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Archived questions from: 9 December, 2009 (see latest in Troubled relationships category)

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Troubled relationships: Help and advice

Will making peace with him confuse him even more?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5466 days ago

9 December 2009 (F) - Hi. Bit of a strange situation. A while ago I started having an affair with a guy at work and moved in with him after separating with my husband. About 6 months later another guy at work revealled that he had had a big crush on me for years and that ...

Should I let my abusive ex have visitation?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5466 days ago

9 December 2009 (F) - Hello all, I have somewhat of a complicated question to ask... My husband and I are getting a divorce. Back in November we had a fight, he got physical with me and I called the police. There is a temporary restraining order on him and the hearing ...

Should I be with a man who is unable to give me the quality of life I have now?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5454 days ago

9 December 2009 (F) - i am a 32 year old female who has two kids i live with a man that is twice my age he is loving in every sense of the word but has hurt me by cheating in the process i lost a baby i was carrying i love him but hate his touch i recently met someone ...

I left, she kissed somebody else, now I want her back, but she is wary

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5465 days ago

9 December 2009 (M) - I am a 25 yr old male. Ive been withthe same woman for almost years the first 6 months were better than I could have ever imagined then we hit the one year mark and we start arguing alot more then a few weeks ago I got tired of fighting without ...

Woops, wrong name, wrong guy, wrong time

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5461 days ago

9 December 2009 (F) - I met a really cool guy online in Sept. and he lives far away. It was going really well, and then I dated someone else I met a little later who lived closer. I felt guilty as I didn't love the second guy, and when we were intimate, I called him by ...

His parents interfere and he is losing interest

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5466 days ago

9 December 2009 (F) - dear cupid, what do u do when u hav been dating almost a year and the others parents prevent u from talking very often and it seems that the other is losing interest in you what do you do to keep them interested?...

Jekyl and Hyde, nice to me when friends arent there, horrid when they are!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5465 days ago

9 December 2009 (F) - what does it mean when a guy talks about you and make fun of you to his friends when your not around. but when his friends are not around he is the nicest guy ever. this guy used to like you and you just recently started returning the feelings. you ...

I am cheating but instead of making me happy, it makes me cry

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5467 days ago

9 December 2009 (F) - whenever my boyfriend and I have sex i never come unless he goes down on me, but lately Ive been crying after sex, Im also seeing some1 else and after sleeping with him I also started crying and I didnt even come, I laugh and cry alot its wiered and ...

I am in love with a 15 yo alcoholic

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5467 days ago

9 December 2009 (F) - I'm 15 and I broek up with my boyfriend about 3 moths ago because I had issues with the doubt that I was possibly not IN love with him and we've remained friends and I think I'm finally ready to move on and I tihnk I've fallen for someone, the thing ...

We've been getting more distant since we aren't having fun

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5467 days ago

9 December 2009 (M) - I needed some advice on how to be a boyfriend to my girlfriend, rather than act like a husband. We've been dating for 2 1/2 yrs. It seems as if we have been getting more distant since we have not been having fun. We have a routine relationship. So ...

Why is she so distant with me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5467 days ago

9 December 2009 (M) - I'm completely lost... My girlfriend calls me and texts me all day everyday. But she rarely asks me to come over anymore or asks to stay with me. She doesn't show me any physical emotions, like hugging kissing cuddling or anything. She says she ...

My 38 year old GF is smothering me and wants kids ASAP and I am not ready

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5314 days ago

9 December 2009 (M) - I 34.5 and my girlfriend is 38.5. We've been dating for almost 3 months and knew each other as friends for 2 months before that. I care for her very much, but feel as if I'm constantly being pressured to move quicker than I am comfortable with ...

Is this guy worth a second date?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5467 days ago

9 December 2009 (F) - pls help me, im a virgin n never been in relatnshps..nw my bf is askin fr a second date....on d first he lockd hs car n grabd my breast n kissed forcibly n tried 2 remove my top.i cried n he left me. he cld n said sry but continues wid horny mesages ...

Is he wanting a no strings relationship with me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5466 days ago

9 December 2009 (F) - I'm 22 and startd my first relatnshp 3 months back. I found him online and met last month. He's good but on our 1st date he comlimented me that I have huge boobs and suddenly he caught my boobs and smooched me, forcibly. I cried and left the place. ...

He loves me but he doesn't show me any "love". What should I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5467 days ago

9 December 2009 (F) - I need some smart advice!. So this is a long long marriage ,and I would like to stay in it, if its possible!!!!!! But ,I'm not sure this is possible. Here is the problem!My husband does not show love, yet he says he does love me. I'm very very con...

Is this cougar after my man?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5467 days ago

9 December 2009 (F) - im in my twenties and have been with my partner for 4 years.he is in his thirties.iv always bee abit jeleous but am getting better.any way theres a woman he woks wiv that realy likes him.shes 50 she texts most days and trys to ring though he doesnt ...

Should I resign myself to my current unhappy life or pursue the new relationship...it's just so hard. Is there an answer?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 5467 days ago

9 December 2009 (M) - I don't know where to begin, so I will start with some background information. I have been married for 20 years, have a child in college, 1 in high school and 1 in 4th grade. I got married at age 26. When I dated my wife we had a lot in com...

