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writes:I have been with my boyfriend for two years we have been through so much. i got drunk a week ago and apparently kicked him out but i dont remember that. i texed, rang and never got any response then last night a week after this all happened he said he was coming round then when he got here he said he wanted to take all his stuff as he was moving back to his moms. I pleaded with him not to, to give us another go but he went anyway. he's a really spoilt mommy's boy and i cant help think she is saying things in his ear. he says its not over he just wants to start from scratch but to me thats just taking steps back i know we have been through a lot but i truly believe if he came home we can really make a proper go of it. Shall I leave him to it or fight for my man? he says he loves me and didnt really want to move out. Help!
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (2 December 2009):
 I think if you let him move back to his mum's, and do as he said in starting over from scratch, then he will be wanting to move back in with you faster than you think!
Living with parents when you are older than 18 is never much fun - he will have gotten used to his freedom so to relinquish that freedom will be very difficult for him, so he will miss living with you very quickly.
At the end of the day the way you behaved was wrong and he will be worried it is going to happen again - he just needs some time to get over it. So let him go ahead with his plan, but I'm sure he will be coming back to you in no time! In the mean time, just try and make him realise what he is missing! Invite him round to your house and make sure it is looking gorgeous and clean, spend a bit of time on your appearance (do your nails, your hair - make an extra effort)....when he realises how much better it is being with you and how rubbish it is being at home with mum, then he will soon be back!
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (2 December 2009):
Well get tallking to him. If he says he loves you, then it can be fixed. You kicked him out, so he is naturally very worried that you'll do it again. So you need to sit down with him and talk to him about the relationship and what you can both work on to make it better. But be aware that if yoou were drunk and you threw him out, that you may need to cut back on alcohol.
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