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Archived questions from: 2 December, 2009 (see latest in Troubled relationships category)

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Troubled relationships: Help and advice

Is there such as a thing as a counsellor or psychiatrist that specialises in sexual issues?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5473 days ago

2 December 2009 (F) - Is there such as a thing as a councellor/psychiatrist that specialises in sexual issues? And if so how do I arrange to see one? When I was 7 my Dad went into prison for sexual harassment on teenage girls. When I was a teenager I had very strict ...

Is my ex just mentally unwell?

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2 December 2009 (F) - Hi I have got advice on here before which was helpful so this was the first place I came to today because of a big upset. My partner and I split up a few months ago but stayed in touch over the phone and agreed to meet up this week. He can be...

Perfect to zero in 3 months--she's as cold as ice!

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2 December 2009 (F) - hi there, im very confused at the moment. my girlfriend and i have been together for almost 2 years, and i love her so much, that i cant imagine my life without her. everything was perfect when we first got together, it was intense and pssi...

Help with teenagers required!

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2 December 2009 (F) - I have two teenage boys. the oldest I had to rehome as he was insulting, ungrateful and depressed me. He now lives on his own but still tal;k and he comes round and stays and eats. his 15 year brother is developing similiar styles. I feel as ...

My ex is texting me, why, when he broke up with me

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2 December 2009 (F) - why is my recent ex-boyfriend texting me when he currently has a girlfriend whom he starting seeing right after our break up?...

Am I being unreasonable not wanting them to meet up?

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2 December 2009 (F) - Hey guys! Well basically I met up with an old friend as he was tutoring me for my end of year exams. We got pretty close and have ended up sort of seeing each other. Well we act like a couple, but were not officially going out.. I guess were still ...

He wants the benifits of marriage without the piece of paper

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2 December 2009 (F) - Dear Agony Aunts, I'm a woman of 35 and have been with my boyfriend for nearly 2 years. I have never lived with anyone but he has been married before (amicable breakup though, a long time ago). He wants us to sell our properties and live togethe...

My Latin Lover has become a Latin Monster

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2 December 2009 (F) - I am a Canadian woman, late-20’s, and dated an Italian man for just over three years. At first it was magnificent, the hand holding, gentle face touches, dancing in the dark, romantic romantic romantic. We moved in together and it was downhill from ...

I need help here. How can I get him to see that me and his daughter are important to him too?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5474 days ago

2 December 2009 (F) - My husband and i havae been together 3 years, married for 3 months and have a 2 months old daughter. He has always had anger issues but it seems since having our daughter it has gotten worse. He works 48 hr shifts at a time so i only see him hal...

He's cheated on me 8 times. Will he grow out of it?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 5459 days ago

2 December 2009 (F) - My boyfriend is extremely attractive, like the hottest boy I have ever laid eyes on in my life. He's got the tightest body made of solid muscle and the cutest face and he is sooooooooo much the best sex I have ever had a million times over. The only ...

B/f was depressed, wanted a break and now he wants me back

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2 December 2009 (F) - my boyfriend and i have been together for almost 4 years. he's been depressed recently and i don't know what is causing it and he says he doesn't either. Shortly afterwards we took a break so he could date the co worker he liked. they were together ...

Been in love with this woman for 19 years and I still don't have her!

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2 December 2009 (M) - Help I have been in love with a women for 19yrs. It was love at first sight but I was involved with someone and she ended up with a good friend of mine.The four of us hung now and then we both always got accused of wanting the other one. Nothing ...

B/f wanted to meet up with my fake post, but now I'm finding it hard to break up with him!

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2 December 2009 (F) - Okay bear with me, this might be a bit long. So I recently posted a question about how my boyfriend (now ex I suppose) had an internet dating site and checked it now and then. Which I was a bit dodgy about. I then went and did the wrong thin...

I'm crushed... was I not good enough for him?

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2 December 2009 (F) - Hi, I was going out with this guy for a little over 3 months, at the start he really liked me and got into a relationship with me straight away. I hit it off with his best mates too and they said it was so strange that he introduced me to them as ...

Should I continue to push the subject until she deals with the problem?

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2 December 2009 (M) - My girlfriend and I have been together almost 2 years. Everything has been going smoothly until as of late. First, her parents, even after years, still invite her ex over to their house. When I say how much this bothers me, they don't care. They...

What would make him accuse my brother of taking his wallet? Should I be alarmed?

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2 December 2009 (F) - I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for one month now. I find that i have huge commitment issues and usually read way more into a situation than needed but keep my feelings to myself. I thought things were going fine until he lost his ...

I cant cope with the idea of my boyfriend living in my pretty little house!

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2 December 2009 (F) - I've been with my commitment-phobiac bf for 3 and a half yers now and we've lived together for 2 years. Now I've bought a house of my own and I really don't want him to move in with me. I tried talking to him about it and he said that once you live...

I snooped on my boyfriend, should I confess?

