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30-35,
anonymous
writes:At times my boyfriend will make me feel like the most special person in the world, but sometimes he treats me poorly.We think differently. Talking about our arguments helps me heal faster, but he doesn't like to try to solve our problems. Instead, he likes to be left alone and not discuss our argument.Most of the time, we argue about this. If I start talking about our arguments, he will hang up on me or tell me that I'm pissing him off even more by telling him how I feel.I'm in this rollercoaster relationship. I love him, and he loves me, but is that enough? I don't know if this is a personality kind of thing that can't be fixed. We both feel unhappy with each other... around fifty percent of the time, but no matter how hard we try, we both can't let go. I know there is probably somebody better for me, but I love him so much that it's hard to imagine being with anybody else. Should I stay with him or should I just try to move on? He is a great guy, but I'm so confused. We have many fun memories together that it makes it hard for me to even try to let go.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2009): you should find whats bothering him and help him to solve it.if it cant be helped then leave him be.maybe he will think about it and do something ABOUT IT
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2009): you sound like and my ex were, he would react the same way as your boyfriend and i would feel the way you do. we too found it hard to let go, and i loved him so much.
but... theres no use in telling you to let him go and move on, that will come inevitably anyway, what i will say is this... he will not change! just as you will not change from wanting to discuss things. so really its up to you and how long you would like to drag this out.
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