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writes:I've been out of the dating scene for a while, anyway, i met a guy online, and we went out on saturday and chatted in a bar for 3.5 hours, i knew he was interested because he kept reaching over the table to hold my hand, or touch me, he would stare at me, tell me how good i looked, and i thought we had a really good date. I told him i was leaving for a business trip very soon for a couple of months, and he made me promise to see him before i left. When we went our separate ways, we were taking different subways, he said it was really good to meet me, and gave me a kiss. Now i've only heard from him 2 days after, he texted me right in the morning. and i texted back, and i ask him how his day is... and i haven't heard back from him since this afternoon! I'm confused, i mean he knows i'm leaving, i thought he was interested, and i did hear from him. is he playing games? I don't want to seem eager but i really want to see him again. what should i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhaha I was reading my old posts - I wanted to update LOL. that actually he contacted me 3 days after, he also said he had to fly out to another city for a funeral which was unexpected and why i didn't hear from him. He actually wanted to see me again, but the 6 months after I returned back from my trip, but I was already seeing someone else, and a few months after he still wanted to see me again, and i found out he was engaged at that time... He was probably single when we met, but after a year and a half, he probably wanted to see "what if" with me, oh well, he was a nice guy, too bad i haven't met a marrying kind since!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhaha i never updated anyone on this - he called me after 3 days to arrange for another date - but it never worked out cus he had to go to a funeral in another city and i had to leave - he kept in touch with me for a good 6 months and actually still tried to see me after a full year - i later discovered he got married a year after we had our first date. oh well, but when he wanted to see me a year after our 1 date, he was engaged at that time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionomg i am so confused. we had such a good time on saturday, he kept saying, that he wanted to see me again.
I mean that one kiss was a pretty innocent kiss. it was literally one kiss. a little more than a peck. but that was it. There really wasn't that much touching.... i txted him again today and i still havent heard from him... im sooooo confused. this never happens to me!!! haha.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2009): Wait 'til tomorrow, or perhaps text him again and ask when to meet up?
Although I must say it sounds like he just want to get to bed with you. Kissing you on the first date, always leaning over to try and touch you... Wanting to see again before you leave, thats fine, but nyaaaar.... If I was you I'd not be naive. He might be a great guy, but it's the first date you had and unless you two were already in love from online chatting, he seemed a little too eager.
Could just be the nerves or he really is in love? But take it slow with the sex just to make sure he's thinking with the right head.
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reader, Roboaxe  +, writes (2 December 2009):
 Give him some time.
He is in the same situation as well, he doesn't want to seem to eager and scare you off.
If he doesn't respond after a few days (before you leave of course), call him. Don't leave a message if he doesn't answer. If he truly is interested in you, he will either call you back or send you a text.
There is also the chance that he may not want to get involved in a relationship only to have you leave on a business trip.
Hope this helps!
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