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2 December 2009 (F) - I did a really silly thing and snooped on my bf, and found out his ex is pregnant. We have been seeing each other for 6 weeks, however the relationships been pretty intense and we've already discussed long term commitment. In fact I can truly sa...

Am I selfish for wanting more affection from my boyfriend?

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2 December 2009 (F) - Ive been with my boyfriend coming up to 3 years, i love him so much. I've had moments where i've wondered if i do really love him or if i do want to be with him, but the fact is he's the best thing thats ever happened to me, and i know i don't want ...

I kicked my husband out and now I'm regretting it, but he's already moved on to another woman!

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2 December 2009 (F) - i made a mistake, i kicked my husband out after a stupid arguement. we only got married 7th june this year,we have been apart a month. he has three kids from previous,i have two children from previous. i love his kids and they love me. ive tryed ...

Would he be happier on his own, without me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5421 days ago

2 December 2009 (F) - I'm in a weird situation. I've been with my boyfriend for about 2 years 4 months. We've had our ups and downs, like any couple, and he's a really sweet guy in most circumstances. We have lived together since February. We moved into a small apartment ...

Why is she now like this?

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2 December 2009 (M) - Hello I think the honeymoon period is over in my relationship. After a wonderful 5 months my girl has changed. She is happy for me to see buddies, my family and is not the jealous type but in other ways I feel so criticised She says I put the d...

Why has he never mentioned this girl to me before???

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2 December 2009 (F) - Hello people. I know its crazy to ask help in public like this but I'm seriously in a state where i find myself helpless. My age is 25 and i am in a relationship with a man aged 29. we are in a live in relationship. I fell for him in march 2009 an...

I'm getting married and I'm very sad. Why am I feeling like this? Red flag???

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2 December 2009 (F) - I'm getting married. But i'm very sad. I don't know why. I'm anxious and very scared about marrying this man. I love him, but i am scared that im making a mistake. I feel alone for some reason. We went to get our Marriage License the other day ...

What can I do to help Harry?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5474 days ago

2 December 2009 (F) - hi it's not really a love question but i hope you can help anyway. My friend *harry is being framed by this girl i used to be friends with *ellie. according to ellie, harry asked her for a topless photo of her over msn. she's told the police a...

She wants some space to see if she misses me...

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2 December 2009 (M) - My girlfriend of 8 months broke up with me because i was very jealous and it got to the point of beginning of arguments. 2 weeks after the break up i began counselling and was letting her know about it. she still loves me and i still love her. She ...

Help! Where did it all go wrong?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 5468 days ago

2 December 2009 (F) - I am in love with the sweetest kindest man. He knows I am smitten with him. We sms each other ever other day. I see him at my work as he does consulting for us for the last year. He is 2 years younger then I (42) am. He is obese (150kg) and I am ...

Ex troubles!

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2 December 2009 (F) - Hey, I am in a good relationship with a boy. I have recently spilt with one of his friends, before I started seeing him. I love my boyfriend and am really happy, but my ex is ignoring me and I just want to be friends with him. He is not only ig...

Shall I leave him to it or fight for my man?

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2 December 2009 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend for two years we have been through so much. i got drunk a week ago and apparently kicked him out but i dont remember that. i texed, rang and never got any response then last night a week after this all happened he said ...

I lied to my girlfriend...

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5464 days ago

2 December 2009 (M) - I met a girl at work about 6 months ago and my friend told her i was in the military cause she liked military guys.... we didnt start hanging out or talking till 3 months after that and like an idiot i kept up with the lie. we started dating and ...

Gay partner lying again... another man in my horizon?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5468 days ago

2 December 2009 (M) - Ok here goes.. i have been in a relationship with my Partner of 7 years, and we have booked our civil partnership for next summer! We both are a good match and people love seeing us together, especially our family. Throughout our years together o...

I'm insecure about my looks and can't stand to see sexy women on tv

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2 December 2009 (F) - i am a 23 year old girl who is overweight but i take pride in how i present myself most days. i guess ill say i am attractive for my weight. i have this wonderful boyfriend whome i love very much. we have been dating for over a year and live tog...

Because of my past I'm overprotective of g/f

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2 December 2009 (M) - I got a problem that prevents me from having a relationship. about a couple years ago my ex was murdered when I made her come down to my house and she was raped and killed on the way over. I loved her. it took some about 2 years but I started dating ...

We can't let go but maybe its best if we did?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5475 days ago

2 December 2009 (F) - At times my boyfriend will make me feel like the most special person in the world, but sometimes he treats me poorly. We think differently. Talking about our arguments helps me heal faster, but he doesn't like to try to solve our problems. Inste...

He saw a photo taken before we met and flipped!

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2 December 2009 (F) - im one of those troubled by a recent broken relationship after about 1.5 yrs and i dont know what to do. it was VERY suprising and sudden for both of us, he saw a pic of me before we met with some guys and he flipped and left. he wanted to be ...

