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writes:hello agony aunts and uncles!im sorry this is so long and drawn out but its been niggling at me for a log time now and i just need a bit of help or some insight as to whats going on.first of all i belong to a youth organisation, and im currently a adult instructor, this is how i met *tom*it was on a weekend away with the kids, out in the woods camping. i noticed him, but i didnt think much of him, and didnt give it much thought. till a few days later i noticed him on facebook, so i added him. we got talking and swapped numbers. we began to talk more and more and i started to develop feelings for him. another weekend came up and i found out he was going to be on this weekend, and i was very excited, we eneded up going to the bar and having a few too many drinks... i ended up in his room at 5 in the morning.he carried on meeting up, and he told me he had feelings for me and i told him the samebut everything changed when i stayed around his house one weekend. we woke up one morning and he was a complete different person, he was distant and not very chatty as he had always been.a few days later he told me he didnt want a relationship. since then his been very argumentative towards me. picks fights with everything i say. doesnt talk to me unless he HAS to. just this weekend gone, we went away again with the kids, and he didnt speak to me, but spoke to everyone else, then had a go at me the second he got on facebook.im not sure what ive done wrong? and to make matters worse im in love with him. i know im stupid for sleeping with him so soon. what im asking is, whts going on with him? how can he change so suddenly?any advice would be a great big help :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2009): Read the book...'He is just not that in to you'. They have also now done a film about it. Trust me it helps and everything becomes very clear!
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reader, kokopebbles  +, writes (1 July 2009):
yeah...i'm going through the same exact thing right now and i will tell you that it is incredibly painful. Especially when you are in love with the guy. But take this into consideration, maybe you were moving a little to fast for him. Guys tend to shy away from relationships that move to fast, and perhaps the fact that you slept with him was an indication that, you only wanted one thing; nothing else. So now, he probably feels used and a little embarrassed. And i am sure you feel the same way. The best thing to do for now is to give him a bit of space, then after his mind is all cleared up you can talk to him and start from scratch. And maybe take some time to actually get to know the guy from the inside out, instead of just rushing the process and scaring him away
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