How to deal with it?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5467 days ago

9 December 2009 (F) - How do i get over him its so tough I really need advice on this please We are seperating and its not easy I just spoke to him and he is so calm about everything How can two people that was so inlove and dedicated to each other turn out to ...

Stubborn boyfriend is rethinking relationship because I'm not ready to move in.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5467 days ago

9 December 2009 (F) - Thanks to anyone who reads and replies to this. Ok me and my bf have been going out for about 3 years. Hes just recently asked me if we could move in together after my 1st year of uni. I am not ready for such a commitment like that. Ive just sta...

How do I get my 38 year old lover back?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5467 days ago

9 December 2009 (F) - Hey everyone, Ive got a big problem. He's 38 and im 18 and even though ive heard all the comments about robbing the cradle, hes only using you for sex. I dont care and I love him and he loved me. it all started on saturday when he came up from...

Am I doing the right thing by staying with her?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5467 days ago

9 December 2009 (M) - i have a big issue and i dont know how to handle it ,i met this girl on a party and well we hooked up that day without knowing each other in the dark ,but we didnt have no intercourse but the second time i saw her we did have sexual intercourse she ...

What does he want?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5468 days ago

9 December 2009 (F) - Me and my ex were together for three years not all of the time was the relationship good, his mother didn't like me for some reason and when I was pregnant with my son who's now two she did everything she could to cause problems she told him the ...

How to support her in her career?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5467 days ago

9 December 2009 (M) - Hi, I am 26, living a metro city in India. I am well qualified and have good experience in my filed of work. I am working in a multi national company, have a stable job and earning well. I have my flat which I took on loan and living with my paren...

Was I wrong? I need help!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5467 days ago

9 December 2009 (F) - My ex and I broke up about 3 months ago. After a year and a half together. He said he couldn't deal with the relationship anymore. But we still talk and try to rebuild our friendship to get back into a relationship. I feel like I have no control in ...

I snooped and found things, now how to confront him!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5467 days ago

9 December 2009 (F) - i know its wrong of me but i recently went thru my bfs cell phone and found things that bother me. How can i confront him without him knowing i went in his phone?...

Should I tell my lover's wife her husband is a philandering fink?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5462 days ago

9 December 2009 (F) - hi there i thought i was the only woman who is involved with a married man but it seems there are out many out here and i wish someone can help me. we works for different companies, then texted, emailed, he sent me flowers, chocolate and w...

I took him back, but I still feel betrayed!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5458 days ago

9 December 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been together for three years now, but a year ago, he cheated. I took him back after only a week of thinking on it and feeling sorry for myself. I just knew I couldn't handle life without him, but I still get images of them ...

My girl's biological clock is ticking after 8 years together but I wont commit

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5462 days ago

9 December 2009 (M) - Hi there My girlfriend and I have been together for 8yrs. She is 29 and I am 31 in three days. She really wants to have kids, but I am not sure. Sorry for the long story that follows but it gets a bit more complicated. I can imagine having kids...

I have a girlfriend but think about others girls, and told my girl this!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5467 days ago

9 December 2009 (M) - I am currently dating a girl I have been with for 3.5 years. Here recently I have been getting strong feelings for other girls. Especially her roommate who also happens to be my best friend and my girlfriend's best friend. I have told her about ...

Really confused and not sure where to turn with this relationship

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5468 days ago

9 December 2009 (F) - me and my boyfriend been together for 3 years we have a son who is gonna be one years old, my boyfriend is 37 im 21, me and him been on and off for awhile now, i never really been single for very long.... i dident like to be at the time... my ...

He told me early last month that he could not do 'us' . This is so hard on me!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5462 days ago

9 December 2009 (M) - Hello, I am writing to see if someone can help me please with a problem that I am going through. I had been dating my partner for 12 months before we broke up a month ago. Things were going great, I was refered to as my beautiful boy, and on my...

I don't know how to stop missing him

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5467 days ago

9 December 2009 (F) - I don't know how to stop. I don't know how to stop loving my ex boyfriend. I don't know how to stop missing him. It seems over the past year, I can only go a few weeks before I run back to him all over again. He's like a drug and I am honestly ad...

Everyone is telling me my boyfriend will dump me because he just wants sex!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5468 days ago

9 December 2009 (F) - Everyone keeps telling me that my bf will dump me and leave me and just want sex, is this true? Should I listen to them? Basicaly whats happened is that when my bf and I first met he wanted sex early in the relationship, but I didnt because I ...

Why is he so hostile? And why do I allow him to keep hurting me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5465 days ago

9 December 2009 (F) - My fiance ended it with me 6 months ago. After 4 months of messing with my emotions, I changed my number and we had no contact for 2 months. Then last week he emailed and left his number and asked to see me. I called and ended up going to see him...

He didn't say the right things when I asked how I would know he would never cheat on me!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5465 days ago

9 December 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I just got back together after a year of being broken up. The difference this time is that i moved to my mom's house on april so we live an hour and a half away now. We used to live together at his parents when we were toegther by ...

Is my ex girlfriend playing mind games???

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5468 days ago

9 December 2009 (M) - Hi sorry this question is going to be really long with the details and such. Me and this girl dated for 3 years. You could say she was my first love. I was her first love too. Our relationship was wonderful she was tight with my family i was tig...