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writes:I've recently split up with a guy who did me wrong - in a big way. Despite this I genuinely believe he loved me. We've talked and talked and I finally understand why he did what he did although I can't forgive him just yet. However I really want to stay friends with him. We were so close and told each other everything, I care about him a lot and miss his company but I'm just not sure if I'm being naive in thinking this can work. I have an amazing relationship with another ex (which ended in very different circumstances) which I think has led me to believe it can work out again. Has anyone else been in this situation and had it work out.... or should I walk away from this friendship right now as I can't bear to be hurt again?
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (2 July 2009):
 In this situation, it's usually best to take a break from each other for awhile. Let it cool off and let the tension simmer down. The wound for you is still fresh and being around him isn't going to help you get over the relationship. Going into a friendship when there are leftover feelings is bound to get messy. So if you really value your friendship and truly want it to work, you need to give both of yourselves the space to get over each other... then, when you have both really moved on, you can try to be friends!
Good luck, sweetness!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2009): Sometimes the only way we can move forward is by distancing ourselves completely from people that have hurt us. If you want a quality life you need to end the friendship. This hold on you will stagnate your existence. Sometime we have to let go of the very people we love, the very people who destroy us.
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