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Archived questions from: 3 December, 2009 (see latest in Troubled relationships category)

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Troubled relationships: Help and advice

He said I'm too vocal in bed!!! I'm totally shocked by this revelation.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5472 days ago

3 December 2009 (F) - Last night my boyfriend casually mentioned to me that I'm too vocal in bed. I'd never thought about it before and hadn't realised I was particulaly loud. The way he said it was very patronising and embarrassed me greatly, it has really knocked my ...

Is he lying to me? WAS something going on behind my back?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5469 days ago

3 December 2009 (F) - Me and my boyfriend are driving and his phone keeps ringing, he asked me to answer if I wanted. I did and it was a female who says she had the wrong number. I questioned who she was calling for and she said her cousin gave her the number. I asked ...

We're back together again but now her family hates me!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5473 days ago

3 December 2009 (M) - My girlfriend and I have been together for a little over 3 years now. 8 months ago I cheated on her with an ex girlfriend through a one night stand. She was hurt so in return she cheated on me with a friend. We chose to forgive each other and move ...

Am I wrong? Should I end it?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5473 days ago

3 December 2009 (F) - Okay well my boyfriend and I have been going out for 2 months today, in the beginning it was fine, (isn't it always) and maybe 2 or 3 weeks into the relationship he asked me to do something sexual and I told him I didn't want to, well he got really ...

Am I just being too needy and expecting too much?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5473 days ago

3 December 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship, been together for 10 months now. It's been around 3 and a half months now since we were last together in person. I miss him tremendously, and I know he misses me too. However, the first 2 ...

Are relationships just about love or is there more to it?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5473 days ago

3 December 2009 (F) - My ex and I broke up about six months ago, but all the feelings are still there. Lately he and I have been talking about getting back together, but I told him I wanted to wait to meet up in person and see where things stand (I'm at school 800 miles ...

I was perfectly happy with the new guy before my ex came back..now I'm questioning everything?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5473 days ago

3 December 2009 (F) - I am torn between two men. One is my ex, who broke up with me a month ago. We were together for 3 years, and he was deployed for the last year. He evaluated our relationship while over there are decided to end it prior to coming home. He said he ...

Does he love me back the way I love him?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5445 days ago

3 December 2009 (F) - Hello everyone, So my question is... Does he love me? He says he loves me but how can you really tell... Well let me start from the beginning. We have been dating for 4 months and we try to see each other as much as possible... sometimes we don't ...

My anger got in the way of my relationship, is it still salvagable?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5473 days ago

3 December 2009 (M) - So heres the situation I have been with this amazing beautiful woman for the past three years. Howerver I have an anger problem that has come in the way of our relationship. When i get to angry I just go crazy i punch holes in the walls break ...

I'm worried his ex still likes him, how do I know he doesn't want her back too?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5472 days ago

3 December 2009 (F) - I need help :( I'm insecure. And my esteem was starting to build up nicely with my new bf and then i found out he was still in contact with his ex, and they are close friends. Now I am back to where I started. I want to talk to him about it but...

Why do I have to be the one to contact him and give him attention when I get nothing in return?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5473 days ago

3 December 2009 (F) - SO i am so upset right now, I dont know whether its my fault or not. I haven't heard from my bf for the past week, from monday till now. And my bday was just the only last day Ive seen him. He was online a couple days ago and was "busy" and he ...

Will he ever come back to me and his two young children?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5470 days ago

3 December 2009 (F) - dont know where to start. Iv got a 15mth old and 11week old to my ex who walked out on me when i was 3 month pregnant. we would have minor arguments during pregnancy and he would walk out but and i would say dont come back (not meaning it) one day ...

Why hasn't he removed himself from the swinging websites he used to use?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5469 days ago

3 December 2009 (F) - My boyfriend of 9 months used to go on swinging/sex/dating websites (the type where basically all's you want is sex) I found this out the other week when on his laptop (I wasn't snooping it just popped up) so what should I do? He joined up to them ...

My virgin boyfriend is holding back on sex!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5473 days ago

3 December 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 3 months now, and of course we have been fooling round for a while but its always foreplay. You see, we're both virgins and I'm willing to go a little further with the intimacy but he holds back. The ...

