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anonymous
writes:I love my boyfriend very much for 2 years now i did everything i could to be with him. Sex, care, be there, go out anytime n everytime he need me. I love him n he loves me. We went throught hard time together he is my everything but just the other day he told me that he needs some space n i wanted to know why? but he had me confused n then i found out that he was seeing someone else i started to get mad n we had a fight n he told me its over n that he is in love with her. How can he love someone else in 1 month? What to do i try everything to get him out my heart but it is not working? right now i am in a next country n still my heart pain 4 him HELP ME!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2009): How do you define love? What type of connection is required to initiate love? Would you suggest that love has only one universal ideal or would you think it may be more relative than monotone-shaded?
Humans often put too much emphasize on the factors of "doing more" and "doing a lot" in a relationship, to try to gain some form of foothold with the other person. However, "doing more" and "doing a lot" does not necessarily mean the connection between two people is clear and matching.
The problems associated to one-sided love stories that lead to deeply broken hearts, is that one person is giving him or herself away believing that unconditional love is how things 'should' be. If there was a clear and matching connection between you and him, you wouldn't have needed to give yourself unconditionally. Actions and reactions would happen naturally and things would not have any depth of measurement.
To clarify and summarize my words, there is nothing you can do to immediately get him out of your thoughts. Time, coupled with the willingness to learn from the broken relationship, as well as support from those around you will help you dilute your broken emotions.
The universe is vast. You would not know 'true love' until the love you seek finds you and holds onto you, naturally and with ease.
(Even I shuddered saying that just now. Mushiness isn't a cat's best expression.)
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2009): i noticed your age range is only 18-21, so you guys are still young im 37 now and this reminds me of my first girl who i dated for 5 years... one day she broke up with me in the same circumstances. and it didnt take long to getbacktogether... we r married now... he is just confused about what he wants right now.. my advice would to b just roll with it and act like u dont care and that it dont bother you and he'll b back soon enough..
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