I want to date her but am worried about what will happen if I then dump her

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2 December 2009 (M) - I've been talking to a girl recently after a terrible long-term relationship of mine ended. This new girl is kind, loving, quiet, and has a heart of gold, but she also has flaws. She was raped as a child by her own mother and her mother's countless ...

I am in love with a player who doesn't give a damn

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2 December 2009 (F) - I have been with my guy for five years. He refuses to agree to have a monogamous relationship but says that I am the only one. I have knowledge that he has cheated several time. He wont say that he loves me but wont say that he dosent. Our lives are ...

I am 14 and worried my love for my fiance is fading fast

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5459 days ago

2 December 2009 (F) - I've been with my fiance who lives 750 miles away for 1 year and almost 2 months (who was also my first boyfriend), and I feel like my love for him is gone. I an't explain why I feel like this, I just startd to feel like this after I came back from ...

I am marrying one man, while pining for another

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2 December 2009 (F) - I'm not sure I know how to go about explaining myself and I'm sorry for making this too lengthy but it is a long story. Here it goes: Before you start there are a few things you need to know about me:1) I am from a culture where family is everyt...

We met online, we met in person, now I hear nothing from him, why?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3722 days ago

2 December 2009 (F) - I've been out of the dating scene for a while, anyway, i met a guy online, and we went out on saturday and chatted in a bar for 3.5 hours, i knew he was interested because he kept reaching over the table to hold my hand, or touch me, he would stare ...

I was Drunk and Dancing and am now on facebook

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2 December 2009 (F) - when u go to a party and people take picturez of u dancing when u were really drunk! and posted them on myspace and a guy u like saw them he parties too but always knew u as a good girl does girls that like to drink and party develop like a bad ...

I am new to the sex scene and worried I am not good at it!

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2 December 2009 (F) - i'd likfe to know what i'm doing wrong , when i give my boyfriend oral he would star hard and after like a minute he would start getting .. flacid ,he wont be orgasming or finishing just flacid . i am new at it so i know i'm not good but can i be ...

I want to go back to the way things were before we split

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2 December 2009 (F) - Me and my ex boyfriend have been together for 5 years. we broke up about a month 1/2 ago. we love each other very much. we were living together. we had a good relationship, but also had fights. we even bought a car together last years and still have ...

My brother in law bad mouths our country

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2 December 2009 (F) - Hi I am currently staying in USA with my sisters family. My brother in law too is an Indian like me but he always grombles and cribs about the Indian system. He always uses foul language while talking about India and says that the country has not ...

I worry a lot about his commitment to our relationship

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2 December 2009 (F) - hey there i have another problem, i have the hardest time trusting my bf, he tells me he is so in love with me and that im the only one, but then he tells me i wouldnt trust you if i were you you and i ask him why and he says look at how much tro...

We were doing great, until I said I liked him

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2 December 2009 (F) - We never met, we talked for hours, he was clearly intersted until i told him i liked him, and now he doesnt wanna talk to me, he told me he got freaked out and scared, that hes not ready for that (that hes not as mature as me) and that hes not as ...

I think I am his stop-gap girl

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2 December 2009 (F) - Recently I was dating a guy for two months. Instantly we connected. He immediately asked me for another date after our first date. He called me everyday, texted me everyday, and we saw each other maybe 2-3 times a week. We became intimate a little ...

He looks at other girls and I'm not sure he's fully committed like I am!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5467 days ago

2 December 2009 (F) - I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year now. We both know we love each other everyday, and I know he means it. However, I tell him things like "I only want to be with you and nobody else. I want to spend the rest of my life with you because ...

I'm in love with my sister's ex!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5470 days ago

2 December 2009 (F) - I have been struggling with the right thing to do for years. Four years ago I met a wonderful man, whom I am still with.(not married but we do have a daughter) The problem is I have been in love with someone else all this time. I was honest with him ...

After her affair, all her flaws seriously annoy me. Is it possible to fall out of love with somebody?

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2 December 2009 (M) - I've been involved with a girl for three years. We've been in a long distance relationship for almost two years. I've tried hard to make the long distance thing work. It almost did, as she is planning on moving to live with me in 6 months after ...

He broke up a week before moving to my city

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5475 days ago

2 December 2009 (F) - Hello everyone. I have been with a guy for about 15 months now, however most of this ( over a year) has been long distance, as he moves about for work each year. He is due to move to the same city as me in 3 days time! I thought everything was f...

I think he is setting me up for a night of sex

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2 December 2009 (F) - A friend recently introduced me to a man (57 yrs. old). He invited me for dinner at his house along with my friend. He is a gentleman. The problem or what I see as a problem is that he keeps asking me over to cook dinner for me and then wants me to ...

I have feelings for my boyfriends brother!

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2 December 2009 (F) - Im in a bad situation.I have been with my boyfriend for almost eight years and we have two kids together. I love him but I dont know if im in love anymore. I cheated on him with his brother almost two years ago. He found out about it and he still ...