I love him but I have a boyfriend! What should I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5473 days ago

3 December 2009 (F) - I like one guy from class 8th he also likes me but i dont tell yes to him since our family relationship will get spoil due to us and i dont want it but now on orkut we chat with each other he still likes me and i too but both of us is having our ...

Why wont she admit that she is still in love with me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5473 days ago

3 December 2009 (M) - this might take long so please bare with me. 3 days ago i just found out my ex who lives down south is wanting me back and my mate told me cause she was talking to her on msn. my mate told me that my ex wanted me back and is missing me badly and ...

Do I move on and start a fresh new life where I know I will never get hurt and looked after or risk my ex going back to his old life???

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5473 days ago

3 December 2009 (?) - I had been completely madly in love with my ex for 8 years, he loved me, we had a 7 year old but he was an addict, I'd been messed about for so long and in the end he ended it. Now he is in prison asking for one last chance saying he's changed, he ...

He always wants to make a go of it when he is drunk, but then never remembers what he said the next day!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5473 days ago

3 December 2009 (F) - i've been talking to this guy now for about 3 months and firstly when i gave him my number, after months of saying no, i didn't really see anything between us other than friendship. But he told me right from the very start that he's liked me for ...

Does he still have feelings for me or is he playing mind games?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5473 days ago

3 December 2009 (F) - Ok, i met this guy Jeremy and we hooked up 3 days later so we stayed together for a while but the problem is he broke up wit this girl Allie and he talked about how distant they where and how happy he was with me, so he went around telling everybody ...

How can I tell if my boyfriend really loves me?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5410 days ago

3 December 2009 (F) - hi, i am in serious dilemma weather my boyfriend does really love me or not ..i met with him last year through chat room and slowly as days passes on, we became a very good freinds first ...we use to share everything and he use to call me every da...

He thought I was playing games, so now I think he is playing me!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5473 days ago

3 December 2009 (F) - "Treat 'em mean, keep 'em keen"...I think the guy I like is doing this to me, cuz the past few weeks he was really attentive towards me and showing huge interest..then all of a sudden he is ignoring me...I also think he got this advice from ...

How do I handle this situation? We are getting closer but she has a boyfriend!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5462 days ago

3 December 2009 (M) - ok well I work with this girl and shes my age. she has had a boyfriend since highschool. we got to know each other and became real good friends. thru a year I've gone thru relationship after relationship and she has known bout each one. she asks me ...

The shine has worn off our relationship

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5473 days ago

3 December 2009 (M) - Wanted some help, me and my ex started our relationship really happy and we were for about a year and a half then we started arguing and got worse till we were arguing almost everyday over things that didnt even matter. She is very insecure and ...

She mixes with celebrities but I am just a ordinary guy

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5472 days ago

3 December 2009 (M) - Greetings everyone. I'm here to ask a very strange sounding question; just make sure you read everything I have to say or it may seem a bit confusing. See, I've been seeing this girl long-distance for almost two years now. Where I live, I'm fairly...

I bought gifts for his sick mother but he still doesn't want me

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5473 days ago

3 December 2009 (F) - Hi all, Hope i will get a good help here. It has been like 2 months and sth since my r/ship with my 6 years boyfriend started to shake.We loved and love eachother so much, we used to constantly talk about a future together and we were planning to...

Is this what a normal relationship is like?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5473 days ago

3 December 2009 (F) - Hi, I have been in love with my BF about 2 years +, I feel my relationship is not normal. He is a White guy and he is a Boss of one factory in asian (Switzerland), I am Asian girl (Chinese), he always told me their culture in Switzerland is d...

My ideas of my ideal man are very vague, I can't decide what I want

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5473 days ago

3 December 2009 (F) - I need a little advice. I realized today that my string of bad relationships has never given me the opportunity to see what it's like to be treated well by a man. I have no idea what it feels like. I've considered joining a dating website to see ...

I got out of a loveless marriage but now I feel guilt!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5468 days ago

3 December 2009 (F) - I have been in a loveless marriage for quite some time. I cannot say my conduct has been ideal. I had a fling a few years ago and I treated my husband badly. I was trapped, we were utterly incompatible people, counselling didnt help and all we did ...

