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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Today my boyfriend picked me up from work and he seen his friend driving around they also dated in the past but agreed to be friends. That is fine with me, the problem I have is when they pulled over to talk I was going to sign my time out sheet at work and as soon as I walked out she got really quiet and seemed jealous and I heard her giggling as I was running in to sign my sheet but when I came back out dead silence. I told my boyfriend she still has feelings for him. No one acts that awkward for nothing. So I asked my bf doesn't she have a boyfriend and he's like they just broke up. Now they are hanging out tomorrow and I know my boyfriend has feelings for her but she didn't want him back so he moved on. What should I think of this I have trust issues and I know my bf would feel the same if I tried hanging out with my ex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2012): How do you know he still has feelings for her, have you asked him and he's told you directly?
Anyway, if you have a bad feeling about them being together without you, then you should tell him you're uncomfortable with it and request he changes those plans.
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reader, Candid Cally +, writes (11 September 2012):
Tell him you will only be comfortable with them hanging out if you are there.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (11 September 2012):
 If he still has feelings for her he hasn't moved on, if he has moved on he doesn't still have feelings for her.
But you are right to be concerned, if she has just broken up with her boyfriend she may flutter her eyelids in a helpless female way and he may feel compelled to 'rescue' her in heroic fashion.
Let your boyfriend know you are uncomfortable with him hanging out for the day with his ex girlfriend. See what his reaction is, if he worries about your feelings and empathises you can relax a bit, but if he gets defensive or even angry at your words you could probably assume his feelings towards her are not platonic.
Good luck!
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