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writes:Hi,Hope you can help. I am in a new relationship with a guy. I am not very sexually experienced, so was nervous when we slept together for the first time.During our second time together in bed, we had lots of foreplay as I told him I did not want to have full sex right now as I was due on my period. Foreplay, lasted about two hours he did have a full erection, but I did notice at times he began rubbing his penis to stimulate himself.I was wondering whether a guy rubbing himself during foreplay is normal or whether this showed that I wasn't turning him on or he was perhaps having trouble maintaining an erection. As we could not have sex, I thought maybe his desire was disappearing as he knew he could not go all the way?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2012): Hey I think it is ok for two people who are comfortable with themselves and each other to touch themselves during foreplay. Its normal in my opinion and great that they feel comfortable to do it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2012): hahaha. why don't you touch him instead ? I am sure he will appreciate it very much.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (11 September 2012):
 nope it means he was touching himself because you were so hot that he needed to relieve more tension... you didn't want sex and he didn't want to push you so he figured he would take matters into his own hands...
sounds Normal to me.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (11 September 2012):
To be honest, I think you'll find he was having a great time with you. The other thing is that men can't really keep an erection for 2 hours. Blood can't run there all the time!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2012): Don't worry, it's really common and nothing to do with you or how attractive he finds you. All 3 of my partners have done this before at some point or another. I think it is partly because it is a natural response for guys to touch themselves when they are turned on (so much so that they might not even realise they are doing it) and also, as the above poster said, due to the fact the foreplay went on for quite a long time and that can be quite hard going (excuse the pun!) for guys. Either way, I actually find this to be a really good thing that they do this, especially at the beginning, as you can watch him to see how he likes to be touched and copy that when you next touch him. Oh, and he will most likely LOVE it if you play with yourself a bit too next time ;) All the best.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (11 September 2012):
 If the foreplay wasn't directly physically stimulating his penis, I don't know too many guys who wouldn't need that after that long! It's nothing to worry about at all.
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reader, Replacement  +, writes (11 September 2012):
 It can be excruciating to have an erection that lasts so long without any relief. It can be hard to sustain even if you are mentally aroused. Maybe in the future you could finish him off with your hand or mouth?
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