Since being played I cannot trust

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5473 days ago

3 December 2009 (M) - im a 22 year old virgin.my whole school experience was pretty terrible for me i always felt insecure missplace and low because i was always being made fun of, plus my first relationship ever was a sad wreck i got played! as a result im unconfident ...

It's over but I can't move on

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5474 days ago

3 December 2009 (M) - My girlfriend of 5 months broke up with me almost a month ago, and I still can't bring myself to move on. I've been left before and none have hurt this bad. I see her at school and it's like she's completely erased me from her momory. Like we never ...

I still love my girl but have cooled off

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5465 days ago

3 December 2009 (M) - So, I"m 17 and my girlfriend of 11 months is 16. We're almost at our 1 year anniversary and I can't shake the fact that my feelings for her are swinging up and down. I've never been so confused in my life. I love this girl but at the same time I ...

My girlfriend wants an open relationship

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5469 days ago

3 December 2009 (M) - Hey all, I've been off and on here various times these last few months, seeking random tidbits of advice for my ongoing relationship with my gf. Let me start off with a bit o' history. Notably, answers from the 'net have barely helped and in my...

I have forgiven him, but was I just gullible?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5474 days ago

3 December 2009 (F) - My bf and I have worked through so much in the last six years and finally this last school year (he is actually graduating in a few days and I have another semester) we have had the time to do a lot of fun things. We pretty much live at my place, ...

My relationship is already rocky and my ex "wants to catch up"

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5474 days ago

3 December 2009 (M) - I am trying to make my shaky relationship with my girlfriend work. We've had lots of financial problems and trouble communicating. Things had been going pretty well and getting better and better and I was feeling really good. Today I ran in...

She fulfills my fantasies but wont be my girl!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5473 days ago

3 December 2009 (M) - We were together for 4 years. I see her frequently. It seems like we're dating again exclusively, but she "doesn't want a boyfriend right now." So, she started talking dirty to me one night, and we got into it. It was weird at first, so I stopped. ...

Trapped in a situation and I don't know where to turn

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5474 days ago

3 December 2009 (M) - I have been in a relationship with my fiancé for the past 3 years and we have 2 children, the eldest who is 3 and a half is from her previous relationship and we have a child together who will be 2 in a few days time. I love each of the children ...

I am in a dead marriage!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5474 days ago

3 December 2009 (F) - What are the reasons for saving a dead marriage? Is this for God? Or the kids? I'm confused? Why do we suffer in unhappy marriages? Why do we stay in them so long ,than at the end we can barely move. I do this myself. It's just does not work, bu...

He asks me for my movements but then doesn't act on the information!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5474 days ago

3 December 2009 (F) - I met this guy last Friday and he got my number. We hung out again Saturday night. I live about 45 minutes away from him and I'm in college. Monday I came home for Thanksgiving break. He told me to tell him when I got into town. I did... two nights ...

I am only 17 so I told her I was older

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5473 days ago

3 December 2009 (M) - OK story time! Here I go... I met a girl the other day who I got along well with and we have been messaging back and forth since; she is 19. I feel like an ass I said I was 18 when I'm really only 17; anyways I am going to be 18 in like 3 months. I ...

He called me by his pet name, does that mean he still cares?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5473 days ago

3 December 2009 (F) - Hello, I broke up with a man about six months ago. We broke up to his sexually performance problem (health related). We see each other on a semi-regular basis (travel in the same circles due to my child's hobby). We have been able to stay fri...

He told me it aint gonna happen but I am still hoping

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5472 days ago

3 December 2009 (F) - Ok, so this is how the story goes ......me and Stan have been friends since high school in India and now I am in America and he is in UK. So I have had a crush on him since high school and one day an apt situation came up for me to confess my love ...

I'm afraid that I'll be alone my whole life.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5473 days ago

3 December 2009 (F) - I know this is probably a very common question, but I'm just gonna go ahead anyway. I'm afraid that I'll be alone my whole life. I've never had a boyfriend or anything, and I don't think any guy has ever liked me. I'm not very pretty, and I re...