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Archived questions from: 1 December, 2009 (see latest in Troubled relationships category)

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Troubled relationships: Help and advice

Boyfriend's past trouble me..am I overreacting?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5430 days ago

1 December 2009 (F) - Hi there, I'm looking for some advice about my partner. I've been with my partner for 4 years now and we don't live together but do see each other 3 times a week, either he stays at mine or i stay at his. The problem is that I have always known ...

The thought of what my girlfriend does in her sleep keeps me awake

This question has 21 answers - newest was posted 2918 days ago

1 December 2009 (M) - For some reason this is really bothering me. I woke up the other night sleeping next to my girlfriend and i thought she was masturbating. Now i dont know for certain but the reasons i thought this were because the covers were slightly moving,...

He committed to me but I just found out he is still married

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5472 days ago

1 December 2009 (F) - I was dating a man 15 years ago and had a child with him. He wanted more than I was willing to give at the time and so we both went our separate ways. I still loved him I just felt as if I wasn't ready to get married and move away from my family. ...

We have been dating for a month and he is breaking my heart!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5475 days ago

1 December 2009 (F) - I,ve been dating my boyfriend since the beginning of November and he was happy for about 2 weeks. Now he tells mehow depressed he is and It hurts me coz I thought I was making him happy .I,ve tried everything to help him and Now he,s withdrawn from ...

Am I going to get dumped rather than a gift for Christmas?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5475 days ago

1 December 2009 (F) - My bf of almost 11 months moved back with his family after being unemployed as he was giving work with his dad. He now lives 80 miles away and says he won't see me at Christmas as he can't afford the £19 train fare even when I said I come pick him ...

Everybody hates me and nobody likes me

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5475 days ago

1 December 2009 (F) - i am 17 years old. My 32yo sister won't have anything to do with me because i am "f***cked in the head, a s**t, a wh*re, embarrassing, stupid.. the list goes on. She has never met my 3 month old daughter as she told me to abort it or she would ne...

My boyfriend makes me feel insecure. My fault? Help!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5473 days ago

1 December 2009 (F) - Ok, so...I have been dating this boy for 6 months. At first, he was amazing. He complimented me all the time, and he made me feel like a princess. However, over the last few months, he has started making little comments that are starting to break ...

Ex or new boyfriend...?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5474 days ago

1 December 2009 (F) - Me and my ex have been really close since we have split up and we see each other a lot more than what we did when we was going out and get on a lot better too. I have a new boyfriend that i hardly see as he lives so far away but we get on and when ...

I stay unhappy to make him happy...

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5475 days ago

1 December 2009 (F) - I really need some help from someone, ive been going out with my boyfriend for 8 months so not very long and he loves me so much but i dont feel the same way, i really like him but im not attracted to him in any way so find it very hard to have a ...

My best friend and I BOTH like the same boy... help!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5475 days ago

1 December 2009 (F) - My so called best friend is so very immature and insensitive. For the second time she has gone out with the boy that I really fancy after promising me she doesnt like them and knowing that I do. The boy in question this time told 1 of my other be...

Best friend told me he loved me, everythings changed, now its as if we're not even friends.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5469 days ago

1 December 2009 (F) - My best male friend told me he loved me 2 weeks ago, at first i wasn't sure if he said it jokingly or if he was being serious as he has confronted me about past feelings of being more than friends in the years i've known him. The night he told me...

I don't want to be the idiot that's used as a doormat.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5475 days ago

1 December 2009 (F) - I found out that my boyfriend has been sending texts to other girls of a sexual nature along with this he has also been sending texts saying that he wanted to be with them. this is the second time that I've found this out in the space of a couple of ...

Help! She cheated on me and I forgave her but I can't get the incident out of my head...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5475 days ago

1 December 2009 (M) - I was dating my girlfriend for 2 years, she recently felt tied down and is in her last year of high school and says she wants to be free and able to go out with her friends. she tells me she loves me and can see us being together in the future she ...

We both said we'd delete our Facebook profiles but she still hasn't deleted hers yet!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5475 days ago

1 December 2009 (M) - hi, ok i posted a question a couple of days, and here i am. Well i'm 22, I'm 2nd year university, i'm dating this girl for 5 months, everything is fine... but a couple of days i began to worry a lot... i'm texting her 3 maybe 4 times as usual. ...

