can safely say this guy didnt do his homework on girls and life fully, now what he doesnt realise is people work, go to college etc, and spend time doing other things, he thinks that you will be there all the time, when you wont be, and if he has a high sex drive(like i do) he will find it really difficult to cope with you not being there all the time, so therefore he ended things and is either talking to other girls or ignoring you, i know it sounds cruel but ive done it myself regretably, girls have told me that they have a boyfriend so i completely disregard them, i know its bad but whatever, thats what most guys are like, all they want is someone to have sex with AND be there all the time etc, otherwise theyd just end up cheating so in a way he has done you some good hun, but yeah that's guys for you, im not perfect, neither is he, but we make do etc, no one is perfect really tbh, so yeah i hope this helps you sweetheart, i'm sure you will find the right guy soon who is willing to wait for you etc, :) take care x x x let me know how things go ok?
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reader, mediocreland +, writes (1 July 2009):
He might of just been hoping for a quick fling before you left for college.
Not to be completely negative, but he probably just wants to get into your pants. If he isn't your boyfriend and he's saying he cares about you like that, it's most likely he's just trying to soften you up in hopes you'll want to sleep with him before you go.
I think you should wait untill he calls too. If he doesn't, then you'll know he was just trying something. If he does, then you guys can talk it out.
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reader, dan026 +, writes (1 July 2009):
 You probably scared him by telling him you were falling for him. IDK, because if he really liked you as he said he would probably give it a shot. If he said that stuff to get sex, he would still go along with it because you are leaving anyway so it would be good for him. This one's odd.
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