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writes:hey therei have another problem, i have the hardest time trusting my bf, he tells me he is so in love with me and that im the only one, but then he tells me i wouldnt trust you if i were you you and i ask him why and he says look at how much trouble i have been in i dont think before i do things. so i asked him if i sholdnt trust him in our relationship and he says no you can cuz if i would wanna be with a differnt girl i would have already, which leads me to something that happend 4 months ago. he went to a party and promised me he wouldnt drink, then next day he calls me and says babe i lied i drank and i drank ALOT when i heard that i was mad, then later on that day someone told me that a girl got him naked and gave him a bath, he told me he didnt remember so he called up that girl and she said yea i did cuz you threw up on your self, i got mad, and then they started texting each other and a little over a month ago he told me he had feelings for her after the party but not enough to break up with me to go for her, so i put that in the past now but of corse it still makes me mad, and a few days ago i was mad at him cuz he was being a butt to me and i thought he was going to break up with me so i sent dirty pics to a guy, i told him about it and he got mad but he forgave me\. basically what im trying to ask for is advice on how to make our relastionship alot easier and happy and less worring. i gave him a reason not to trust me he gave me one not to trust him but we both wanna date. i know there is a saying where it goes if there is no trust there can be no love, but want there to be love and for us to be able to gain trust. i just really need help here, when we are together we are happy but i do worry alot. so if you could help me out on how to make this work for us, well that would be great. thanks much! xoxo
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2009): Talk, listen... when I say listen, listen. Both of you. Work it out. If you truly want it to work out you have to communicate. Know eachothers feelings.
Be honest, that's the key.
Trust is something that has to be gained again from both sides. But if you both are not willingly to learn from your mistakes and gain that trust again, then maybe it's not worth the trouble.
In the end you both have to make the decision. A relationship is not one person... It takes two to tangle.
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reader, aleaiactaest88 +, writes (2 December 2009):
Go with your instincts. Don't trust him. The only way you will know if he really truly loves you is if he PROVES it with ACTIONS. Words are meaningless. A mute person could love better than the most charismatic of men.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2009): Trust is something that's built over time, it doesn't come automatically. To his credit, he did call you and tell you the next day. It could have been worse. You could have heard it from someone else, etc. Keep in mind too... love isn't about getting revenge when you get hurt. It's about finding ways to get through things together.
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