My husband of four years watches gay porn and denies it! What should I do

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5470 days ago

1 December 2009 (F) - I have a real problem! My husband of four years watches gay porn online and denies it. We have two children and I’m 8 months pregnant with our third. I first caught him about two years ago. He refused to admit it! So, I confronted him with ...

Has my husband fallen out of love with me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5457 days ago

1 December 2009 (F) - Dear Cupid, I need some advice. The last couple of months my husband has been treating me different. Some background on us.. We have been together since high school. We were both 15, now we have been living together for 8 years and married for ...

Jealous of a girl who just got in with the family

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5475 days ago

1 December 2009 (F) - I am 23 years old and I am engaged to the most wonderful man in the world. We have been together for 6 years and for some reason I am still jealous. He has never given me a reason to be but I just am. We are always at his family's house and his ...

How big of an issue is it that he prefers anal and I dont?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5475 days ago

1 December 2009 (F) - Hi, I would really appreciate some advice. I split up with my long term partner a year ago (he left) and although I still love him I started dating another guy, who I do really like but the problem is that he is really really into anal sex and I am ...

I fell like such and idiot!!! Where do I go from here?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5475 days ago

1 December 2009 (F) - I feel a bit stupid at the minute because if Im honest, I feel like I set myself up for a fall. Basic back ground..Met lovely Italian guy 2 years ago in Isle of Mann during the races, we stayed in touch after the races on what I thought was only a ...

I don't want to destroy this woman..should I really stay in a relationship out of pity?is there a good way to end this?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5475 days ago

1 December 2009 (M) - Back in 1998 my wife of 10 years walked out of our marriage and moved to the US. There was no sinister reason - she basically just got tired with married life. Fortunately we had no kids, so the break was clean. Within 6 months I was back in the ...

Is it innappropriate for a gay guy in a committed relationship to have other gay friends?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5475 days ago

1 December 2009 (M) - Is it inappropriate for a gay man in a committed relationship to have gay friends? I knew my boyfriend wouldn't like me having gay friends but since I am 25, gay and had never had any I decided I wanted some. My motives were purely innocent ...

Although my instinct here is to end it...i want to salvage this relationship?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5475 days ago

1 December 2009 (M) - Bit of a long question here, but I'll try to be concise: My girlfriend has said some things over the last month that have made me very suspicious of her and some of her male relations. For context: She has a lot of male friends, who are all...

Is she telling me her own story, from a third person perspective?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5474 days ago

1 December 2009 (M) - Hello Long story short: We are 24. My girlfriend was in a 5 year relationship with an abusive drunk. We always liked each other and hooked up right away after she broke up with him. It's been rocky, but after 5 months and confrontation an...

When I'm with my boyfriend it doesn't feel like we are a couple...any advice?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5475 days ago

1 December 2009 (F) - ok, so ive been with my boyfriend for a year and 2 months now and we hardly ever see each other, but when we do we dont act like a couple what i mean by this is we dont hold hands and walk and i guess the reason for that is because he walks fast and ...

Please can anyone help Me? ..I am headed for a breakdown!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5475 days ago

1 December 2009 (F) - right, here goes... i don't know what to do with myself. in theory my life is good, i'm at college, got a decent relationship with my mum, got an absolutely amazing guy who would do anything for me and has asked me to marry him. but underneath i...

My live in rarely wants sex..is it me or our situation?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5474 days ago

1 December 2009 (F) - My live-in boyfriend and father of two of my children never wants sex. We are intimate maybe once every two or so months. Our two yo does sleep in the bed with us, but when he or I really really want it we move to another room or move our child in...

Should I wish her well or leave it to no contact at all?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5475 days ago

1 December 2009 (M) - Was Dumped last thursday by text message, am hurting so much ! I havent contacted her, onlyl got a bland short email from her with her Meal choices for our groups Christmas meal. Her mother is going into hospital tomorrow, should I text her ...

Girlfriend or booty call?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5392 days ago

1 December 2009 (F) - Hi , I am just out of a long relationship. i am doing my masters and became close to one of my classmates. He jokes light heartedly about me and is always ready to help me. But hes not very good at talking about emotions and feelings and hen...

Is it silly to be upset that my husband of 27 years puts his brother as next of kin on his passport?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5475 days ago

1 December 2009 (F) - Recently my hubby got his renewed passport and when I went with him to get his travellers cheques I picked up his passport [while we were waiting for his stuff] and noticed that on the page that asks for next of kin that he had filled in his ...

Flirting with an older married woman, not sure where it has gone now

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5475 days ago

1 December 2009 (F) - I've long admired from afar an older woman I know, and it's obvious that she has, at least at one time, fancied me too. Since it's been many months since our last meeting or communication, I'm not sure of where she stands today. But, I remember our ...

He says he wants to marry me and then I don't hear from him!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5475 days ago

1 December 2009 (F) - A guy I have been seeing on and off for several months told me that he loves me and wants to marry me. He didn't sound like he was expecting to hear it back but, I wanted to repeat it however, I didn't because I'm not at I love you yet and I assumed ...

I feel like he was never sorry

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5475 days ago

1 December 2009 (F) - I need some advice about what to do. I don’t know what’s wrong with me:/ So there is this guy and we’ve had a good/bad friendship. Well I liked him and I guess he liked me. He knew I had a crush on him. He’s treated me badly. He likes to take me out ...

Our relationship was a fake relationship

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5475 days ago

1 December 2009 (F) - I've known this guy for 4-5 yrs.We've fooled around on and off the whole time.I got married and during that time that guy told me he loved me etc.I got divorced (not cos of him though).We fooled around for awhile and disappeared - everytime it ...

I want to spice up my love life

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5473 days ago

1 December 2009 (M) - ok we have been married for 12 yrs. while sex with my wife is great, i want to take it a bit further. i no stuff like couple swaps and 3 somes would be fantastic in my eyes, i also no that they can do more damage than good. so i spose i am looki...

My partner cheats while I am at work

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5475 days ago

1 December 2009 (F) - my partner and I have been together 5 years, he is 29 I am 25, we have been living together for 4 years. ok, this is the story its very long,about 3 years ago he started using a chat/dating sites to make friends and chat to people,he would ...

She sees me as a funky bandbuddy, but I want to be more

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5475 days ago

1 December 2009 (M) - hey all, so, I play in a rock band with two dudes and a pretty cool girl. I started the band in the summer and for a while only saw her as a bandmate, I could tell she was pretty and interesting, but no other feelings surfaced, it was all busin...

I don't want to be stuck in the "Friends Zone"

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5475 days ago

1 December 2009 (M) - My ex and I broke up about a week or two ago. Everything was going perfect between us before that. She would normally take her anger out on me because she saw me outside of school more than anyone else and it was never me that she was mad at. She ...

I am a girl and I want her to love me back

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5474 days ago

1 December 2009 (F) - I'm a 14 year old female who is bisexual. A few days ago I told one of my close friends who is a girl that I like them. They said they didn't feel the same, but today they texted me saying this: "How do you tell a person that sometimes when you talk ...

My boyfriend has lost interest in sex, but I haven't

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5476 days ago

1 December 2009 (F) - me and my boyfriend have been together for over a yr now and we used to have sex about 3 times a day. now it seems like i have to beg him for it, and he doesn't really do any fore play with me anymore. i have talked to him about this a number of ...

Did this boy lose interest/feelings for me? And do you guys think he meant it when he agreed to remain friends with me? (or was it to make me happy?)

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5476 days ago

1 December 2009 (F) - I met this boy over the summer. all along he was giving me these little hints that he liked me but didn't wanna see obvious...but EVERYONE told me that he REALLY liked me and that he was VERY shy...anyway, We knew eachother for 5 months and we were ...

How will I tell my daughter about us?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5476 days ago

1 December 2009 (F) - I have been in a relationship with my 2nd cousin for 4 years now I don't know how it start but were in love n have a 2 year old daughter together of course my family found out n its cause a black hole in my family I love him deeply , but evertday I ...